Eternal Sunshine Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 At the beginning of this year, I had a 5 week long, very intense romance with a guy I met online. He dumped me suddenly, coldly and heartlessly. I didn't get too attached and was over him in a week. Anyhow, just now I was bored and looked for his online profile (I took mine off when I met current bf). He (the ex) has 3 pics on there that were taken with me when we were together. He has cut me out of the two and has a black circle over my face on the third I can't believe I ever slept with that loser
Ouroboros Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I can't believe you still care. I guess one week was not enough to get over him. If I knew the girl I was with checked up on ex-beaus then I would break up with her.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 13, 2011 Author Posted June 13, 2011 Um I was just bored :rolleyes: He wanted me back right at the time I started dating current bf and I rejected him.
Ouroboros Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Um I was just bored :rolleyes: He wanted me back right at the time I started dating current bf and I rejected him. Make whatever excuses you wish but you looked him up because you were still interested. You got hurt when he cut you out of some photos when it was done out of practicality. Guys don't take many pictures of themselves and they were likely his most recent pics of himself. You might want to get over yourself a bit.
ascendotum Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Um I was just bored :rolleyes: ES - is it the fact that he thought you were not good enough to have as a gf but photos with you are good enough for his profile....and he's using your time together to parlay his way to a new woman? I can understand that you would be a bit peeved, but it doesn't make the guy despicable. Browsing online date sites while in a relationship could also be interpreted in a negative light if you bf was to find out. Leave that behind and enjoy the fact that you dont need to use them anymore. Put a marx bros dvd on, and have a drink of camonmile tea
welikeincrowds Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Make whatever excuses you wish but you looked him up because you were still interested. You got hurt when he cut you out of some photos when it was done out of practicality. Guys don't take many pictures of themselves and they were likely his most recent pics of himself. You might want to get over yourself a bit. I don't know dude. I'd probably have the exact same reaction if I saw a picture from an ex with a (****ing) black circle over my face Although I will say that it's not a good thing to creep on exes. I mean I definitely do it anyway from time to time, but I'm still ashamed of it
Ouroboros Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I don't know dude. I'd probably have the exact same reaction if I saw a picture from an ex with a (****ing) black circle over my face I guess then I'm unusual in that I wouldn't care. When they are no longer in my life they cease to be. They no longer exist.
oaks Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 Be proud that the time he spent with you generated the best profile pics he can find. One girl I dated has (or perhaps "had" since I haven't looked recently) photos of her that I took on one of our dates on her profile (I'm not in them, since I was behind the camera). To which I thought "yes, I know who you're smiling at, and of course it's a good photo since I took it".
Eeyore79 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 It is somewhat despicable to use photos of you and your ex on a dating site, especially if you leave her in the photo and black out her face. It's even worse if you met her on the same dating site! The guy sounds like a douchebag, be glad you dodged a bullet and forget him. ... and no, looking someone up doesn't mean you're still interested in them. I've sometimes looked exes up just because I was nosy, and if they hurt me I might be hoping to see that their life didn't turn out so great. It gave me a little satisfaction to know that things didn't work out between my ex and the girl he left me for; I now feel sorry for her rather than jealous.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 At the beginning of this year, I had a 5 week long, very intense romance with a guy I met online. He dumped me suddenly, coldly and heartlessly. I didn't get too attached and was over him in a week. Anyhow, just now I was bored and looked for his online profile (I took mine off when I met current bf). He (the ex) has 3 pics on there that were taken with me when we were together. He has cut me out of the two and has a black circle over my face on the third I can't believe I ever slept with that loser You were over him in a week, yet you keep viewing his online dating profile nearly half a year later? Sure, you were just 'bored' . You were over him in a week, yet you log on here to make a post about how big of a 'loser' he is? I'm sure it's because you are 'bored' again, and not an obvious and very transparent attempt to fish for sympathy in order to make yourself feel better about him dumping you...
Feelsgoodman Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 It is somewhat despicable to use photos of you and your ex on a dating site, especially if you leave her in the photo and black out her face. How is that despicable?? Your face is blacked out, so you can't be identified. Maybe he simply does not have any other recent pictures? I don't see any problem here. .. and no, looking someone up doesn't mean you're still interested in them. I've sometimes looked exes up just because I was nosy, and if they hurt me I might be hoping to see that their life didn't turn out so great. It gave me a little satisfaction to know that things didn't work out between my ex and the girl he left me for; I now feel sorry for her rather than jealous. No offense, but this is pathetic. It shows that you are a petty, vindictive and insecure individual.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I don't think she's still "interested," and I ALWAYS think that people who have opposite sex folks in their profile pics with their faces blacked out look like losers. BUT, caring about it enough to make a thread ... I question that.
Star Gazer Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 I don't think she's still "interested," and I ALWAYS think that people who have opposite sex folks in their profile pics with their faces blacked out look like losers. BUT, caring about it enough to make a thread ... I question that. Yup. I don't think it's weird to be curious, but to even CARE? Something's not right about that.
