Misar7 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Well I had made a post about my ex we were together 8 yrs. broke up 1 time before 5 yrs ago, he got into a relationship for 2 months then got back with me..then broke up 4 months ago. But for the past 3 months started hanging out a lot and sleeping together then he kept trying to talk me into having a baby I kept saying you should want to have a baby with someone you love, and someone you want to commit to, thinking he would say I love you lets work things out then make a baby, but no never happened then 3 wks ago he tried again and I said I can't. Also want to mention him and I have had 2 failed pregnancies planned ones in the past that broke both our hearts we both really want kids but have not tried in 4 yrs. He is 30 I am 34. But anyways..So now 2 wks ago he says I'm with someone else..and stops talking to me is really rude to me and is acting like he wants noting to do with me and hates me and we were always great friends..I don't get why he acts like he wants nothing to do with me. Well I found out A LOT about this other girl first she is only 23 she is a drinker and a smoker and likes to party and he don't never has! Tats and piercings nothing like me although she is very pretty..Also I found out she broke up with her live in BF about 3 months ago they still talk and he wants her back, also she was pregnant by him a year ago to this exact month, she did not have the baby not sure what happened with that..also have to mention her ex is in better shape and a lil better looking than my ex found out he works at a place like 10 min. from where I live! My ex and the girl live about 20 min away. I hope she goes back to her ex and he gets what he deserves!! Do you see their relationship lasting? I think I know more about her history than he does!!
wilsonx Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Its a small world is all I have to say. I will disagree with you on one thing, I hope her ex doesn't take her back. Both of them act like they are emotionally immature and deserve each other, so let them have each other. Will it last, probably not in the end but the question is, do you want him back? Please think about this honestly with your head and do not answer this yet for at least 2 months. Take this time to yourself and go strict NC and that means staying out of their business and just focusing on yourself. I'm sorry this happened but you know it happens to the best of us.
D-Lish Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 The real question is why do you have to know all this? Do you really want someone back that treats you like this? What is it that you don't think is good enough about you that you believe you have to settle for a guy like this??? Come on girl, respect yourself- he's treated you like crap and he's been stringing you along... You're spending far too much time and energy on a guy that doesn't have a history of stepping up for you.
0hpenelope Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 This guy's got bad news written all over him. Someday you'll see it. You'll be grateful that he's not in your life and you'll feel sorry for whoever has him. I mean, I already do. Realization won't happen to him anytime soon and hopefully it will, but you'll be long gone by then. Happy and strong without him.
Author Misar7 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) Thank You guys!! I know what you are saying..just it's so hard cause I do still love him very much and the baby thing is such a sensitive subject it just breaks my heart And there is this part of me that wishes I would have gotten pregnant and maybe we would be fine and he never would have gotten with someone else. I know I am not thinking logically I'm just so hurt and to see who he is with..and there is a part of me that is so worried he will get her pregnant that will just shred me. Something else I did not mention his sister and my brother got together a year after we did and have been married for 6 yrs all our families his and mine are all close and intertwined only making things so much harder!! Him and his sister are not blood related as he was adopted and is of different race..I also was with him when he found and met his real mother for the first time about 4 yrs ago, and I now love them and are friends with them as well. I am just in such a bad place I hate to admit I have not eaten or slept much in a week. Edited August 14, 2011 by Misar7
0hpenelope Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Thank You guys!! I know what you are saying..just it's so hard cause I do still love him very much and the baby thing is such a sensitive subject it just breaks my heart And there is this part of me that wishes I would have gotten pregnant and maybe we would be fine and he never would have gotten with someone else. I know I am not thinking logically I'm just so hurt and to see who he is with..and there is a part of me that is so worried he will get her pregnant that will just shred me. Something else I did not mention his sister and my brother got together a year after we did and have been married for 6 yrs all our families his and mine are all close and intertwined only making things so much harder!! Him and his sister are not blood related as he was adopted and is of different race..I also was with him when he found and met his real mother for the first time about 4 yrs ago, and I now love them and are friends with them as well. I am just in such a bad place I hate to admit I have not eaten or slept much in a week. No way. You do not want a baby with someone that's such a wild card for a father. Ms. D-Lish here can very much empathize with you, I can tell you that much. It's okay. You're having such a rough time and that's normal. Please feel all of that but make the effort to take care of yourself. Eating and sleeping are integral to your health. You have to. Even when you don't feel like eating, force yourself to have something - yogurt, smoothie, something easy. Then gradually move back into solid food as well, just to keep you going. Have you tried doing boring stuff at night before going to bed? It's hard to focus on reading when distracted by heartbreak, but maybe you can try that? Read a boring novel. My boring reading is my Science textbooks - as much as I really enjoy Science, the material is boring. It's not for fun reading. That his family is still a friend to you says a lot about you as a person too, even though you don't need their continuing friendship as your validation. Don't underestimate your value ever. Let this guy go, he'll learn his lessons and you'll learn that someone else is worthy of your heart. For now, make this period your "me time" for as long as you need it to be.
Author Misar7 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Thank You 0hpenelope I am trying. I act happy no one even knows what I am going though and I try to go do things and keep going but I am finding it extremely difficult. I hope this phase passes soon I need to eat and sleep again.
ConfusedT Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 sorry hun! the girl [if she can be described as such] that he left me for is also younger than me, 6 years =/, irrelevant, but it is his ex(kinda, long story) that he SWORE TO ME ON HIS LIFE that he would never talk to or speak with again after everything we (& him personally) went through because of her. i literally did EVERYTHING for this man. EVERYTHING & i accepted EVERYTHING. i guess that was part of the problem, i accepted things i never should have, has rose colored glasses on and it got me exactly where i am today, heartbroken & he left me after he cheated on me even with me begging to fix things =( but you know, knowing more than you should is just hurting you more than it should. i know u broke NC, but just start again today. just look inside yourself and find ur strength, its there... jus gotta look for it. im here though, day 5.. crying, emotional, drained, but pushing on =/ gl girl!
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