quietGuy13 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I've been going out with a girl(not romanticaly) but just out like friends and i won't kiss her cause i'm unexperienced but also because she's not from here so what's the point. But i just want to know when people go in dates, when do they kiss?
nottelling2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 If the energy is there to kiss then go for it, don't feel forced or fake. For my current boyfriend I kissed on the first date; but the previous boyfriend we didn't kiss until after like over a month. And I know some people who haven't kissed until they got married. There are no set rules, just go with your gut.
Andy_K Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 First date. Preferably before the end of the date, but if it's not suitable then at the end of the date is fine too. The only exception to this would be if it's an existing friend or acquaintance and the line for what is a 'date' becomes a lot more blurred.
somedude81 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I don't see the point in kissing on the first date. Why would you want to kiss somebody you don't like yet?
rafallus Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I don't kiss... and tell. Why would you want to kiss somebody you don't like yet? Out of curiosity: how long does it take you to decide if you "like" the person?
somedude81 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 At least a couple of weeks. Kissing someone I have no feelings for just seems empty. Heck there is a reason why hookers don't like to kiss their clients.
oaks Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I don't see the point in kissing on the first date. Why would you want to kiss somebody you don't like yet? Maybe you (both) decide that you like each other before the end of the first date! Last girl I went on a date with - we kissed at the end of the first date. Previous girl I kissed: I think it was on the 4th date. quietGuy - there aren't any firm rules, although some girls will lose interested and assume you aren't interested in her if you don't try to kiss her 'soon enough', but how soon that is isn't the same for everybody, and for some people trying to kiss them too soon just ends up being awkward. Sorry, there isn't a manual for this. Probably not the answer you were hoping for.
simpsonic Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I usually wait till at least the second date. I personally think kissing on the first date is too soon. But yeah, no set rules on this though.
His4Always Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I've been going out with a girl(not romanticaly) but just out like friends and i won't kiss her cause i'm unexperienced but also because she's not from here so what's the point. But i just want to know when people go in dates, when do they kiss? Hi quietguy, Don't feel bad about being inexperienced. We all were at one time. Hey, since this girl is not from here, why not get some practice in? No harm in that is there?
rafallus Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 At least a couple of weeks. Kissing someone I have no feelings for just seems empty. Heck there is a reason why hookers don't like to kiss their clients. Quite a while to decide if you are attracted to her. This might scare plenty of them off. You probably should aim for more reserved/less sexual ones.
missed_theboat Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 If I like the guy, and we have chemistry and we're both willing--first date! If it takes a little longer for us to get into our chemistry, we'll see. I have done it on the first date, and I have also waited quite a while...
somedude81 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Quite a while to decide if you are attracted to her. This might scare plenty of them off. You probably should aim for more reserved/less sexual ones. I didn't say attracted. I said like. I don't base who I want to date on whether they are sexual or reserved. That's just too limiting.
iris219 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I typically kiss on the first date or never. If I don't want to kiss someone on the first date, I've never wanted to on a subsequent date. In other words, someone I'm not sure about on the first date has never grown on me on a 2nd or 3rd date enough to make me want to kiss them. Guys always seem to try to kiss me on the first date if I'm giving them the green light to. I've only had a couple guys try to kiss me when I didn't want to and wasn't giving any kiss me signals--and that's an awkward situation. Sometimes I kiss before the first date.
rafallus Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I don't base who I want to date on whether they are sexual or reserved. That's just too limiting. Dude, if you want to, you can find stuff that you like about the person not within weeks, but within minutes. You can just steer conversation to more personal grounds, and other person will probably tell you some story or what she does at some point. From that you can figure out, whether she is adventurous, nurturing, not afraid to speak her mind, or whatever other trait you look for. All you have to do is be observant enough.
CarrieT Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I had a guy whom I met the first time meet with a really deep, passionate kiss. Totally set the date and I was hooked. But I like Alpha men...
somedude81 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Dude, if you want to, you can find stuff that you like about the person not within weeks, but within minutes. You can just steer conversation to more personal grounds, and other person will probably tell you some story or what she does at some point. From that you can figure out, whether she is adventurous, nurturing, not afraid to speak her mind, or whatever other trait you look for. All you have to do is be observant enough. I'm not that good at really talking with women and steering conversations. But that is a topic for a different thread.
oaks Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I had a guy whom I met the first time meet with a really deep, passionate kiss. Totally set the date and I was hooked. But I like Alpha men... That was his greeting at the start of the first date? That guy has some balls.
karaoke Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 kiss her when it's right. whn you feel like she is attracted to you and she is ready
Beachgirl8 Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 It's been my experience that most guys try to kiss on the first date, so when a guy doesn't, it throws me off a bit. Last year I went out with this guy 4 times before I finally asked him if he was just not attracted to me or what? Because all he tried to do was hold my hand. (we are in our 30's) He laughed and said it was my fault because he thought I was "hard to read" and wasn't sure if I wanted him to kiss me. Which I found very strange because I was very attracted to him and I'm positive I was giving him good signals. I remember at the time calling my girlfriends to go over the dates and being really confused, asking them, do you think he just wants to be friends? Why does he keep asking me out if he's not attracted to me? It was perplexing. So my point is, if you DONT try to at least kiss the girl by the 2nd date at the latest she may assume you don't like HER. You don't have to make out with her or get all sexual or anything, but at least let her know your intention is dating and not friendship, killing time, etc.
verhrzn Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 I say 2nd date, 3rd if she's shy. I don't like kissing on the first date, as that does seem a bit early, you're still getting to know someone and feeling out your chemistry (unless there's been quite a bit of flirting, in person, leading up to the first date, then you're probably pretty safe.) If it's someone relatively new, wait to see how the 2nd date goes; if it seemed positive (she was laughing and you enjoyed yourself), go for it at the end. That seems the perfect balance to me-you two have spent enough time in each other's company to have a general idea if you're attracted, and it's early enough that if you try and she says no because 1) she wants to wait a little more, you can go for it on the 3rd date! or 2) she's not attracted to you, you won't end up wasting a lot of time on a dead end.
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