College Student Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Hi everybody.. thought id come on here and share this with all of you who were in a recent break up. Three months ago my girlfriend of almost three years left me for another guy. I was devastated, and really thought my world was ending. I thought I stood no chance ever getting with another girl as beautiful as her.. It took almost two months to finally accept what happened and go no contact. I tried as hard as i could to just get out and do new activities and meet new people and make new friends. I wasnt really looking for a new girl, considering I still loved me ex... Two weeks ago I saw a girl at a college social event (not at a party) who was also in one of my classes. She happened to be sitting near me and looked up, and I simply smiled and said hi. Then, out of nowhere, she came and sat next to me and struck up a conversation and we talked for a good hour. Mind you, this girl is gorgeous, smart, kind, and funny.. in other words.. out of my league! We continued to talk when we saw each other in class, and actually today decided to go out to lunch. Again we talked for well over an hour, I got her number, and she continued to text me throughout the day... I guess the point of this is to tell you all that less than a month ago I was seriously messed up!! But i've come to realize there really are more fish in the sea! Whether it works out with this girl or not (which i hope it does...), I now see there alot of great women out there just waiting to meet you! and yes, I'd be lieing if I said I was fully over my ex, but I can definitely tell you that I would NEVER take her back, even if she begs! Good luck to everyone, keep your heads up! Time is a great healer!
complicationsinlove Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Im glad to hear that, it gives me some hope. I am a little over a month into my break up, and I feel like there is no other man.
smudge21 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I think your post rings true for everyone at some point. It's so hard to picturing being with anyone else when you put your ex on a high pedestal. I personally can't imagine anyone as funny, smart, sweet, beautiful or as much fun to be around as my ex, but that's how I feel now, and that's more to do with my emotional state towards her. In reality she's no better or worse then a lot of girls out there, and once she's off that pedestal, I'll be able to move on! Hope it works out for you.
I have no title Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Im in this situation as well....I agree with every word you said....My boyfriend left me for another girl..but the thing was that he only told me about her after he's been cheating on me with her for 6 months...we had a long distance relationship...I was totally devastated...I lost 6kg weight, i couldnt eat, sleep, I couldnt live....it lasted for a month until I was able to go NC....now, its been 4 months since we broke up, and I want to tell you that about 3 weeks ago I met another guy..he is a beautiful, tall, intelligent and sweet young man, with a great sense of humor...I am in love with him, and I thank God I am not with my ex anymore....he didnt appreciate me, he didnt treat me as i deserved to be treated...Now, I am in a new relationship, and sinse I grew up a lot while going through all my internal conflicts, pain and emotions, I can clearly realize that this new guy is in many ways better than my ex....I can say that I am completely over my ex, and I am living a much happier and interesting relationship right now! Guys, for everyone of you who is devastated, in pain and suffering - don't worry....think of your future, cause it for sure saves a great present for you....all the best comes last..cause if you get your best in the very beginning, you wouldnt be able to distinguish if its really the best what you have....therefore, I am thankful for all Ive gone through, thankful that I had enough strength to get over it and start going out and meeting new people...I am a wiser, and stronger person right now....and yes, there is much more fish in the sea, just give it some time - it will heal! Cheers!
