ScienceGal Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 A week ago my boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me. Everything had been wonderful for 5 months (you know, the honeymoon phase). Then in month 6, we had 2 arguments. The problem was not the arguments, rather the way we argue. He wants to storm off and be left alone, or he will yell and walk out if he can't be left alone. I don't want to yell or fight at all, I just want to sit down and talk about it. I especially think this is important if one person has done something to hurt the other... they should at least apologize and aknowledge what they have done. It isn't fair to leave the one with the hurt feelings just sitting there feeling awful. Basically, don't go to bed upset or hurt. Face the issue and respectfully say that you need to think and will definitely talk about it later. So, my inablilty to stuff my feelings and leave him alone for the second time came across to him as me not treating him as an equal. He decided that I would never treat him as an equal. While I find this unfair and dramatic, there was nothing I could do. All I had done was ask him to please not shut me out. I have had 3 relationships that have lasted over 2 years each, his longest was 11 months (should've been a red flag?). BUT, he is a great and loving guy and I know he cared for me very much. His pride/ego might be a little inflated though. I feel like I had more patience with him that other women have and I did a lot for him without having to be asked. I did this because I see all the good things about him. We loved being together whether it was out or just home on the couch. I even heard him say once that I am the one for him. So, what the heck! Do you think he will ever realize what he lost?
guccimane99 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Honestly, the part where u said it was a red flag his longest relationship were short. Thats not i have been in tons of short term relationships why because the female says she wants a good guy and i am a good guy treat her to good and she leaves me. So dont ever say that is a red flag. If you were that good to him maybe he will realize but will he come back idk. No one can tell you that only time will tell. When u get further out real red flags will become aparent and u will see what it was worth. Ill tell u at the age i am at none of my ex have came back. Yes i am a good looking guy and not a chode but they dont go upon looks they go upon what makes them happy. If you made him happy he will realize it when karma comes around. If someone treats u like **** its probably because u treated someone like ****. Thats how the world works, so try and be the best person u can be.
Fufu Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 (edited) Answering to your thread title, "It doesn't matter if he realize what he lost or not." The question you can ask yourself is. "How can I help myself to start moving on from this." Ask yourself this, if a guy walks out of the relationship because of the way of handling quarrels and don't even have the basic common sense of communication and working things out. Are you sure this is the man you want to be with in your life? Most or all the relationships always start wonderfully, the honeymoon phase. The real test of love and commitment in relationship will start only after the honeymoon phase. From all kinds of obstacles and challenges in the relationship then you can really tell if your partner is truly committed to you. If he leaves you just because of this, then I can tell you, he's not that into you and/or he just doesn't know what he wants yet. And, saying "You are the one for me" are just merely words. Actions speak louder. Look at his actions. And the relationship was only 6 months old and he already treated you in this manner, it's really a blessing in disguise that you see this side of him sooner than later. Don't wait around for him, it's not worth it. Move on Anyway, your ex sounds like my ex. And I was with my ex for 3 years and supposedly getting engaged end of this year. If I can move on, so can you Edited June 23, 2011 by Fufu
Author ScienceGal Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 @ gucci, no offense meant with the "red flag" comment there are certainly a number of scenarios and reasons why things happen. @fufu, thanks for the response, it was very good. Time will allow my emotions to catch up to what my brain knows... I deserve all that I give, and do not want to be with someone who is insistent on giving me less! Moving on and getting back to whats best for ME:)
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