MrDrama Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 So here it goes... My ex girlfriend and I were together for almost 2 years. I honestly I loved her with all my heart. About a month ago I got the "I don't feel the same way anymore" so she dumped me. It was so shocking to me as she was my first love. It did not seem to phase her at all, its like she completely blocked me out of her life for the first 2 weeks. After the 2 weeks she began calling me when she was drunk telling me she loved me and said she was confused and didn't know what she was doing. I ignored this because she was drunk when she said it, but a few days later she did say it was true while she was sober. Now recently My "friend" that works with the both of us, just broke up with his girlfriend after 4-6 years a week ago randomly. Now guess who is seeing each other? My friend and her all behind my back? Are you kidding me... it makes me wonder what has been going on for the last 2 years we all have been working with each other ( a lot of people believe it was planned). I already called her out on it, destroyed her with some not so friendly words and I had threatened to fight him but he never answered his phone. Everyone at our work knows partly because I mentioned it on purpose to a few people knowing they have big mouths and I said a few things on facebook. (I know I should not have done this, but I wanted them to know the trash we were working with). I just cant believe my love and my friend would do this to me, its just crazy and is mind boggling. Not to mention when I had problems with her I would go to this friend for advice and help which makes it even worse. The other day at work he muttered something under his breath and I said to him "if your going to talk **** say it to my face" and it almost escalated into blows. I just dont know how to handle the situation because I hate both of them with the passion especially for her because I feel like are whole relationship was just a lie. I just feel so betrayed and hurt it sucks. Im lucky Im very well liked at work, so I act happy all day at least around them so they don't have the pleasure of knowing im really devastated. I deleted them both of face book as well. I turn 21 very soon so I hope this will help out a little bit as I will get to meet a lot of new people. I just don't know what to do or how to feel, I never saw this coming.
The_411 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Good news is that you're 21 and this experience as crappy as it seems now is actually a massive positive. You, unwillingly albeit, filtered out a bad woman from your life. We only become better partners if we go through bad relationships. It gives a frame of reference of what is acceptable and what isn't. Don't fight or threaten to fight the guy. By provoking him you gave him and your ex and ego boost. The best way to handle this going forward if it happens again (I hope not) is to go shake the guys hand and say, "Thank you, you just saved me from a big mistake" Everyone expects you to fight, so when you go this route. A) You come out looking cool and unfazed, B) your ex is going to be pissed she let you go and will likely dump the new guy and come after you again c) which allows you to become the dumper and D) your ex friend looks like a chump for dating a cheater/woman of low quality. There's also the side benefit that if a good looking woman sees this transpire she will likely be interested in you.
Chi townD Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Personally, I'd look for a better job. I'm sure you dread going to work everyday.
stephmichelle Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I agree with Chi Town - I would start looking for another job. Having to go to work each day and act like you're happy must be terrible. And I'm sure since you said you're well liked, most people and surely your boss would understand. I know I wouldn't be able to handle something like that...
Author MrDrama Posted April 23, 2011 Author Posted April 23, 2011 thanks guys...thing is I will not leave my job just for the fact it shows that they will not win. It sucks going to work everyday so see him with the girl I still love, and her treating me like im the dirt that she walks on. Nice guys do finish last apparently.
Author MrDrama Posted April 24, 2011 Author Posted April 24, 2011 and im now finding out they are having sex where did the class go? and the only thing thats making me happy is going to the casino and gambling. Im winning but its still not a good mentality.
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