wilsonx Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 My gut instinct for the past 4-5 weeks was that my ex was seeing someone else even while living with me. I caught her out at a bar with this same guy and she actually broke up with me without hesitating and I was like wtf. So I had been reading this sight and blaming the breakup and me and guess what, I thought I had done something wrong and wrote down all the things in a relationship that I could improve on. This relationship was different from people that just meet up and start dating. This was my best friend and I put a lot more trust in her then anyone else I ever have. I read about GIGS and you know I could have seen it as a possibility but didnt accept it. She blamed me 100% for her not caring anymore and I said ok. She told me the last day she was here that she hoped that we could be friends after the breakup was all said and done and I told her that wasnt her decision to make. You know I was unhappy with the relationship in the end and would have been ok after a while just being friends because it just wasnt working out until I met with her today. This is where she became retarded and crazy. She had the nerve to tell me that she has a friend at work that would be ok with just having sex with me as long as I pretend to have a tattoo! I was like HUH? WHAT? HUH? I was so caught off guard that I had no response for this. Absolutely none. I was in shock. We talked some more and I had to ask the question because it would bother me. I asked her if she was interested in, seeing or hooking up with (the other guy). She asked me what concern was it of mine and I told her I wanted to know the truth. It would be a personal insult to me and I honestly did not want to hang out and be friends with you if this was true and it was time to start telling the truth. She admitted to having feelings for this guy and that was my queue to walk. You guys were right and I hate to say it. I got closure but at a HUGE COST to my pride and dignity. I wish to god I would have stuck with NC in the first place 2 weeks ago but I did not want to believe it. You know whats sad, I called her and said wtf later on and she fielded my call and said she knows Im mad and that I have to vent and she would listen. I pretty much know now that NC is the only option but I am personally hurt by this. I can look at her, have a conversation with her and tell that shes still attracted to me with IOIs such as strong eye to eye contact, playing with her hair for the 2 hour conversation today and toes pointed at me and her body language but I am actually disgusted right now. She just wants to have fun now and save me for later on when she's done with her having fun. So here I am starting over 9 hours NC and theres absolutely no reason to ever see her or talk to her again
Author wilsonx Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 And I Will be honest. My biggest fear is that she will come knocking on my door in 2-3 months and appologize and saying she made a huge mistake and want me back. Its happening to a lot of my friends right now. I know 3 seperate people that are chasing their ex's and watching their ex's and waiting for them to date other people and come back and I do not want to be one of these people. I actually caved on the phone the after our meeting today and said you know what by the time you are done messing around with whats his face... i'll probably be over you and we can try to be friends and she said she would like that. You see how messed up I am
TaraMaiden Posted June 8, 2011 Posted June 8, 2011 Read my signatures. And get over this. To a certain extent we relish these kinds of encounters, because in a perverse way, it massages our Ego. Right now, by connecting with you, your Ego is thinking "she still wants to talk to me, so I must be special". It's breadcrumbs. Designed to keep you on the back-burner as an option. If you want to keep nibbling at the breadcrumbs, and be the "almost", "just in case" guy, carry on. But I would strongly advise against it.....
Author wilsonx Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 actually I am special, she isnt. I really would have preferred some of the breakups on here where their ex's dont respond and just ignore them. Shes trying to have her cake and eat it too and I walked away from it, I just have to stay strong which is a lot easier now One thing I do want to mention is I brought up this site as a way of me coping and I explained the GIGS and she immediately said I hate that site before I even popped the question if she was interested in the other guy. Quite humorous
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