one goal Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Not the one that was in my group project. I dropped that class. There is another hottie at school I talk to. See Its my first year at this university since I transferred from another college. Anyways first year students have like fellow student leaders. They are students who are sophmores, juniors, seniors who basically like hangout with students on activities, people to talk to that are our age. Anyways mine is a super hottie. Super nice girl, flirty, and she's single! I do text her from time to time and we usually text for an hour or two each time. I don't see her much because of my class schedules except for last week cause her, another leader, her friend and a couple of us guys went out for haunted house. I was too nervous to ask her if she wanted to go out sometime though. However I asked her one time if she wanted to go see her favorite hockey team when they're in town and she sounded excited. Anyways I texted her the other day saying I had fun, and asked if the other leader had a bf because she was cute, and she does she said. I asked her if we could hangout sometime and do something and she didn't text back. I texted her about something other day again and asked if we could hangout and she kinda beat arounf it. Yesterday I talked to her for a couple hours about school and I apologized to her if I sounded persistant which I didn't mean to. I just told her that I honestly liked her and shes the nicest girl I've met at school so far, and told her I wanted to get to know her better and that and talked about other stuff too. I mentioned to her it was kinda hard to meet girls at school and that. She did make a comment to others when were out last week about hanging out again and she didn't mention me. I kinda called her out on it too. She said it was a misunderstanding and she said she was sorry. This girl hasn't gotten mad at me, and when i text her she like talks and hour or two at a time!! and shes real friendly like hugs and that. Is there any way like maybe over winter break I can ask her if she wants to go hangout somewhere and do something together? I mean she talks to me and is not repulsed as of yet.
Cracker Jack Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 She's not interested. Read that, one goal, and understand it. And again, a woman talking to you and not being repulsed means nothing.
Professor X Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Sigh.. Here we go again... P.S. Key word: "yet"
counterman Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 As the others have said, she's not interested. Leave her alone. You've already asked her out and she clearly doesn't want to hang out. If she does, she'll ask you to hang out. Look, I get it, I've been there where I've asked girls to hang out and they didn't respond, but you know what? I moved on pretty much straight away and next time I saw them it was all friendly and I didn't take it personally. IMO, being persistent when a girl clearly doesn't want to hang out with you is harassment... and that's why I never ask twice. She heard you the first time, what makes you think asking her again would help?
Imageiko Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I have a feeling if you tattoo her name in big letters on your chest then show it to her she'll fall madly in love with you and you'll live happily ever after.
whichwayisup Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Not the one that was in my group project. I dropped that class. There is another hottie at school I talk to. See Its my first year at this university since I transferred from another college. Anyways first year students have like fellow student leaders. They are students who are sophmores, juniors, seniors who basically like hangout with students on activities, people to talk to that are our age. Anyways mine is a super hottie. Super nice girl, flirty, and she's single! I do text her from time to time and we usually text for an hour or two each time. I don't see her much because of my class schedules except for last week cause her, another leader, her friend and a couple of us guys went out for haunted house. I was too nervous to ask her if she wanted to go out sometime though. However I asked her one time if she wanted to go see her favorite hockey team when they're in town and she sounded excited. Anyways I texted her the other day saying I had fun, and asked if the other leader had a bf because she was cute, and she does she said. I asked her if we could hangout sometime and do something and she didn't text back. I texted her about something other day again and asked if we could hangout and she kinda beat arounf it. Yesterday I talked to her for a couple hours about school and I apologized to her if I sounded persistant which I didn't mean to. I just told her that I honestly liked her and shes the nicest girl I've met at school so far, and told her I wanted to get to know her better and that and talked about other stuff too. I mentioned to her it was kinda hard to meet girls at school and that. She did make a comment to others when were out last week about hanging out again and she didn't mention me. I kinda called her out on it too. She said it was a misunderstanding and she said she was sorry. This girl hasn't gotten mad at me, and when i text her she like talks and hour or two at a time!! and shes real friendly like hugs and that. Is there any way like maybe over winter break I can ask her if she wants to go hangout somewhere and do something together? I mean she talks to me and is not repulsed as of yet. Man, you over think stuff and already causing drama. I wish you could just go with the flow and chill out, let things progress naturally instead of being too pushy (calling her out on something etc..) ..
GorillaTheater Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Call her frequently, send flowers and hand-written poetry, and spend significant amounts of time on her doorstep. You'll win her heart for sure.
Lucky_One Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Hint: If you like a girl, then don't tell her that her friend is cute and ask if she has a BF. The girl you like now thinks that you like her friend, and EVEN if she liked you as a possible romantic interest, she will now think that she is the consolation prize (sort of like winning a goat behind Door #3).
AHardDaysNight Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 You have some serious issues, onegoal. Please get therapy.
Author one goal Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Hint: If you like a girl, then don't tell her that her friend is cute and ask if she has a BF. The girl you like now thinks that you like her friend, and EVEN if she liked you as a possible romantic interest, she will now think that she is the consolation prize (sort of like winning a goat behind Door #3). I only talked to her a little today. I did tell her I probably talk to her too much and will cut back. Figure make it sound like I'm not desperate. I told her i liked her before and that. I do want to ask her out though again in the future a actual date. Is it okay if I cool down and later on ask? should I also be honest and tell her I like her and why?
