chados Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 she's been initiating contact 2 times through sms, she has been really curious about my life both times. after 1 month i called her, asked her if she wanted to grab a coffee, she accepted without any doubts from what i could hear, she actually sounded happy when we talked, she laughed when i laughed:) the phonecall couldn't have gone any better. even though i know this isn't the end i cant help getting my hopes up. whats your opinion of this? is this just a girls way to be overly nice or does she miss me?
perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I am glad someone on here has some great news I honestly think she misses you. As a girl, I don't do the whole "pity" date thing. If I really wasn't into a guy, I would insist that some friends come too or something. So I think that is a very positive sign for you! I hope all goes well with that. Be yourself and remind her why she fell in love with you in the first place
Author chados Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 I am glad someone on here has some great news I honestly think she misses you. As a girl, I don't do the whole "pity" date thing. If I really wasn't into a guy, I would insist that some friends come too or something. So I think that is a very positive sign for you! I hope all goes well with that. Be yourself and remind her why she fell in love with you in the first place haha i love your answer, thanks for replying:) this isn't a normal behaviour from someone who doesn't love you right?, i cant remember any other girl that has been this positive after we broke up
Author chados Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 (edited) btw.. should i wait for her to ask me when to meetup or should i do it myself? im starting to think she could be scared to call me even though i asked her out:) Edited November 21, 2011 by chados
Author chados Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 anyone else who could confirm this? i really dont know where to go from here, maybe she isn't gonna call me, do i dare break NC and ask her about a week from now?
kat27 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I agree that this sounds like it could be positive. I would wait until she contacts you maybe one or two more times and then ask her to meet up. She might be too afraid to ask you to meet up, but maybe give her a little more time before you do it.
Author chados Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 I agree that this sounds like it could be positive. I would wait until she contacts you maybe one or two more times and then ask her to meet up. She might be too afraid to ask you to meet up, but maybe give her a little more time before you do it. thanks kat, i just dont know what to do. she acted to positive i think, and that make me insecure. because i thought it was going to be akward. i mean she goes to school every week 2hours away from here. so the only change for the meetup would be on friday/saturday/sunday if im not going to her apartment of course, but that would be a mistake. what if she waits until i call her.
ChelseaLS Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 thanks kat, i just dont know what to do. she acted to positive i think, and that make me insecure. because i thought it was going to be akward. i mean she goes to school every week 2hours away from here. so the only change for the meetup would be on friday/saturday/sunday if im not going to her apartment of course, but that would be a mistake. what if she waits until i call her. How did the conversation end? Did you say "I'll call and let you know when''? Or anything like that... I think in a way if you were to call her you would be taking control back, but you may sound needy as well... so I would go from how the conversation ended.
Author chados Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 How did the conversation end? Did you say "I'll call and let you know when''? Or anything like that... I think in a way if you were to call her you would be taking control back, but you may sound needy as well... so I would go from how the conversation ended. the conversation went kinda like this. she called me up really fast, we said hi! of course:) she asked me what was on my mind, i asked her, i just wanted to ask if you would like to grab a coffee some day, are you free sunday?, she said with a sad tone, im working that day. then she said, but we can talk later and decide when to meet. i said sure. then she said, a lot of things has happened in your life. i said yeah alot is happening. she said, thats is great. "cant remember anything more right now". and then we ended the call with, take care. normally she's kinda quiet in the phone, i've always had problem to hear what she was going to say but not this time, she had a strong voice. positive and happy, and she laughed. what would you make out of this then chelsea?
Author chados Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 the conversation went kinda like this. she called me up really fast, we said hi! of course:) she asked me what was on my mind, i asked her, i just wanted to ask if you would like to grab a coffee some day, are you free sunday?, she said with a sad tone, im working that day. then she said, but we can talk later and decide when to meet. i said sure. then she said, a lot of things has happened in your life. i said yeah alot is happening. she said, thats is great. "cant remember anything more right now". and then we ended the call with, take care. normally she's kinda quiet in the phone, i've always had problem to hear what she was going to say but not this time, she had a strong voice. positive and happy, and she laughed. what would you make out of this then chelsea? anyone else?
