SingVoice Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 So I had a phone conversation with a guy last night that I "met" on EHarmony. So the first part of the conversation was pretty normal and he said he had a busy week but we made plans to meet for drinks tonight. Then awhile later he tells me he is busy this week because he has dates lined up for every other night this week. I absolutely appreciate honesty...but there's something a little bit offputting about someone who has literally 5 other dates lined up in a week. Then he tells me that usually he doesn't feel chemistry with the girls he meets...but sometimes he makes mistakes too. Like he said he went out on Friday on a date....got too drunk...and was "aggressive" with the girl. I asked what he meant by that...he said "you know...the goodnight kiss...I was a bit too aggressive." Then he tells me how on his dates he has actually gotten into arguments with girls. Then...and this is the kicker...(I'm an opera singer)...he asks me how much money I make (which I tell him is none of his business) and then proceeds to insult my career. Now over the years I have had many people make jokes about being an opera singer...which I absolutely take lightly. But this guy was just plain rude. So just as I am about to suggest that MAYBE we aren't totally compatible...he does a quick "ok well see you tomorrow...bye!" This morning I sent him a text telling him that after some thought...I was going to bail on tonight and wished him luck. He responded with a "good luck to you too." Then he says...."I'm sorry if I offended you last night. I didn't mean to be mean." Anyway I flat out told him that based on the conversation we had had I wouldn't have even thought he was interested...since usually if you don't know much about a person's career you try to ask questions...not just insult them. He apologized and asked me to reconsider on tonight. And you know what? I'm going to go...why? For no other reason than I think this date is going to be hilarious. (Just as a side note I intend to pay for my own drink...so no one can hate on me because I am using him.)
bayouboi Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Is this another women prefer jerks over nice guys thread? o_O
xpaperxcutx Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 How tacky of him to " brag". I think you would get a good laugh dating him.
Author SingVoice Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 NO WAY! I don't like him. I'm going because it's going to make a good story...and I'm totally going to put him in his place.
bayouboi Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 haha, I eagerly await the "so I probably shouldn't have slept with him on the first date" thread.
Author SingVoice Posted February 22, 2011 Author Posted February 22, 2011 LMAO! Not going to happen bayou! Let it go!
xpaperxcutx Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 haha, I eagerly await the "so I probably shouldn't have slept with him on the first date" thread. Haha.. opera singers also have good sexual self- control.
Author SingVoice Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 This was the worst date I have EVER been on. I actually got up and walked out. First he belittled me because I opted to sit near the bar and not at a regular table. Then as SOON as we sat down...he started going ON and ON about this date he had been on Friday (the one where he got aggressive). Everytime we changed topics he would come back to it. So around the 7th time he brought it up...I mentioned an eharmony date I had been on that was kind of amusing. He then told me I talk WAY too much about my eharmony dates and it it a real turn off. Then he started telling me all the things that women had said on dates with him that pissed him off. He basically kept saying thing like "Ok well are you THIS kid of person...because if you are that is NOT good." I heard that like about 10 different things. He was also a dick to the bartender. Then he asks me why I'm not dating anyone...so I told him that I have found a big lack of chemistry between myself and the dates from eharmony. He says "Yeah you put yourself on a pedestal. You think SO highly of yourself...well you shouldn't do that." Finally around the 45 minute mark...he starts telling me what I should and shouldn't say on dates. At that point I said..."Ok I am going to go." I paid for my drink and walked out. I am not joking...this guy was ACTUALLY the WORST human being I have ever met. The story was WAY better than I could have ever expected.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I love amusing terrible date stories! That's one for blogging history right there! I had a guy from EH do the same thing, except I bailed and continued to say no even though he blew up my phone for the next 48 hours begging me to reconsider. Now I sort of wish I would have gone for the amusement of it.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 haha, I eagerly await the "so I probably shouldn't have slept with him on the first date" thread. I lol'd at this. And as for your date... yeah what a ****ing loser. But you chose to go out with him, you kinda did it to yourself. I wonder has the man never been married? I can sooo see why if he acts like that. No wonder he's gotta fish around on a paid internet site for a date... or 10. A person who has had lots of first dates is either really picky or a straight *******. I'm sure there is an equally crazy, critical, and insulting woman out there that would just love a man like him so they can make each other feel like ****.
Author SingVoice Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Duck- I went out with him KNOWING that it was going to be bad. I'm really just posting for entertainment purposes...not because I am venting or anything.
Author SingVoice Posted February 23, 2011 Author Posted February 23, 2011 Just remembered...he insulted the glass they served my beer in. Then he told the bartender "I want another beer but don't serve it to me in that stupid glass."
Alma Mobley Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 Just remembered...he insulted the glass they served my beer in. Then he told the bartender "I want another beer but don't serve it to me in that stupid glass." That's awesome. Thanks for sharing the story.