Author one goal Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Also Everyone says to try other girls so thats why I was asked this girl instead of keep bugging the one in the class I had that i dropped.
LexiB Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Hint: If you like a girl, then don't tell her that her friend is cute and ask if she has a BF. :laugh: OneGoal, you make me smile. You do. You do, you do, you do.
LexiB Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 (edited) Also Everyone says to try other girls so thats why I was asked this girl instead of keep bugging the one in the class I had that i dropped. Well this is a [slight] sign of progress. So, here you've acknowledged that you already asked her out. You're aware she said no. Apply what you've learned from your experience with the previous class "hottie" and MOVE ON. Again. Dating is a process and there's gonna be a lot of rejection. You can't keep trying to plan a "comeback" with every girl who turns you down. Just keep it moving. Edited November 1, 2011 by LexiB
Author one goal Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Well this is a [slight] sign of progress. So, here you've acknowledged that you already asked her out. You're aware she said no. Apply what you've learned from your experience with the previous class "hottie" and MOVE ON. Again. Dating is a process and there's gonna be a lot of rejection. You can't keep trying to plan a "comeback" with every girl who turns you down. Just keep it moving. this girl didn't say NO though. Just didn't give an answer and tried avoiding it. and when I said sorry for being so persistant asking her to hangout with me she said it was okay no worries.
LexiB Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 this girl didn't say NO though. Just didn't give an answer and tried avoiding it. and when I said sorry for being so persistant asking her to hangout with me she said it was okay no worries. That's the same thing.
counterman Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 That's the same thing. Most of the time, girls won't give you a direct no. Avoiding giving you an answer, not giving an answer at all, pretending that you never asked, trying to come up with an excuse, saying she's "busy" without further explanation or following up, saying she'll get back to you but never does, trying to avoid after you've asked and many others all equate to NO. If it gets to the point that this particular girl says no, you've already frustrated her and there would be probable resentment. At least if you move on now and talk to other girls, you can still be friends with this girl. If you keep persisting, you'll scare her off if you haven't done so already. For future references, I wouldn't tell a girl that it's hard to meet other girls and I wouldn't ask her if her friend has a boyfriend. I also wouldn't tell her I liked her because you basically imply your interest when you ask her out, no need to literally say it. Also, I wouldn't apologise. If I am interested in a girl, I ask her out and if she doesn't want to, that's totally fine. No biggie
Mrlonelyone Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 This girl hasn't gotten mad at me, and when i text her she like talks and hour or two at a time!! and shes real friendly like hugs and that. Is there any way like maybe over winter break I can ask her if she wants to go hangout somewhere and do something together? I mean she talks to me and is not repulsed as of yet. The bolded things jump out at me. A woman who would do that has at least a friendly interest in you. I mean she hugs out and talks for a couple hours (Is it just you talking and her listening? That's different.) Here is what you should do. Ask her out one more time..JUST ONE MORE TIME... if she says yes, and shows up great! If she does not then drop it. Look at it in these terms.... even in baseball a guy gets at least three swings...you have taken two. You haven't struck out just yet.
Author one goal Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 The bolded things jump out at me. A woman who would do that has at least a friendly interest in you. I mean she hugs out and talks for a couple hours (Is it just you talking and her listening? That's different.) Here is what you should do. Ask her out one more time..JUST ONE MORE TIME... if she says yes, and shows up great! If she does not then drop it. Look at it in these terms.... even in baseball a guy gets at least three swings...you have taken two. You haven't struck out just yet. Well the Cardinals were down to their last strike in game 6 and Berkman, and Freese got hits. Also she hugs everyone. Guys or girls she knows.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 this girl didn't say NO though. Just didn't give an answer and tried avoiding it. and when I said sorry for being so persistant asking her to hangout with me she said it was okay no worries. That was an indirect way of saying no. I'd like everyone to know that onegoal has a history of stalking and harassing women. He is banned from hockey games for stalking women there, and has been given a restraining order against a female celebrity singer who he is obsessed with. He will not listen to reason, and he is mentally unstable. All of his threads end up the same. One of these days, he will end up in jail.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 That was an indirect way of saying no. I'd like everyone to know that onegoal has a history of stalking and harassing women. He is banned from hockey games for stalking women there, and has been given a restraining order against a female celebrity singer who he is obsessed with. He will not listen to reason, and he is mentally unstable. All of his threads end up the same. One of these days, he will end up in jail. Woah there.... "stalking" in a serious allegation which unless tested in a court of law one cannot call it a "history of stalking". Writing love notes and such to women does not make one a stalker. Leaving dead animals, and hiding in womens tress to peep at them is stalking. Looking at someones facebook isn't stalking. Hijacking someones facebook and taking control of it from them is stalking. Persistent pursuit until a clear signal of NO isn't stalking. (Not responding isn't a clear no signal it's a cop out.) Persistent pursuit after a clearly worded no is harassment and could be stalking.
Author one goal Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 I've never been banned from games rofl. jeez people make up crazy things.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 I forget the poster who dug up that information, but it was part of a criminal record. You can't just erase that, onegoal. Irregardless, I feel bad for what you are, and I will pray for you.
Author one goal Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 I forget the poster who dug up that information, but it was part of a criminal record. You can't just erase that, onegoal. Irregardless, I feel bad for what you are, and I will pray for you. Nope, no record. Never been arrested or anything. If they continue, I'll contact my lawyer.
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