Fleabitten Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Sorry but I need to vent. Broke up on Monday - his decision. A while back when we were together I ordered some clothes for him online - they turned up Tuesday so because I'm a nice person I sent them on to him. No note or anything. No contact since Monday. In the middle of last night he texted me to say "Thanks for the underwear - I wore it as I got off with Wills friend. X" (yes, a kiss at the end). What the hell is he doing? Why does he feel the need to hurt me so much by telling me this? I don't know whether he did "get off" with someone or not but it hardly matters. I do not understand the evil and immaturity of this man. What is he trying to achieve?? I did not reply to him.
silly_panda Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 He was just trying to get your reaction... It's a good thing that you did not reply... Just ignore everything he says... And also everything that he does...
Author Fleabitten Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 He dumped me. It's a long story and we've both been bad to each other (no infidelity though, sex was always incredible) and I wanted us to try and sort things out. But he took the final decision (also said to never contact him again - which I haven't)
Buttercup84 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Sorry but I need to vent. Broke up on Monday - his decision. A while back when we were together I ordered some clothes for him online - they turned up Tuesday so because I'm a nice person I sent them on to him. No note or anything. No contact since Monday. In the middle of last night he texted me to say "Thanks for the underwear - I wore it as I got off with Wills friend. X" (yes, a kiss at the end). What the hell is he doing? Why does he feel the need to hurt me so much by telling me this? I don't know whether he did "get off" with someone or not but it hardly matters. I do not understand the evil and immaturity of this man. What is he trying to achieve?? I did not reply to him. What a loser.Send him some more but this time put some itching powder in the underwear
Mack05 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Flea do you still think guy is a prize lost! He is a moron!!! Why can't you see you are actually lucky to be rid of him. He has the immaturity of a 16 year old. Rise above him. Ignore him (and ALWAYS ignore him). It's going to hurt for awhile, but I promise you in 6 months you will say to yourself what the hell I was thinking! In the meantime read some books that I spoke to you about (especially how to break your addiction to a person). You will have enough suggestions in that book to help your recovery. If you do one favour for me Flea, get that book and read it.
shayla Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Delete everything of his, block everything and ignore that prick forever. Act like he never existed.
Author Fleabitten Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 I've ordered the book Mack and will def read it. This recent behaviour is just so evil and immature that it has made me angry rather than just sad, which feels a bit better. What a prize d!ckhead.
Besmy Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 But really Fleabitten, you bought underwear for him and you even had it delivered to him?? The underwear he is going to wear with some other chick? Buttercup84 is right, you should have put some itching powder in the underwear, AT LEAST! I would have given it to a charity shop and would have NEVER EVER given it to him. Do you really think he deserves presents from you right now? Please read my motto below: DON'T THROW PEARLS TO SWINE.
Besmy Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Ah sorry forgot, as for his "shakespearean" text msg: "Thanks for the underwear - I wore it as I got off with Wills friend. X" we don't know the gender of this "friend", do we? Option 1. The friend is male: no need to inform you that he is wearing your underwear. Just an excuse to contact you. Option 2: The friend is female. In this case he's such a loser who wants to hurt you. Don't you see???? As for the X that you interpret as a kiss, whatever! A X doesn't mean he loves you, it doesn't mean anything. Remember I told you this guy will pester you as long as he can and you allow him.
Author Fleabitten Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 Ah sorry forgot, as for his "shakespearean" text msg: we don't know the gender of this "friend", do we? Option 1. The friend is male: no need to inform you that he is wearing your underwear. Just an excuse to contact you. Option 2: The friend is female. In this case he's such a loser who wants to hurt you. Don't you see???? As for the X that you interpret as a kiss, whatever! A X doesn't mean he loves you, it doesn't mean anything. Remember I told you this guy will pester you as long as he can and you allow him. I bought him underwear and some other clothes as a present when we were still together - they just arrived this week. I sent them on to him mainly to show him I'm a better person than he is. There are no options - he "got off with" someone. As in he either had sex with them or he kissed/whatever. He is telling me only to be evil. Whether he actually did it or not - doesn't matter, he might have lied, but it makes no difference. He is a despicable human being for telling me about it. The "X" at the end wass of course not meant as anything other than to be even more hurtful. He didn't get a rise out of me as I didn't reply. There is nothing I can do other than not replying. Funnily enough this horrendous hurtful act makes it a LOT easier for me to begin to move on. I just pity the girls who are part of his future.
danceallday Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 What a douche. The text is an incredibly immature move on his part. Keep nc and focus on you.
Art_Critic Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I guess in hindsight maybe returning the clothes back to the store they came from would have been a better idea. Life is about learning and correcting mistakes we make along the way.. consider this a lesson.
shortee143 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 wow what a piece of garbage. Good for you not replying....a reaction is exactly what he wants. My ex got reactions from me, but I learned to not give them anymore. Go with the anger rather than sadness as best you can. Just keep reminding yourself to be thankful you arent with someone capable of acting like that!
spiderowl Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 (edited) The guy is immature and thoughtless. He found someone else but what an insensitive character he is. Would you really want someone who treats people like that? Who knows why he said this, other than that he is an idiot. I expect whoever he got off with will be treated to his insensitive stupidity at some point too. I know it hurts when someone breaks it off but sometimes it's in your interests that they do. Any relationship with this guy would have been a rollercoaster of wondering why the hell he is doing what he's doing. The thing with people doing incomprehensible things is that our brains have a desire to understand and make sense of it. Our brains want an explanation, closure. Unsolved problems nag at us. But trying to solve some puzzles is like asking why a two-year-old child squashed the ladybird he caught. He didn't know why either, he just did it. It's pointless and you need to let this puzzle go and drift away like a feather in the wind. Cut off contact with him and ignore any messages. Eventually, you will feel stronger for it as it puts you back in control. Good luck! Edited September 18, 2011 by spiderowl
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