sd89 Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I owe my ex money and she has a few things of mine that I need pretty bad. She keeps calling to say she needs the money , but also uses that as an excuse to just see whats up with me bla bla bla (the only reason she calls, yet says she wants to be friends). It never really works out and I suggested that we can meet up during the weekend she was cool with that. I told her just a quick coffee, not my house or hers. Today she calls me to tell me to my surprise, that she just doesn't have the time anymore this weekend but is meeting with my neighbor tomorrow and i could give it to her and she would give her my stuff. Then I couldn't help it and told her that it really doesn't seem like she wants to be friends, seems to avoid me on purpose, makes no effort and that this is getting a bit ridiculous. She just told me that she is busy lately and it might be true. Then I just kinda laughed a bit and said yeah shes probably right. Then she asked if I would like to go with them tomorrow to do something with her little sister. I'm thinking this is the time when I say that I don't have time and just give the money to my neighbor to give to her. But it would seem kinda childish and on purpose after I told her that she seems to avoid me. Should I go and hang out with her, her little sister (who adores me and I would love to see as well since she lives so far away and is visiting now), and my neighbor or not? Also whenever I do see her I would like it to be just the 2 of us cause I have a few things on my mind that I would like to tell her. I have made up my mind that I would like to tell her to stop contacting me so I can move on, but I want to do it in person.
PegNosePete Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 Drop off the money, pick up your stuff, and don't contact her again. No need for anything else. You don't have to tell her to stop contacting you - let your actions (and silence) speak.
Author sd89 Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 That doesnt seem like something I would do and she would guess I'm trying to play games. Either way, I decided not to meet her and just give the money to my neighbor. Next time she calls me ill tell her that I can't have contact with her til I move on.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 Next time she calls me ill tell her that I can't have contact with her til I move on. Good idea. It just isn't going to work out as friends. Period. At least until you move on.
Author sd89 Posted July 15, 2011 Author Posted July 15, 2011 its now been 5 weeks since she broke up with me and its always short simple conversations i get from her. once we hung out and it was really great and i got good signs from her, but i think she got scared into caring for me again and ran for the hills, cause after that she was more distant. hopefully me creating more distance will cause her to wake up a bit. but she is too insecure to ever phone me again if i tell her not to. but i feel like she has to fight for me to get me back now, so it seems like the right thing to do.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 15, 2011 Posted July 15, 2011 what do you mean by these two quotes? I think this person might be trying to sell you something, considering they have that nice link in the signature. Don't bother with them.
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