somedude81 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 About twice a week I ride the city bus with this really cute girl for about 10 minutes. I really want to get to know this girl and ask her out. So far I've said a couple of things to her. The last time we were on the bus together I smiled and said, "Hey, I see you every day." She said "Yeah" in a laughing way, smiled and turned around to face the front. I wanted to say something to her to get a conversation going but I didn't know what to say. One thing I noticed is that she has an interesting sense of style. That day her shoes looked like bowling shoes and I was going to say something to that affect, but then decided not to because I didn't want to offend her. What can I say to her on Monday to start something?
yessy21 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 About twice a week I ride the city bus with this really cute girl for about 10 minutes. I really want to get to know this girl and ask her out. So far I've said a couple of things to her. The last time we were on the bus together I smiled and said, "Hey, I see you every day." She said "Yeah" in a laughing way, smiled and turned around to face the front. I wanted to say something to her to get a conversation going but I didn't know what to say. One thing I noticed is that she has an interesting sense of style. That day her shoes looked like bowling shoes and I was going to say something to that affect, but then decided not to because I didn't want to offend her. What can I say to her on Monday to start something? she didnt pursue another word? hmmm... she might not be too interested... u can say something like... well since were going to see each other this much we can at least introduce each other..
Author somedude81 Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 No she didn't say anything else. She probably isn't interested. Although that's not even really relevant. I'm mostly curious to see how far I can get with this girl. I consider it a challenge.
angielove Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I like that you see her every day - it gives you a chance to build up rapport without coming on too strong. Continue what you're doing, make little comments here and there (if they're witty, all the better) and eventually she'll come around. And by "come around" I mean she will start initiating interaction too. Don't sit next to her and have a long ass conversation though, that might annoy her and you will lose your mystery Good luck x
Alma Mobley Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 One of my exes was successful this way. Saw the same girl on the bus every day, eventually struck up a conversation, and he got her number. They went out for a few months. I'm not sure what you should say, but I'd pay attention to body language and make sure you are not bothering or even creeping her out. I never liked it when men talked to me on the bus, but that's me.
Author somedude81 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Sweet, saw her on the bus today though it wasn't one of the days where I normally see her. I got her number and we're going on a date tomorrow. LOL J/K We had a real nice conversation for the entire bus ride. Found out her name, major, what she likes to do for fun. I also dropped in some stuff about yoga since I saw her carrying a mat. I also mentioned my salsa dancing since I just came from the class. Unfortunately spring break is next week so I won't see her until we get back. So that's 4/4 at the earliest. This was the first time I had an actual conversation with her, so it's too soon to make any sort of move. I'll have to try it next next Monday. LOL maybe I'll invite her to go Salsa dancing since she seemed like she'd want to try it.
Romeofud Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I'll never understand why guys waste time. Girls come a dime a dozen. I'd just tell her the deal in a non-chalant manner and let it be. If she rejects, move on to another babe. All this building up is in your mind because trust me, she ain't doing the same with you .
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I'll never understand why guys waste time. Girls come a dime a dozen. I'd just tell her the deal in a non-chalant manner and let it be. If she rejects, move on to another babe. All this building up is in your mind because trust me, she ain't doing the same with you . And a 20 oz. bottle of Dasani costs $1.50. But take that same bottle to a thirsty man in the middle of the desert, it's priceless. I get what you're saying. But for some people that stuff doesn't really make any sense, might as well be speaking Chinese.
Author somedude81 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 The deal? Since you're new here, you don't know anything about me. As a quick background, I've always done bad with women, shy, quiet etc. Now I'm forcing myself to me more outgoing. A year ago, I'd be too scared to even say two words to her.
EyesWideOpen Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Sweet, saw her on the bus today though it wasn't one of the days where I normally see her. I got her number and we're going on a date tomorrow. LOL J/K We had a real nice conversation for the entire bus ride. Found out her name, major, what she likes to do for fun. I also dropped in some stuff about yoga since I saw her carrying a mat. I also mentioned my salsa dancing since I just came from the class. Unfortunately spring break is next week so I won't see her until we get back. So that's 4/4 at the earliest. This was the first time I had an actual conversation with her, so it's too soon to make any sort of move. I'll have to try it next next Monday. LOL maybe I'll invite her to go Salsa dancing since she seemed like she'd want to try it. Awesome! I was just about to respond to your original post to just ask her out...since there was a guy I used to encounter on the train who I thought was interested, but never went anywhere. I was far too shy to actually carry the conversation past hello, and he didn't try to take it further. To those who are saying to let it be because she wasn't talkative, let this be a lesson. Some girls are simply shy, or not good at chatting up a stranger. That doesn't mean she isn't interested.
Author somedude81 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Awesome! I was just about to respond to your original post to just ask her out...since there was a guy I used to encounter on the train who I thought was interested, but never went anywhere. I was far too shy to actually carry the conversation past hello, and he didn't try to take it further. To those who are saying to let it be because she wasn't talkative, let this be a lesson. Some girls are simply shy, or not good at chatting up a stranger. That doesn't mean she isn't interested. Yeah, especially in today's society, at least where I live, it's very uncommon to talk to strangers. Heck most people would rather have a whole bench to themselves if they could. So I'm sure that we are both shy. But she's cute and seems nice. I got nothing to lose. ------ I'm just wondering how to actually ask her out. Maybe say something how she seems cool and we should get a coffee. Then get her phone number.
Romeofud Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Shyness is not an excuse, OP. As a man, you gotta just step up to the plate and let it be known what your intentions are. The key to success is that you gotta act fast, especially with the gorgeous girls. Of course, you will get rejections; it's hit or miss. But dont think too much on this. You always have a 50/50 shot at getting a chance with her when you ask. When you dont, your chances go down significantly with each passing day. If you dont ask at all, you lose altogether.
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