69ways Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Read my threads, had similar story , mine even panicked about me not been single anymore. Guess what? Still not together after 10 months and her initiating contact. Nothing is sure but one thing is. If she finds another guy , you are history and so am i. Personally , I believe she misses you....
Author chados Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Read my threads, had similar story , mine even panicked about me not been single anymore. Guess what? Still not together after 10 months and her initiating contact. Nothing is sure but one thing is. If she finds another guy , you are history and so am i. Personally , I believe she misses you.... i just dont know what to do, do i call her again and just act normal, or do i wait? i just feel that she might be incapable of calling me. i do believe that it depends on how it ended and if youre going to make a change with your life. well at least be the guy she fell inlove with.
Author chados Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 al right time for update i send her a text, this is what happened she got school until friday, in another town.. and she sometimes work here in my hometown. and i didn't know where she was gonna be friday. and since im going to the town where her school is on friday i wanted to know if she was there. text message C is gonna be me, and E is gonna be her C: hi are you awake? E: yes:) C: i might go to your town this friday, i will know tomorrow, are you going to be there? E: okey:) yes i think so C: i was thinking, since im going there, are you up for that coffee?, "as you can read above she accepted it before" E: cant tell you now if i can. but we can talk when you arrive:), what are you going to do here? C: im gonna stay at a hotel, what are you going to do? E: what are you going to do there? "notice she didnt answer my question" C: im gonna be with J , K and O E: yeah but why are you going to stay at the hotel? C: well partying and stuff like that:) E: al right, how did you come up with that? C: J asked me to go, we where there last winter to. E: okey that sounds fun:) C: yeah:) why so curious? what are you going to do?, its just one hour or so "talking about coffee":) E: you know im always curious:), im going away both friday and saturday, and my brother is coming, but we can talk friday/saturday:) C: if you dont want to i understand:) im not going to be mad about it E:i just want to see this weekend and se how things fit in:), sounds strange but thats the way im working C: why so tricky? no i understand E: no nothing, i just mean we can see then:) give me a call and we'll se then:) C: if im going i will:) E: sounds great:) C: yes:) end of conversation, notice she didn't say anything after that, probably because i have ended the conversations kinda quick before. i can see this in in two different ways. she's either not "that interested to see me", got better things to do, since everyone got 1 hour for a coffee, or i've manage to ignore her to much, so she's insecure about me. she did sound happy when we talked in the phone, so i do feel mixed signals, i dont know but she might be testing me, and she might think that there's other girls. she might even be testing me to see why i want to see her. well this sucks, where do i go from here? i hate texting, damn i should have called..
punkinless Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 either she uses smileys too much or shes really happy. she says more than once she wants to talk to you. way better than coffee if u ask me. DO NOT let her just waltz back into your life overnight. make sure one way or another she knows ur single. don't be desperate. yadayada. hopefully talk b4 you party and then invite her (if you want) but don't get drunk and say i love you and start makin babies. i'm sure you knew this but sometime you gotta be told. lol
punkinless Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 you shouldn't have made it so obvious that you really wanted to see her. u can hint it but its an act of desparity. reverse psycology. if you act not all that interested then she'll be like wtf? and be even more interested. JMHO.
Author chados Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 either she uses smileys too much or shes really happy. she says more than once she wants to talk to you. way better than coffee if u ask me. DO NOT let her just waltz back into your life overnight. make sure one way or another she knows ur single. don't be desperate. yadayada. hopefully talk b4 you party and then invite her (if you want) but don't get drunk and say i love you and start makin babies. i'm sure you knew this but sometime you gotta be told. lol this is to me a mixed signal. and yes sometimes you need to get another persons perspective:) thank you for that i just want to see this weekend and se how things fit in, sounds strange but thats the way im working
punkinless Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 idk about you but wink faces were never, and i mean NEVER, a bad thing. lol.
Author chados Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 idk about you but wink faces were never, and i mean NEVER, a bad thing. lol. true, but damn man, i told myself do not contact her, easier said then done. i dont even know if im going there now, because if she isn't testing me, then she dont wanna see me right now, and well that would suck. here i am telling you DO NOT CONTACT , what do i do? exactly the opposite, but its just those mixed signals. even if i think i did manage to keep the conversation in a not needy way. it could still be a huge problem
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