reallyconfused2542 Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 well i got blown off today...guess that faith thing isnt all its cracked up to be. i feel stupid for believing that she would have even wanted to hang out with me. she spent her day at her families but what i don tget is i sent her a bunch of messages and there still just sitting unread in her inbox(bbm we can see whether or no theve been read). i dont know if im just being paranoid or what but i feel like a fool. why doe this have to be so difficult. am i just being overly critical? i sent her something earlier today and asked her to come by and she said when she was done at her families maybe shed come over. i feel like shes just saying maybe cause she doesnt want to hurt my feelings or is afraid to start an arguement. now what am i supposed to do. is today the day i start the NC with her? im so lost about what to do and feeling depressed about this whole thing. really sucks. heres most of the story before today if interested: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=274917&page=3
Author reallyconfused2542 Posted April 25, 2011 Author Posted April 25, 2011 well just got a txt and she said that she had a little to much to drink and had passed out. im guessing that at least a response is better than none....im gonna do the NC for a few days at the least .....would still like any advice...
iceweasel6 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Well mate, advice is only good if followed to the letter. If you initiate NC understand that is not a tool to get your ex back. It may inevitably result in that, but that's not it's primary purpose. The purpose of NC is for you. Your mindset has to change. Today has to be the start of that change. Today it's no longer about her - it's about YOU! Take charge of you and your emotions and your life. Once you tell her, "I think it would be best if we have NC so I can move forward with my life" you have to mean it. No FB, BBM, iChat, MMS, SMS, skype, yahoo IM, twitter, tweet, grunt, snicker or whatever form of communication is out there (I made the last 2 up - hahahaha). If she does contact you, just post here and there will be plenty of people who will support you and walk you through what to say. All the best reallyconfused2542. Stay calm cool and collected - and breathe.
Author reallyconfused2542 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 i really cant thank you enough for that. its kinda crazy that you put that up there and i soon as i got home and read it cause that what i was gonna write about . i think i just had a total epiphany tonight by talking to my cousin. he's worked as an emt in the hood and seen lots of **** in his life that i really value his opinion on things. we had an interesting talk about life . he's of the schooling that if she doesn't want you that you don't need her. also that really i should just be trying to work on me. im really not to sure about how to do that again. i think that might be my problem. i really don't have to man friends, had to move back home a few years ago kinda been through some tough luck, if you call it that. its more like pour decisions. but ive made my bed and now i have to lie in it. the mind is an amazing thing that really if used can bring you do amazing things. if you want something you'll do whatever it is in your power to achieve it. whatever it is. if you want to just kick back and throw hamburgers then just do it to the best of your ability and be able to sleep with yourself at night. there way worse of people than yourselves. i think that what she found off putting was my lack of self worth anymore. i think she had reached a state of enlightenment that i still haven't been able to reach yet. when that happened we grew apart. i really want to txt her all this but i guess its much better to put it on here. anyway in her mind she had goal that she was defiantly going to reach and maybe i did take her for granted. i think that the new guy will be listening to everything that she has to say and she used my negativity to move forward and realize that this wasn't what she wanted. i really want to say this to her. ****.
Author reallyconfused2542 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 is that how i screwed up?did i not believe in her that drove her away from me? does that make it all my fault that i didnt feel appreciated or didnt get thanks for things. the girl was telling me that she loved me and ok fine you didnt get me a christmas gift but do you think asking for a card was to much? doesnt that kind of tell me that you dont give a **** about things or me at least to show enough that you care to get a 2 dollar card? am i worng for thing that?i would love opinions....
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