jobaba Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Lots of unsuccessful men posting here in the short time I've been around (and I am one). A lot of them basically have a similar attitude. And I've got to say ... not many people seem to care or want to help them. Which is fine. People are usually in the mindset that their own problems are the only problem. But I have been one, and will always be one (even though I've gotten some), and will always try and help. And today, I just thought of something. So, anyway, my short and sweet advice to turn some of the bitterness and negativity around (part of it is permanent), is to think back... Think back to a time where you had what seemed like a decent chance at a woman and you wussed out. Personally, I can think of quite a few. -There was a girl in college who asked me to dance out of a whole party of people. She was REALLY short and my friends were laughing at me, so I stopped. -There was another girl in college who would always come up to where I worked the administrative desk at the dining hall and ask stupid questions about the food. None of the other students even spoke a word to me. She seemed nervous too. I thought she was kinda cute. -I took a week long class with a girl who on the last day sat down next to me and started stroking my knee and hair. I wussed out and later pulled a stalkerish type move of looking up her phone number online and calling her. That went as would be predicted. There's others too. In each of these cases, I reasoned that either she wasn't too cute or she wasn't really into me. Just being friendly. Was there a chance I would have been rejected each time? Sure. Would I have been all over each of those chances today? You bet. See ... guys like us can't stand around and wait for what we want like the rest of the people. If a decent opportunity comes along, you have to take it. See if a relationship buds out of it instead of reasoning against making a move. I'm sure all of you guys have similar stories if you search. It will help you get out of the mentality of "It's not my fault."
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