sun_moon Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 I missed a call from my ex, and that's all. I do not want to call him back. I have a slight problem and need to find a way around direct contact. He owes me money. Last Saturday when he was so cruel to me on the phone telling me about his great GIRLFRIEND and how shes everything I'm not, of course that was the day I decided to go NC after the pain he caused me, he told me don't ever call me again, I have nothing to say to you, leave me alone. I said that's fine I feel the same way. When will I get my money? He said he will let me know when he has it. So 6 days after NC, he calls me. Logic tells me he did so to tell me about the money BUT he didnt leave a VM or a text. Do you know how annoying that is. He calls the beginning of a Friday evening with no message. Here's the other thing, I'm mentally preparing myself for a great road tirp and vacation and I leave tomorrow, I DO NOT WANT TO RUIN THAT. I think I'm going to wait till I get back and I will decide what to do. I dont want to call him, I want to get my money eventually, but I dont want to mentally and emotionally disrupt my healing again, I'm not in a good place. What was it about, the money, him being dumb, or both?
EgoJoe Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 Yeah that is pretty sketch. I'll call him for you hahaha.
Author sun_moon Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 that would be too too funny! I will keep you posted.
skibum Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 Ya that sounds shady. Ignore it, have a good vacation, and deal with him when you get back its not worth setting yourself back
Author sun_moon Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 When will I stop obsessing? When will this all go away ? I can't stop thinking about the call. I wish he would just grow some and actually communicate with me properly, I hate this. It's very immature, if he has something to say then why just not say it? If it's about the money, it's very simple just TELL me! This is so purposeful and it makes me angry.
EgoJoe Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 I'm sorry to hear that. I slept terrible. My night ended up going rough. Slowly realizing that it is really over for me. Ego on my case and I'm obsessing about little things. Trying to let go wondering if I'll ever hear from her again etc. Just focus on you. We'll all pull through. It's just emotional attachment.
Author sun_moon Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 Joe, I know exactly what you are struggling with....EXACTLY....only you in time can find acceptance of the situation and finally letting go. I know how hard it is to accept the **** that is the situation, no matter what we say to you, its all in your hands. You cant force it, it will just one day happen, you will accept that its over and find ways to heal. I have been there, its painful most when the other half refuses to compromise and actually explain things and let them go...its such a frustrating feeling because you CANT control it. You cant do anything about it, and the more you try the worse you feel. NC really really does work but only if you want to let go....I know you dont want to Joe, I cant tell you NC will work for you, but I can tell you that in time you will either be forced into a decision or you will make one yourself. Please go work out or go read, you need an emotional break, go rent a comic movie. **hugs**
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