caseinpoint Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 What are the things that would stop you from starting a conversation or continuing a conversation with someone you meet online? With or without having seen their photos.
Author caseinpoint Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 Nobody has any dealbreakers to share?
SierraRose Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Nobody has any dealbreakers to share? Dealbreaker for me are conversations that are of sexual content. I also will not continue a conversation with someone who is married.
USCGAviator Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 N/A for car - Either you do or don't. If you don't you should probably get one cause I'm not gonna taxi you around. Profession is stay at home mom - That's real cute but I'm not gonna pay your way through life As much as women complain about loser guys online, I see just as many loser women as well.
cdm369 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Tried online dating. 2 different women over a period of a year and a half...not at the same time. I've found that people want to keep their account open after they get in a relationship. Apparently its addictive to lots of people
Arikel Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Tried online dating. 2 different women over a period of a year and a half...not at the same time. I've found that people want to keep their account open after they get in a relationship. Apparently its addictive to lots of people The bolded part! I agree, some people get addicted to it
CarrieT Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 In the early stages: Bad grammar or spelling. I know you 20- and 30-somethings live with "txt spk," but men my age should be able to construct a sentence. I won't respond to simple "How ya doin'?" opening lines. They have to engage me from the get-go. Sports fans. I am an admitted bit of a snob and want to spend my Sundays hiking, in museums or galleries, or something other than watching football. If a guy starts talking right off the bat about his favorite teams, we won't be a good match and there is no reason for me to try and continue dating someone like that. Children. I never wanted them and I don't want to be a stepmother. Part of why I date considerably older men; hopefully their children are grown and on their own. Smoking/Drug Use. I live in a 420-friendly state and I think I'm the only one who hates pot. Cigarettes are another deal-breaker.
grkBoy Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I'll be honest, even if I get labeled "shallow" for it, photos and location are the first two things I look at. I'm not saying she has to be a 8, 9, or 10, but if she's not good looking in my eyes I won't bother with her. Location is the second one. If she lives longer than a 45-min drive away, I'm not bothering with it. I know this is on other things, so I'll list some. If she has kids and crappy job. Like she has kids and works part-time in a clothing store or as a diner waitress.If she writes like she's looking to get married fast or is on a "schedule". She seemingly comes off as someone who wants to meet a guy, date for 6 months, get engaged, and get married a year later.She does a long drawn-out rant on how guys lie to her and won't commit. Spare me your drama...those words only say "I chase jerks and won't ever date a nice guy...so don't waste your time with me."She goes deep into how physical attraction is a must. Yes it sounds contradictory to my words on how photos are a key seller, but I'd never go on about it. Just look at the guy's photos, decide if you like him, and then reply or not. Stating it only tells me you're very shallow and that even average guys should not bother.She goes on and on about how her kids are her life. She can say she loves her kids and all, but if she's going to go long about how much they mean to her like somehow I'll ask her to ditch her kids and pretend to be childless...then I'll move on. I want to date you, not your kids. I'll date a single mom, but if she can't make time for me as a single woman, then I'm not going to bother.
oaks Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Nobody has any dealbreakers to share? A little impatient for replies, but we did this thread about 2 weeks ago.
duckrepair Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Married or "separated" men. Men with children living in their home with them. (I can't take care of children right now). Nor will I keep chatting with a guy that requests nudes or a webcam chat..I assume this will lead to him trying to cyber. No thanks. And no classy gentleman that call women b*tches in their profiles... i.e. "message me if you want, unless you're a b*tch like the last one!"
coolheadal Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I can't do other people kids stuff where the kids father will be always around somewhere. Can't pay her rent bills or send her money. I don't want to do that. Sex pictures of her chest is not required. That tells me she's nasty women and must have taken a lot of images of her naked body to show off to men online.
Osiris1234 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 1-She has no job 2-She is overweight 3-She has no car (gas,grass,or ass no one rides free) 4-Children (Only if she has more then 1 child, 1 child I can deal with).
Casablanca Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 If she... Smokes No Car Has a Kid Vegetarian (or pescatarian) Has no body shots and lists body type as curvy or average No goals/not working towards anything...being a Nanny at 23 and not going college is not attractive at all Is a country girl that wants to hunt and fish all the time (yeah Im okay with fishing and camping and 4 wheeling a couple times a year, but every other weekend, not me, I'm a city boy) And this doesnt apply to just online, but in general
D-Lish Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I wouldn't even engage someone without more than a couple pics. 1) Spelling mistakes. 2) Has pics of himself with other women (It betrays he's insecure). 3) Has pics of himself beside a fancy car (doesn't impress me- and again betrays insecurity). 4) Kids (I don't want the baggage). 5) Lists the longest relationship as being under 2-3 years when he's over 35 (Comittment phobic). 6) Shirtless pics.
