yzyzyz325 Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 (edited) here is the my story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t286968/ i know many of you already warned me not to text my ex on her b'day. But sorry guys, I did not take your advices which I shud have done. Last night, I eventually had the courage to text her. I ket the message short and brife, not showing my emotions. I only texted 'happy birthday and good luck to your study'. What surpried a lot is, she applied almost immediately: 'Thanks **(my name) how have you been? I hope everything is well for you' Well, this is sth new, last time we text was two wks after the breakup, i wished her good luck for assignment, and she did not even asked me anything, just said thanks and wished me good luck. Now, it's been almost half year, at least she asked me how i was going. i was kinda happy, but it still took me 1 hr to reply her bcoz i didnt know wat to say. i texted: 'i'm good, busy learning many new things. i hope u had a great day.' And that's the end. I never got her message back again. I didnt have a good sleep last night bcoz i was waiting for her reply. This morning, i finally checked her facebook which i have not visited for months. I found she almost replied the same to every b'day message from ppl who she was not so close to. i realised that she did not care how i was going, it's just her polite and 'fake' friendly way. I felt quite hurt after I discovered that, to me, she is still quite special, but to her, I am just nothing. Yes, to those who was thinking abt b'day texting ur exs, I advise u not to do that. The last thing u need from her/him is the fake friendly reply when s/he actually doesn't care abt u Edited October 30, 2011 by yzyzyz325
Author yzyzyz325 Posted October 30, 2011 Author Posted October 30, 2011 if they really miss you or care about you, they would have texted you already
R32 Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 The problem with texting them on any occasion is that you are expecting some sort of reply. Even if she did reply, if it wasn't what you were expecting to hear, you feel disappointed. If you texted her without care, or expectation you wouldn't feel this way.
Author yzyzyz325 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Ahhh you should have stayed NC. Now you are set back a few pegs . I was telling my roommate the other day not to text his ex on her bday but he didn't listen to me either and he got all depressed for a week. I hope this doesn't happen to you. Forget about your ex and worry about numero uno for now Keep your chin up you'll make it out just fine! Cheers! Yes, you are right, it just brought everything back into my head. It's killing me when I saw the flirting (only to me maybe) message posted on her wall by some new guy friend. looks like they are quite close to each other already. D***t, i shud never visit her facebook ever again!!!!!
Author yzyzyz325 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 SOME UPDATEs Well, she texted me back one day later: 'Yeh, i had a good bday dinner with mum and sister at the restaurant i used to work in. it's very late but congrats on getting a job and pr!' I know the restaurant, bcoz i was with her when she had interview there. The point is, I got my job 3 months after the breakup, and i only posted that on my facebook. I thought she would never check my facebook, but now she actually knew i got my job, does that mean she checked my facebook? or, does that mean she still cares a bit? Anyways, i was going to say thx and it means a lot to me. But then i felt it's too emotional, so i just replied: 'yes, it's kinda late thx a lot, have a good day and study hard' Was that a nice reply? And why did it take one day for her to reply me?
LovelyDaze Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 SOME UPDATEs Well, she texted me back one day later: 'Yeh, i had a good bday dinner with mum and sister at the restaurant i used to work in. it's very late but congrats on getting a job and pr!' I know the restaurant, bcoz i was with her when she had interview there. The point is, I got my job 3 months after the breakup, and i only posted that on my facebook. I thought she would never check my facebook, but now she actually knew i got my job, does that mean she checked my facebook? or, does that mean she still cares a bit? Anyways, i was going to say thx and it means a lot to me. But then i felt it's too emotional, so i just replied: 'yes, it's kinda late thx a lot, have a good day and study hard' Was that a nice reply? And why did it take one day for her to reply me? Why did it take a day? More than likely, you were not an immediate priority. Lay down at night in the quiet and REALLY think what you want out of all of this stuff. Are you looking to rekindle the relationship? If so, I have a bad feeling you are about to put yourself through an emotional roller coaster that you don't deserve. Don't kid yourself that you just want to be friends either. What do you truly want in your deep heart of hearts?
Insentive Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 well, when i broke up w my bf, i always checked his FB, i also texted him back when he texted me. Though i guess i shouldn't have done that, he thought he'll get anoth chance, but i just felt sorry, just wanted to know if he's okay, noth else. So if it still hurts you when you think ab her, delete everyth from your memory, don't text her ever! she's nob for you and won't ever come back! there's no maybe here, she won't! it's better for you to let it go, i know it hurts, but there's no oth way, i believe you can find smo you'll feel good with n who'll help you forget. Text advice you can get at TheNextText.com
Author yzyzyz325 Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 thx Insentive, even so ur reply almost killed me i know i have to move on, but there are so many confusing questions in my head which hard to let go anyway, i stopped visiting her facebook again
sunflower11 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 hi yzyzyz, my ex's bday is coming up next week and i have been wondering about texting him or not. i've decided that i wont, he doesnt deserve that from me even though i do feel kind of..mean i guess. Anyway, i was reading the thread and i thought back to an article i read on baggage reclaim, how you shouldnt look too much into things, like the text she sent and how she probably looked into your facebook. don't know if it even applies to your situation ..but here is the link http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/its-just-cake-why-you-should-be-careful-of-reading-too-much-into-things/ Maybe it will help you if you are thinking why did she take so long to reply, why is she looking at your fb, does she stil care? what does it all mean? so i just wanted to share and it might be helpful
ChelseaLS Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I don't agree with that... Look at all the people here dying inside when their dumper texts them... Some of them wait to text back. Just because your ex is the dumper doesn't mean they don't care all of a sudden. They are hurting too, they were just better prepared for the pain then the dumpee ( as the dumper had time to think about it before they did the dumping)
Author yzyzyz325 Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 that;s mature dumper, but my ex is extremely immature. She made decision only based on her emotions. She didnt even think of why she wanted to call off until i asked her. She doesnt feel guilty because she got what she wants, freedom, having fun and being responsibility free
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