shawn923 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Hi everybody.. thought id come on here and share this with all of you who were in a recent break up. Three months ago my girlfriend of almost three years left me for another guy. I was devastated, and really thought my world was ending. I thought I stood no chance ever getting with another girl as beautiful as her.. It took almost two months to finally accept what happened and go no contact. I tried as hard as i could to just get out and do new activities and meet new people and make new friends. I wasnt really looking for a new girl, considering I still loved me ex... Two weeks ago I saw a girl at a college social event (not at a party) who was also in one of my classes. She happened to be sitting near me and looked up, and I simply smiled and said hi. Then, out of nowhere, she came and sat next to me and struck up a conversation and we talked for a good hour. Mind you, this girl is gorgeous, smart, kind, and funny.. in other words.. out of my league! We continued to talk when we saw each other in class, and actually today decided to go out to lunch. Again we talked for well over an hour, I got her number, and she continued to text me throughout the day... I guess the point of this is to tell you all that less than a month ago I was seriously messed up!! But i've come to realize there really are more fish in the sea! Whether it works out with this girl or not (which i hope it does...), I now see there alot of great women out there just waiting to meet you! and yes, I'd be lieing if I said I was fully over my ex, but I can definitely tell you that I would NEVER take her back, even if she begs! Good luck to everyone, keep your heads up! Time is a great healer! WOW im gonna bookmark this page lol. Were pretty much in the exact same boat, except shes not dating anyone... The part in bold is literally exactly where i stand right now. 2 months after the breakup, and i just recently put my foot down with no contact. and i also am in no rush to LOOK for dating... I hope i can get to a smiliar stage where ur at, where u can say u DONT want ur ex back, and see her as just another girl. Im also in college and we only dated 3 months. I just met her in september 2010! Since ur in college to, how did u handle it? Like what specific things did/could u have done to make it best for you?
Author College Student Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Hey Shawn, Sorry to hear that your going through something similiar. It is so awful... but at least your girl didnt break up with you and then get with another guy a week later (damn bitch.....sorry). Anyways, my suggestion to you being in college is to just do something different! Something completely different. I personally joined the rugby team at school and ive never played rugby before in my life (and im probably the smallest guy on the team..) But it turned out to be a great decision for me and has allowed me to meet a lot more people while working out and getting into shape. So I'd suggest something similar to you.. go join some club or group and just meet new people and do something youve never done before. It might be strange/awkward at first, but it will be worth it.
shawn923 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Lmao @damn bitch... but yea i mean, the more i think about it, the more i can put it in perspective. Other people have KIDS and MARRIED.. and im complaining cuz i got dumped over a 3 month relationship??? i have to man the fawk up lol... People move on all the time, people re-marry 3-4 times in their life... And me, the college jock(basketball), with good looks, 22, with my whole life ahead of me, complaining about a girl I JUST MET in september, and was only with 3 months... Im trying to put it in perspective that most ppl have it way worse than i do. And yea like i said, i DO do extra activities, ima jock lol... Captain of the b-ball team at my school. I practice and workout pretty much 5 days a week... nights are just hard for me sometime, and whenever i hear a love song... but im holding it together :/
depplover_1980 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Lmao @damn bitch... but yea i mean, the more i think about it, the more i can put it in perspective. Other people have KIDS and MARRIED.. and im complaining cuz i got dumped over a 3 month relationship??? i have to man the fawk up lol... People move on all the time, people re-marry 3-4 times in their life... And me, the college jock(basketball), with good looks, 22, with my whole life ahead of me, complaining about a girl I JUST MET in september, and was only with 3 months... Im trying to put it in perspective that most ppl have it way worse than i do. And yea like i said, i DO do extra activities, ima jock lol... Captain of the b-ball team at my school. I practice and workout pretty much 5 days a week... nights are just hard for me sometime, and whenever i hear a love song... but im holding it together :/ Shawn, a major shock to the system is a shock whether it was 3 months or 3 years - it is all relevant to how comfy and happy we thought we were. Don't undermine your pain, but yeah man the **** up. ;)
shawn923 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Shawn, a major shock to the system is a shock whether it was 3 months or 3 years - it is all relevant to how comfy and happy we thought we were. Don't undermine your pain, but yeah man the **** up. ;) Lol yea i know i thought about taking that back lol... i guess it does depend on how deep in love u were, and not the length of time... Cuz my 3 month relationship has hit me much harder then my previous 2 year relationship
depplover_1980 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Lol yea i know i thought about taking that back lol... i guess it does depend on how deep in love u were, and not the length of time... Cuz my 3 month relationship has hit me much harder then my previous 2 year relationship Yes and sometimes when it ends early it ends during the lustful/powerful faze so it is a real hormonal onslaught when it ends - it is like an addict having their drug taken because you've been hooking on holding/screwing that person and it is intense. Right I am off out for a good few hours cos it's evening here. Chat later. x
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