tb24 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Ok I know I'm just being dense here but she's interested in more than just friends right? The only reason I'm questioning it is because her facebook lists her as having a boyfriend; from the pictures on her profile, they've been together for about 3 years though she has NEVER mentioned him in conversation to me and I chose not to bring the subject up. Usually I'd just take all this as being interested but the boyfriend thing is still throwing me. backstory: 2 weeks ago I got chatting to a barmaid before the bar got busy. I figured she was just being friendly as it's her job. We chatted a couple of times during the night. I didn't really think anything of it. Anyway, as me and my friend were leaving she came up to me and asked me to add her on facebook. She sent me a jokey message on FB about messing up our drink orders so I sent her one back about getting it right next week. So, the next week (last friday) we go back, it's never busy early so plenty of time to chat again. She's very chatty, briefly comes over and sits with my friend and I. I asked her to come with me to see one of my other friend's band play the next friday (now 2 days time) but she's working again. Instead, she asked me and my friend if we'd like to go for a drink on thursday instead. My friend, with an uncharacteristic social awareness, said he was busy (as he knew I liked her...). She didn't seem overly fussed and seemed happy to go out with just me. I guess she was just asking my friend because it would have been rude not to ask us both since we were both there? Other things she's done: -FB messaged me her phone number without me asking for it -Yesterday sent me a text message checking I was still ok for thursday AND offering sunday as an alternative date if not. Actually after writing it all down, it does seem quite obvious but some reassurance wouldn't go amiss Maybe she just wants to be friends? Maybe she's just after a quick fling? That would also kinda suck because I actually really like her. So I'm seeing her tomorrow. What do I do? Ignore the whole boyfriend thing? Flat out ask her?
musemaj11 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Her bf is cheating and she wanna show him that she can too.
DollyGirl12 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Nooo, don't ignore the boyfriend thing. You have to find out what is going on. If she is still involved with someone I would make it clear that you don't want to get involved. I guess the way you have to think about it is would you want your girl to be doing that to you?
betterdeal Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Of course she's interested. She has eyes, right?
zakfar Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Maybe she's having a bad relationship with her current boyfriend, and would have decided to leave him, and would be interested in you. Also possible that she's doing it just to make him 'Jealous' and you're just a plaything for the purpose. You should indeed take this BF thing seriously. Anything is possible. Even on a date with her, her bf can show up and have a fight with you. Besides, the situation can get ugly if you start feeling for her, and she doesn't have anything serious in her mind. Make up your mind, and look at it closely if that's worth it.
Enchanted Girl Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I don't think she's interested in you. Why would she ask you to add her to her facebook where you could see she is taken if she was? She'd try to hide the relationship from you, so as not to scare you off because of it.
TheLoneSock Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Yes, she is interested in you. Most women (and men sometimes) are like monkeys. They won't let go of one branch until they have a hold of another one. Being alone for even one day means to fall to their death. You are her next branch. The question is are you ok with that? If you are, then proceed as you have been and leave it to her to handle her boyfriend situation how ever she sees fit. If not, then back away immediately.
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