beachwrangler Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 (edited) Alright my girlfriend of about 2 years broke it off last thursday. She is 21 and I am 24. We had an amazing relationship we did everything together. We traveled together, amazing sex life, best friends, we were everything to each other. We had our lifes planned out together and were taking the next step in less than three weeks Oct. 1st to be exact we were getting our own place. Things got rocky towards the last month of the relationship. She wasn't happy anymore and I could tell and was so stubborn and stupid to see it. I stopped doing all the small things that meant so much to her. I wasn't showing her the love and affection that I should've been showing. I regret it so much I love her so much and wish I had cherished every moment with that girl because she means the world to me. Now thats not to say its all my fault because she was very critical of me and always put me down. Now ever since the break up she has been in contact with me. She's texted me everyday saying how she didn't want this and was so excited for our plans together. She said she tried to return all the things we picked out for our apartment and she couldn't bring herself to do it because it meant so much to her. I of course let her know this isn't what I wanted either. On sunday we had dinner together to talk about things. We both cried and told each other how much we loved each other and really wanted things to work out between us. She is scared that things won't be fixed and that the relationship will only fail again. I told her that I realized what I was doing told her my mistakes I had made and wish it didn't take me this long to realize. It was a good talk there was no arguing and eventually we started smiling and laughing. We even kissed more than once and held each other and she said she felt better about us and didn't think it would be a crazy idea to think we would still move out together. So I took her home and let her know I had a good time tonight and pray that she gives us the chance because I know I can make her the happiest girl and I understand completely if she doesn't want to come back. She smiled and replied with thanks babe. Yesterday she texted me good morning and later asked how my day was going. I wanted to do something very small for her to show her I was ready to change my ways of taken her for granted and not showing the love she deserves. I just brought her, her favorite drink and snack by her work and told her I know your job can be stressful and just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you. I could tell she appreciated it and again another thanks babe text I replied with anything for you. That was at 2:30 pm yesterday and now havent heard anything since. Im so confused I thought we were on the right path. I'm not gonna do anything like that again I just know that will be on her mind and those small things just mean the world to her and know it will speak volumes to her that I am ready to be the guy she's needed me to be. I will continue to let her initiate all contact and will respond when she does because I don't think ignoring her will help my situation and will not be doing anything else to show her how I feel. She knows how I feel so would only annoy her to continue to show and tell her how I feel so now I'll I can do is be patient and give her time. It hurts so much not knowing what's gonna happen with us. Edited September 13, 2011 by beachwrangler
NordicStripes Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Maybe those things you do for her now are a really good thing! And maybe you should keep doing them! If she was just feeling unhappy or had doubts or anything, you being there for her now and making her feel certain that you are the right man for her could make things better between the two of you. Really, every girl wants to feel like a princess with man
silly_panda Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Man... I really envy you... You got the chance to show and prove to her that you are willing to change... What you are doing is fine... Just don't over do it... She needs time to figure out that you are for real this time around... Good luck...
Author beachwrangler Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 Well good news she texted me at 6:30 this morning so obviously I was running through her head when she woke up. She asked me if I wanted to hang out with her today. So of course I agreed to it. She seems excited about seeing me today. Im taking her out to eat at a place she loves that I only took her to once during our relationship. Then maybe walk around downtown and get a coffee or something. I am just gonna be myself which is a happy go lucky guy and show her a good time and remind her of what its like to be with me when I am not taking her for granted. I will not bring up the relationship and keep things light. Now if she does then yes of course I will be open to talking about us. Tonight to me is going to be a huge deciding factor on whether or not we get back together so this is the perfect opportunity to prove myself. I will post tonight and let you guys know how things went. Off to work.
flitzanu Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 you've got your head on straight. all you've said is the "best" thing to be doing, so keep it up. honestly i don't think i'd talk about the relationship even if she brings it up. explain you don't want to focus on the negative or the past?
othersideofthepillow Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Sounds like you have a positive outlook on things and hopefully things go well with your plans tonight. PLEASE tread carefully though. My ex dumped me about 2 1/2 months ago and still we are not back together. We have gone to dinner, to coffee, for a walk or two, and the movie at my place only to come to the realization that she no longer has "more than a friend" feelings for me. now no one can say whats really going on in my ex or your ex's head but after the break up i did the little things of being there for her, letting her initiate ALL contact, (she even came to my apartment when i didnt text back for a few days of me not responding to her) but it didnt worked out for me. Hopefully it turns works out for you and best of luck with your plans with your ex!
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