Imajerk17 Posted June 13, 2011 Posted June 13, 2011 (edited) That you went for someone like him in the first place says something was SERIOUSLY wrong with your judgment. The red flags were there from the beginning and you ignored them. Take responsibility for your bad choices! Edited June 13, 2011 by Imajerk17
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Be proud that the time he spent with you generated the best profile pics he can find. One girl I dated has (or perhaps "had" since I haven't looked recently) photos of her that I took on one of our dates on her profile (I'm not in them, since I was behind the camera). To which I thought "yes, I know who you're smiling at, and of course it's a good photo since I took it". Women learn to give smiles with no emotion behind them and which mean nothing very early on.
Nexus One Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 (edited) At the beginning of this year, I had a 5 week long, very intense romance with a guy I met online. He dumped me suddenly, coldly and heartlessly. I didn't get too attached and was over him in a week. Anyhow, just now I was bored and looked for his online profile (I took mine off when I met current bf). He (the ex) has 3 pics on there that were taken with me when we were together. He has cut me out of the two and has a black circle over my face on the third I can't believe I ever slept with that loser It's possible that his motives for cutting you out are due to concerns for your privacy. You don't just put other people's photos online without their consent. (photos where they are recognizable) Also, in this day and age Facebook has a facial recognition feature. So uploading just one image of a person to Facebook will allow you and anyone else to find any other photo on Facebook that that person appears in. Queue the lawsuits. Edited June 14, 2011 by Nexus One
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 14, 2011 Author Posted June 14, 2011 That you went for someone like him in the first place says something was SERIOUSLY wrong with your judgment. The red flags were there from the beginning and you ignored them. Take responsibility for your bad choices! Imajerk17, I rarely agree with you but you are right on the money here. What really bothers me about this situation is how bad my judgment was in dating him. And no, not just because of the pics. There were red flags all over the place from the start. I am actually ashamed of myself. I can assure you all that I feel repulsion towards him and myself from being associated with him. :sick::sick: Also, there is something creepy about the black circle over my face on one of the pics. I told my current bf about this. I am 100% open with him. He said that it's a "little bit messed up that I dated him but not to be too hard on myself". Then he just kissed me
Imajerk17 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Imajerk17, I rarely agree with you but you are right on the money here. What really bothers me about this situation is how bad my judgment was in dating him. And no, not just because of the pics. There were red flags all over the place from the start. I am actually ashamed of myself. I can assure you all that I feel repulsion towards him and myself from being associated with him. :sick::sick: Also, there is something creepy about the black circle over my face on one of the pics. I told my current bf about this. I am 100% open with him. He said that it's a "little bit messed up that I dated him but not to be too hard on myself". Then he just kissed me I do salute you for taking responsibility though. That is a huge part of growth. And as NONE of us are perfect, it is what we all need to do.
Imajerk17 Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Imajerk17, I rarely agree with you but you are right on the money here. What really bothers me about this situation is how bad my judgment was in dating him. And no, not just because of the pics. There were red flags all over the place from the start. I am actually ashamed of myself. I can assure you all that I feel repulsion towards him and myself from being associated with him. :sick::sick: Also, there is something creepy about the black circle over my face on one of the pics. I told my current bf about this. I am 100% open with him. He said that it's a "little bit messed up that I dated him but not to be too hard on myself". Then he just kissed me I do salute you for taking responsibility though. And as no harm was done really, you get to keep the lesson and put the rest behind. That is a huge part of growth. And as NONE of us are perfect, it is what we all need to do.
Ouroboros Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Imajerk17, I rarely agree with you but you are right on the money here. What really bothers me about this situation is how bad my judgment was in dating him. And no, not just because of the pics. There were red flags all over the place from the start. I am actually ashamed of myself. I can assure you all that I feel repulsion towards him and myself from being associated with him. :sick::sick: Also, there is something creepy about the black circle over my face on one of the pics. I told my current bf about this. I am 100% open with him. He said that it's a "little bit messed up that I dated him but not to be too hard on myself". Then he just kissed me Still haven't gotten your fill of dumping on him and trying to make yourself look better? That's nice. With the way you post it is hard to believe you dodged the bullet and it wasn't the other way around.
dispatch3d Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 can't believe I'm replying to this!.... giant who carrressss.
Star Gazer Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 I told my current bf about this. I am 100% open with him. He said that it's a "little bit messed up that I dated him but not to be too hard on myself". Then he just kissed me You told your BF that you looked up your ex on a dating site?!?!?!?!?!??! OMG.
TuffCookieX Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 You told your BF that you looked up your ex on a dating site?!?!?!?!?!??! OMG. Well, she doesn't love her BF yet. Just almost loves him.
Star Gazer Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Well, she doesn't love her BF yet. Just almost loves him. Touche!
oaks Posted June 14, 2011 Posted June 14, 2011 Women learn to give smiles with no emotion behind them and which mean nothing very early on. Aww. You spoiled my story with your cynicism.
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