Thank You, LS!

[Annalisa]

Hi, LS! I haven't been here in awhile. Haven't really felt like I need a place to rant. So today I'm back to update anyone who's interested. I just wanted to say a really big THANK YOU to everyone on LS! Finding this forum has really helped me get through my first break up. Not everyone agreed with the decisions I've made so far, and I had to justify them on this forum at times. But I guess that helped me because it forced me to remember why I made those decisions at the time, and why I shouldn't try to reverse them.

 

I recently found out through Facebook that my ex has started seeing someone else. I was so angry at the time that I texted him saying I hated him. He didn't reply, which I expected because what do you reply to a text like that? A few days later, I called him and apologised for that text. I didn't try to get him back. We just talked for awhile like friends. Then I broke down and cried (I don't know if he could hear it but I think he could) and had to call him back.

 

But that phone call made me realise that my ex is still the same guy I broke up with, not the one I fell in love with (he doesn't exist anymore). He still can't hold onto a job. He's still looking for a way to make a quick buck. So after that phone call, I was able to let go. I realised he wasn't seeing that girl to try and provoke me into getting back together with him. I realised it doesn't matter why he's seeing her and whether she's a fling. I do still wonder if he treats her like he used to treat me though. I remember what a gentleman he seemed like at first.

 

Gradually, I realised that holding onto negative emotions like anger, hatred, disappointment and resentment affects only me. If I'm to stand any chance of being happy again, I have to let these emotions go. And of course it helps that I recently met a new guy. We played sports together and he's a friend of a friend. I wasn't impressed by him at first but agreed to date him because I thought it would be good for me. Well, that first date changed my mind about him. He seems like the opposite of my ex. He's really hardworking and works two jobs to pay his way through college. Of course it's too early to tell if things will work out between us but we'll be going on a second date soon and our first was a lot of fun. We may have more chemistry than I ever did with my ex. I'll just take things slow and see how they go.

 

During that phone conversation, my ex said again that he still wants to be friends because our relationship was always "nice", even towards the end. He isn't friends with any of his other exes. I really don't know if I want to stay friends with him. Not because I'm still angry with him or anything but because of the way I've seen him treat his friends. He isn't really the kind to be there for you. So being friends with him may be more trouble or effort than it's worth. I guess I'll just see how things go.

 

So THANK YOU, LS! For being there for me at any time. For making me realise that lots of you have it worse than I do, and if you can be strong then so can I. I hope this update helps some of you realise that the future's something to look forward to. When you're down in the dumps, the only way to go is up. All the best, everyone! I probably won't be back for awhile. Love yourself and take care!

[Karala]

I love reading those cheerful updates, they mean the world :] Thanks!