Casablanca Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 2) Has pics of himself with other women (It betrays he's insecure). Men arent allowed to have female friends? I have a picture of me and one of my female friends because it is a good picture of me and if I try to crop it, it becomes way too blurry
D-Lish Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Men arent allowed to have female friends? I have a picture of me and one of my female friends because it is a good picture of me and if I try to crop it, it becomes way too blurry It's a deal breaker for me to see a man with a profile pic with another woman in it. So many women feel this way. We talk about it often. It's just wrong. It screams: "Look at me, I can attract other women"... And that's insecurity. Men can have female friends, I've never cared about that- but if you put a pic of yourself on a dating profile with a chick- you're going to lose out on the secure girls and attract the insecure ones. Males/Females should NEVER post pics of themselves with the opposite sex. It's just not appropriate. I might like their message initially- but will see a pic with some girl and immediately decide no response. A confidant man would never have to raise competition prior to meeting someone- Can't understand why dude's don't get that.
Nexus One Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 A confidant man would never have to raise competition prior to meeting someone- Can't understand why dude's don't get that. Lots of women do the same though. I've looked around on several dating websites and lots of women post photos of themselves with a guy that has an arm around them. I cant help but think that that must be either their boyfriend or ex. It's possibly a brother or a friend, but that's not a guy's first kneejerk reaction upon seeing a photo like that.
D-Lish Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Lots of women do the same though. I've looked around on several dating websites and lots of women post photos of themselves with a guy that has an arm around them. I cant help but think that that must be either their boyfriend or ex. It's possibly a brother or a friend, but that's not a guy's first kneejerk reaction upon seeing a photo like that. I've never done that- have you? If I posted a pic with my bro- I'd say- "me and my bro". Many guys post pics with girls that look like stripper's standing beside them.
Nexus One Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I've never done that- have you? If I posted a pic with my bro- I'd say- "me and my bro". Many guys post pics with girls that look like stripper's standing beside them. No I've never done that and wouldn't do it either if I ever decide to put up a profile, as it seems like a counter-intuitive if not counterproductive thing to do. I didn't know many guys did this though, but that's probably because I don't tend to look at the men sections of dating websites.
Woggle Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Some men get the idea that if they are seen with other women they look more attractive since women want a man that approved by other women. It's why some men wear fake wedding rings. I never did online dating but if I did the drunk flirty pictures in a club would be an instant turn off. Those are the types that will drink too much and ended up cheating with some guy she met at a club.
mr.dream merchant Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 It's a deal breaker for me to see a man with a profile pic with another woman in it. So many women feel this way. We talk about it often. It's just wrong. It screams: "Look at me, I can attract other women"... And that's insecurity. Men can have female friends, I've never cared about that- but if you put a pic of yourself on a dating profile with a chick- you're going to lose out on the secure girls and attract the insecure ones. Males/Females should NEVER post pics of themselves with the opposite sex. It's just not appropriate. I might like their message initially- but will see a pic with some girl and immediately decide no response. A confidant man would never have to raise competition prior to meeting someone- Can't understand why dude's don't get that. I can't say that there isn't any validity to what you've typed in the above quote. But to add my two cents here, I have one picture up on my online dating profile of me and another woman (a lover at the time) together at the beach. We're both cheek to cheek for the picture. Is this a picture of the sort that you are speaking of? I ask because I seek to increase my already growing success with online dating and I do plan on experimenting with what you've touched on here. I've taken the picture down and I will compare success prior to and after. And touch back here on this thread with the results.
green_tea Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 - Shirtless photos - Photos with their kids - Photos with anyone else in the picture in general - does the person know their photo is on a dating site?
oldguy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Off the top of my head a deal breaker would be; finding out the girl you've been talking to has been lying & his real name is Gus. But maybe that just me. Would a picture that included your retriever seem cheesy, even if he's really cute? :-P
Casablanca Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 It's a deal breaker for me to see a man with a profile pic with another woman in it. So many women feel this way. We talk about it often. The one I described isnt my profile pic, but is a pic I have uploaded, does that change things for you at all? Id never consider to use it as my main profile pic, it just comes off as odd (so we might have some agreement)
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