ffw Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Hello everyone, I want to ask one question out of curiosity. Lets say your gf left you for GIGS, fell out of love, etc.. She got in another relationship for some time and is now interested in coming back to you. Lets say she found not grass is not greener on the other side or she got dumped. So my question is how many of you will be willing to take your ex-gf back? The reason I am asking this question is because in most of all the LS forums I am observing a trend that most men will not take their gf once they shared bed with someone else. One person went as far as saying "a gf is like a chew gum". Will you take a chew gum from other person's mouth? Whats your opinion?
arbrne_vet Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I will say most defiantly NO! If she left because of GIG syndrome, what is to stop her from leaving again. I always told my ex, i am on the greener side of the fence.
EgoJoe Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 It would depend on alot more than the information you've provided for me.
Author ffw Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 (edited) It would depend on alot more than the information you've provided for me. Its a general question. Its difficult to elaborate more because every case is different. Edited October 7, 2011 by ffw
othersideofthepillow Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Like EgoJoe said, it really depends on a lot of things. It's also true what arbrn_vet said cause you never will know if they will just up and leave you again. and is she just running to me cause she now feels how she made me feel....there are so many variables with everyones situation its hard to say For me, if my current ex (the woman that i still love and am trying to move on from) showed genuine regret and remorse for causing all that pain to me than i would say that the conversation to start again can than be talked about but def not jumping in with both feet right off the bat.
lonelynyc Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Hello everyone, I want to ask one question out of curiosity. Lets say your gf left you for GIGS, fell out of love, etc.. She got in another relationship for some time and is now interested in coming back to you. Lets say she found not grass is not greener on the other side or she got dumped. So my question is how many of you will be willing to take your ex-gf back? The reason I am asking this question is because in most of all the LS forums I am observing a trend that most men will not take their gf once they shared bed with someone else. One person went as far as saying "a gf is like a chew gum". Will you take a chew gum from other person's mouth? Whats your opinion? I don't know, that's a kind of misogynistic phrase. If we expect our girlfriends or the women we pursue to have zero or just a few previous sexual partners and don't hold ourselves to the same standard we're hypocrites. The fact that they had sex with other people in the past shouldn't deter us. If a girl in her early 20s tells you she's a virgin or has only been with 1 guy, unless you have some concrete corroborating evidence, don't believe it... But I digress. I know personally that I would be insulted if my ex came back to me after striking out with other people. I don't want to be a last resort and neither should any of you. The relationship won't work in the future because the problems that caused it to end the first time haven't been resolved and she's only with you out of desperation, so yeah, that's my stance.
NordicStripes Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Lonelynyc, where do you get that from? When i was 22, i had only been with 1 guy. i am now 25, and now i have been with two. ever. and i don‘t think i am unattractive or unsociable... some people just choose not to give it all just away
RockGuy87 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 If I could be 100% sure there was no other dude, maybe if she was remorseful. Otherwise hell no.
Rorschach64 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 It depends on if she learned anything from this, ready to travel down a road that will be harder to traverse than the rockies, who she was with, the REAL reason why she left.blah blah. All of our exs were with someone before us, so why does it matter now?
antz2411 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 men will not take their gf once they shared bed with someone else. One person went as far as saying "a gf is like a chew gum". Will you take a chew gum from other person's mouth? Whats your opinion? as men we should hold ourselves to a very high standard, never accept anything tainted.
R32 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Not gonna be a tough guy..... Honestly I probably would. But she would need to be pretty remorseful, realize what she did, and have a plan of action as to how things will be different.
antz2411 Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 its not about being tough.. its about not letting someone think they can just walk all over you.
TheDovic Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 I am really starting to see my relationship for what it was as opposed to what I thought it was. Today especially random thoughts have been running through my head with regard to how selfish my ex was and how badly she treated me. I read on the GIGS thread a few months ago how ex's are likely to come back but reconciliation is rare due to the hurt they've caused, but I thought I'd jump at the chance to take her back. However if I keep thinking like I have been today, I'd say I probably wouldn't take her back! Honestly don't know how I'd feel if she slept with someone else. Don't imagine I could ever be comfortable with her again if this happened though! PS, it's nice to see things logically for once as this last few months she's been perfect in my eyes!
ken_25 Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Nope, she walks away from me to screw someone else, that's a wrap.
mike588 Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 In my case my ex g/f dumped me for her ex.,,,, so it's like she hasn't been with him before. As far as taking her back,,,, well at 1st I would of but now after 2 months,,,,,,,,,, NO!
leoc1973 Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Hmm I don't know. My ex is smoking hot! But seriously I think if she had come back a month or so ago I would have but its weird I woke up one day and just didn't have the energy to miss her anymore. I have met some really nice girls lately so the ex is off her pedestal. Its funny how when you are hurting you look at her and think she is a 10 when she is only an 8. Hehe well maybe 8.5 but I will round down in her case. I think the way to get over an ex is you really have to date. Whether it works out or not you have to interact with other girls. Good luck and get out of the house!
silly_panda Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 If the reason of the break up is because she left me for someone else, then no...
LelouchIsZero Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 If a girl in her early 20s tells you she's a virgin or has only been with 1 guy, unless you have some concrete corroborating evidence, don't believe it... But I digress. What if a guy in his early 20s told you that he was a virg/only been with 1 girl, would you believe him?
SoulFinger Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 What if a guy in his early 20s told you that he was a virg/only been with 1 girl, would you believe him? That depends on the person...you can't generalise really.Most guys probably had more girls but like some girls there are still guys out there that haven't had many girlfriends/women. You need to take this face value.
broken-and-lost Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 I'd take her back wouldn't be bothered about who she'd been with, be more a case if we could put the past behind us, but she didn't leave because of gigs so it's different and it's never going to be an option either so mood point but i would
BrettLost Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 I'm feeling the chewing gum metaphor. A few threads mentioned taking her back, only to be screwed over relatively soonish anyway. All said they should have known better and let her go.
Woggle Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Hell no. If a woman ever wants to leave me especially for another guy she better damn well want it because there is no return.
PositiveNegative Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 Yes, but it would take large amounts of reasoning. She would pretty much have to write a term paper on why I should take her back. As far as partners after me I simply would not ask. We aren't together, she has every right to be with someone else.
lonelynyc Posted October 8, 2011 Posted October 8, 2011 What if a guy in his early 20s told you that he was a virg/only been with 1 girl, would you believe him? It all depends. Look, I know some people really do have a low number of partners well into their 20s, but that's not the norm, at least not in urban centers in the United States. I have friends who have only been with 1 or 2 people, but I know their story--one relationship for 5 to 6 years, extremely conservative religious upbringing minus the rebellion phase. If you're the exception, that's good for you, I'm not always talking about YOU, just general behavior I have witnessed. My point is that as men, unless we have only been with a low number of people too, we should not judge women for having been with more than 1 or 2 guys before us. To me, it's not a deterrent. Get tested, practice safe sex, we're all adults here. Really, people.
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