onyxangyll Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 (edited) OK i know i typed a thousand word essay here - didnt mean to - but pls pls pls read/comment as i really need advice on my relationship. thanks a million!!!! My bf and i have been in a relationship for almost a year now and during the past few months we have been arguing and fighting almost every time we talk. when we first met, he made up a few lies about who he was as a person to try to impress me, and later i found out the facts from his friends. It was hard for me to let go of the fact that he was dishonest, and that's mainly what we've been fighting about. also, he tried to use the "make ur girlfriend jealous so she'll love you more" method with me numerous times... but i cant help but think that its because he wants me? i fell really hard for him and when we first started dating, some of his friends were trying to convince him that i wasn't the girl for him.. but he broke off with them and doesnt that mean he loves me? i'm confused as to what to do.. i have no doubt that he loves me and he is faithful, but i dont know how to mend our broken relationship - i cant stand all the fighting, blaming, and (sometimes) denial from his end. he is convinced that everything is not as bad as i think it is.. and did apologize for lying but i still feel like he isnt taking me seriously. i tried talking to him about what i want from this relationship but he always manages to steer the conversation away from these topics. i have a tendency to get angry with him often.. but whenever i yell at him or say something hurtful that i regret later.. he never gets mad at me and doesnt even need me to apologize before he forgives me. i know he lied in the past but he is in his own way a very honest person, and this is the first guy that i could imagine spending the rest of my life with. so let me ask anyone and every1 who is out there reading this post... how do you break up with a person who loves you and u love him back? i feel like breaking up is the only way... because for the past 3 months i've been trying to mend this relationship and it hasnt worked. please feel free to respond and let me in on ur thoughts cuz i'm stuck! thanks!! <33 Edited August 25, 2011 by onyxangyll
wilsonx Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 Its going to be the hardest thing you are ever going to do in your life. I am not kidding, if you honestly love him and he honestly loves you then you should fix whatever problem there is. I am curious as to what the lie is that you CANT LET IT GO for a year. You said he did apologize.
Author onyxangyll Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 When we first met he fibbed about things like his family, having more money than he did (but it's not the money i care about, seriously), small things like that. its not that i'm disappointed with things like when he says he plays guitar in a band and really doesnt - he apologized but i feel like he's always exaggerating still and therefore we don't have an honest relationship. so its not that i'm not willing to let go of the mistakes made in the past... more like i want to get him to change? but cant seem to.
Nohbody Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 If you love someone, you would do anything for that person. If you plan to break up with someone for doing anything short of infidelity, abuse, not loving you in return, etc... one might be inclined to question the depth of your love.
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