mortensorchid Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 I am considering something, but I feel really stupid considering this. In fact, I feel like I'm back in the 8th grade or something, but then again do we really grow up? Let me explain ... A few years ago, I was sitting in a bar with a female friend when I she points out someone across the room. I had seen him at a party or two over the years, we had never said anything besides "Hi how are you" to each other. She said "I think you and him would be good together, you're very much alike." I admit, I know nothing about him save for the information on his Facebook page and we'd never had an actual chat (face to face or online for that matter). Just recently, he'd been posting some comments on my Facebook updates and things, we'd exchanged some banter through the comments. And now ... I am thinking of acting out on that initial push. I feel like a big dork, but I have another mutual friend who knows him a bit better than I do (at least, I think). Should I ask him what this other guy's story is? It wouldn't hurt to ask, would it? What do others think?
thatone Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 sure, there's no harm in asking a male friend about a man you're attracted to. rule 14-B section C paragraph 8 of man code, thou shalt not cock block your buddy, so if a woman inquires about him thou shalt only speak positive things about said buddy and pass message along at first opportunity!
Asics Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Just ask him about the guy you're interested in, it's not going to hurt anyone.
Author mortensorchid Posted August 17, 2011 Author Posted August 17, 2011 I just sent him (the male friend) a text on it. We'll see what we see. Hopefully he won't tell me he's otherwise unavailable / undesirable in any way. I'll keep others posted.
patagonia Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 I just sent him (the male friend) a text on it. We'll see what we see. Hopefully he won't tell me he's otherwise unavailable / undesirable in any way. I'll keep others posted. This past week has been very similar to what you described... started talking to a girl from elementary school on facebook..so that's a good 20 yrs. Posted on her wall, she commented on my page, i posted on her wall, she private messaged me. We exchanged messages for the week and a few days ago asked for her number and she gave it to me. It does feel like we are in 8th grade again but sometimes that;s what it takes. I'd say he is interested in you going by this experience of mine. I would say, keep the contact up through facebook and play the cards on your own. If you guys keep bantering back and forth, he's interested and you need to move forward
Author mortensorchid Posted August 17, 2011 Author Posted August 17, 2011 Well I got a text back from my male friend who I wanted to ask about this man on Facebook I was kind of interested in. His response? Well ... My text to him was this: "Feel like I'm in 8th grade here but if one doesn't ask one will never know will they? Out of curiosity, was wondering what the story of (NAME) is. We'd exchanged some banter on Facebook and was wondering what he was about." His response: "You really should get your PI license. You'd never be bored." What does that mean? I'm not sure.
Lil1 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Geeesh! Sounds like he's either trying to cock block you or he thinks you're being nosy. Most likely he's cock blocking. I would just be direct and talk to him. You said you are friends on facebook? Why not just send him a message to see how he is and suggest a lunch date or something? I don't think there's any harm in that. If he rejects you then you will know he's not into you for sure and you can move on!
Mr. Savage Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Either your male friend is jealous or he is trying to warn you with that statement. Hard to tell. Ask your friend to be more specific about his comment if you really care. Otherwise just private message the guy you like and keep it playful and light and see if he responds. And if he rejects you big deal, its a Facebook rejection. MUCH better than in person!
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