PurpleReign Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 I could've told you how the date was going to go. Sounds to me like this man isn't at all emotionally stable. Personally, I wouldn't have wasted 45 (or even 5) minutes of my precious time on such a jerk, but I'm glad you got a good story out of it.
jerbear Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 This sounded like the one I had.:lmao: except it was reversed.
curlygirl40 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 This thread cracks me up. I would have done the same thing. That 45 minutes you spent with him has probably given you hours of entertainment and laughs with your friends. I'm laughing right now, actually, so thanks. What a loser. That's why he has so many dates lined up, because he'll have to date a TON of women to find one. It's a numbers thing. And don't serve it to me in that stupid glass. hahahaha That's priceless.
daphne Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 You must live in a small town to want for that kind of entertainment. Or are seriously masochistic. lol. I once had a nightmare date. I thought he was intentionally being rude and critical of all of his former "fat" dates to get rid of me. Alas, no. He was just a seriously maladjusted prick. How in god's name did he manage to get 5 other women to agree to go out on a date with him? Again, gotta go back to the small town theory. LOL
Leeway Harris Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Not to hijack, but there's a question begging to be asked: How is he getting all these women to go out with him? I didn't get five responses in a month when I was online dating. How did he get five dates in a week? One with an opera singer? I know, that one wasn't legit, but all the others? With all the men who never even get the chance to make an impression on a woman, good or bad, how did this guy get five chances in a week? What's his secret? There's no way all these women are doing it for the story. ETA: Sniped by daphne.
Imajerk17 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 (edited) Duck- I went out with him KNOWING that it was going to be bad. I'm really just posting for entertainment purposes...not because I am venting or anything. This post actually says something about YOU too, SingSong. I mean, don't you have *anything* better to do with your time than to spend it with people you don't even like? Sheesh. There's an expression I'm trying to remember--laying with dogs and getting flees. If you're lucky, you'll never hear from him again. IF you're lucky. On the other hand, he just might harass you for a few more weeks. Edited February 24, 2011 by Imajerk17
Imajerk17 Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 Who knows what this guy says online to get all those meetups. Yeah 5 first dates in one week is impressive, but I thought that the objective is to get *second* dates, which hopefully will lead to something better. A guy who goes on 5 first dates isn't getting seconds.
Author SingVoice Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 I think how he gets all the dates is that during emails he is very vague. The emails we sent back and forth didn't show much of his personality. I guess he prefers to save his "real stuff" for in person. He also mentioned that he usually only speaks to people on the phone for less than 5 minutes or not at all when planning a date. He probably knows that's the only way people will go out with him is if he doesn't show much of his real personality.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I am a little confused... what happened to the guy you wrote about in this thread? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t264899/ "Valentines Day/BF ignoring me"?
Leeway Harris Posted February 24, 2011 Posted February 24, 2011 I think how he gets all the dates is that during emails he is very vague. The emails we sent back and forth didn't show much of his personality. I guess he prefers to save his "real stuff" for in person. He also mentioned that he usually only speaks to people on the phone for less than 5 minutes or not at all when planning a date. He probably knows that's the only way people will go out with him is if he doesn't show much of his real personality. Why did you keep emailing him then? And how did he convince you to move it to the phone? Did he have really good pictures up? Did something about his stats look good on paper? I'm not judging, I'm just extremely curious how men get women to talk to them on these dating sites. Because if I had gotten more dates when I was using the sites, I would have been a million times better company than that guy, I'm 100% certain of it, but I so rarely got the chance. And this person, obnoxious as he apparently is, got to the level of a phone conversation with you before you even realized something wasn't quite right about him. And he got five other women to go out with him in one week! It boggles the mind! I know we guys sound like a broken record about this stuff sometimes, but we run into it over and over again and can't help wondering what the frick is going on.
Author SingVoice Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 I am a little confused... what happened to the guy you wrote about in this thread? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t264899/ "Valentines Day/BF ignoring me"? This didn't work out. So I moved on.
Author SingVoice Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 Why did you keep emailing him then? And how did he convince you to move it to the phone? Did he have really good pictures up? Did something about his stats look good on paper? I'm not judging, I'm just extremely curious how men get women to talk to them on these dating sites. Because if I had gotten more dates when I was using the sites, I would have been a million times better company than that guy, I'm 100% certain of it, but I so rarely got the chance. And this person, obnoxious as he apparently is, got to the level of a phone conversation with you before you even realized something wasn't quite right about him. And he got five other women to go out with him in one week! It boggles the mind! I know we guys sound like a broken record about this stuff sometimes, but we run into it over and over again and can't help wondering what the frick is going on. I'll be honest....I found him VERY attractive (through his pics). And I know that sometimes people don't come across exactly how they are over email. I mean...over email...he seemed nice. So when he asked if I wanted to get a drink...I thought "ok well this way I can see what he is REALLY like." By the way...NO we don't live in a small town...we live in Chicago area. And sure...maybe it says something about me that I went anyway knowing that it was going to be bad...but if I had posted a thread asking if I should go or not (since I had already committed) I probably would have gotten totally mixed reviews. This whole thing is just for entertainment! Laugh it up peeps! I sure am! (And no I haven't heard from him...THANK GOD! Haha)
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