dicky_fish Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Here's an interesting but highly embarrassing topic for me. I've found that during my ups my sex drive returns, but all I can think about is her!? I feel like I'm going mental here!
ShatteredReality Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 During your ups? Are you bi-polar or suffering from depression? Well thinking of a past love is common...umm...are you having sex with someone else while you're thinking of her though? Maca Root can help maintain a healthy sex drive....
Author dicky_fish Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Depression. No I'm not sleeping with anyone else, like I say she's all I can think of so other women are a no no. Not for want of trying though
Buttercup84 Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Here's an interesting but highly embarrassing topic for me. I've found that during my ups my sex drive returns, but all I can think about is her!? I feel like I'm going mental here! Sorry about your depresion . I feel the same about my ex .
ShatteredReality Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I'm sorry you're going through this....I would say keep working on the depression for now - try to pull through it. As for the sexual stuff...try focusing more on the sensations and less on the visuals? Pay close attention to your breathing and the feelings.... And you can try the Maca - but if you're not having sex with anybody that might only make things worse - and I have heard it doesn't have as much of an effect if you're on antidepressants.
Author dicky_fish Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 I dunno really. I guess it's first love stuff. I'm a damn attractive guy, a little on the short side in regards to height and maybe a little tubby in some areas but I'm not grotesque. But she's the only one who's ever found me attractive in that way. I used to love how much she'd get off on being with me, even when I was at the biggest weight I've ever been she still loved me. Having a really hard time (no pun intended) right now cause I'm back in one of the cities we used to go to, and it's only a stone's throw away from her home town so I'm surrounded by a lot of triggers on my own in a slightly strange city. Sucks cause the hotel I'm staying in is just the kind we used to love. Nice big bed that's got a huge mirror in front of it. It's odd, when I was with her I'd sometimes wonder about being with another, but now we're apart I can't want or imagine anyone else. Wish the same could be said for her...
ChelleBelle Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Gosh, I never thought of that. I wonder if my X thinks about me and our sex. I wonder if he misses me that way. I am too broken and miserable to even go there. But if I saw him all the feelings would be there, as our sexual chemistry was very strong and I really fancied him. If met up with him, I would very probably end up in bed with him as I'd want to feel wanted, feel the intimacy and I fancy him. Best I don't see him and go there.
LelouchIsZero Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Its normal to feel like this, apparently. I'd tell you how long it took me to get over it, but I'm still going through the same thing & yes, said person was my first/first love as well. How long have the two of you been apart? as really the only things that can help, will be time & then a bit later down the track, finding someone else.
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