BM91 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 3 days ago my ex-girlfriend of 9 months broke up with me because "she's confused and didn't know if she felt the same anymore, but she wants to" everything seemed perfectly fine, we had afew small arguments throughout the relationship but that's it, she's 16 and I'm 19. Anyway, On the day everything seemed fine (I hadn't seen her for 4 days because she had a show at school with all her friends) then she asked if I'd like to go upstairs, so we went upstairs then she starting acting all weird so I asked her what's up and she replied "nothing" so I kept asking her because I knew there was something wrong, and that's when she said she was confused and didn't know if she felt the same, I was completely shocked and didn't know what to say. I was very upset and walked out with her chasing me and pulling me back crying wanting to talk about it, and kept saying she was sorry, but I just left. When I got home she had put her relationship status to single, quite afew people commented underneath thinking it wasn't true. I haven't contacted her atall since and she hasn't me apart from popping up on Facebook chat saying "she was sorry :/" and I replied "I understand" and she put ":/" on the night we broke up, and that was all, we haven't spoken since, so 3 days ago. I truly love this girl and really want to sort things out, should I try talk to her about it? or remain no contact? I feel so lost without her..
babybear Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Hi there, sorry to hear about your breakup. Whether or not you work it out in the future, I would probably need some answers to understand what exactly happened. So before going NC, I would definitely talk about it, so you can at least walk away not being so confused. After spending 9 months together, I think you deserve that much. Hope you feel better!
locnlove10 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Wow...very sorry to hear that and sounds like you love this girl. Something went wrong and if you really want to know then at least talk with here and try to figure out what it is and how you can maybe fix it. I know you are upset but you want closure right? Then definitely you need to talk to her. I hate to say it is another guy and hopefully it's not but if she put her stats to single that quick then that's a red flag. How is her attitude? Is she lonely, and depressed over the break-up or i she in high spirits. You need to check it out to protect your feelings from even more damage. My mom and dad were on the brink of divorce and my mom has this book on how to make up and prevent divorces and relationship break-ups and I think you should check it out and maybe there's some valuable information in there that you can get. I know he has helped 50,119 People In 77 Countries so maybe it can work for you. My mom and dad are still married and look more happier than before. I hope this helps and you get to a conclusion so you know whether to move on or make it work. Oh here's the website in case you wanted to check it out: magicofmakingup.com
Mixed28 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Iam the same age as you. I have been there and it sucks. I got dumped by a girl I loved with all my heart. But look you want someone who is head over heels for you as you are for them. You don't want someone who doesn't want you because that is not true love. Its best to walk away from the situation. I suggest you exercise that's what I did and still do it helps a lot with confidence. or do some other goal. Its so hard I know it is complete hell. But keep busy and it will hurt a little less each day. I promise.
Author BM91 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Thanks for your input guys, I appreicate it. I also wanted to add she doesn't really spend much time with her friends only during school (I never stop her or say she can't) and after she had had 4 whole days with them, I'm guessing she missed all that. So yeah I dunno.. Maybe her friends were like "we never see you much anymore outside of school". How long should I leave it to call/text her to meet up and talk about it?
Mixed28 Posted February 21, 2011 Posted February 21, 2011 Thanks for your input guys, I appreicate it. I also wanted to add she doesn't really spend much time with her friends only during school (I never stop her or say she can't) and after she had had 4 whole days with them, I'm guessing she missed all that. So yeah I dunno.. Maybe her friends were like "we never see you much anymore outside of school". How long should I leave it to call/text her to meet up and talk about it? I would not contact her at all. Just leave it to fate I know it sucks man but theres nothing you can do.
Author BM91 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Posted February 21, 2011 Anymore insight on this guys? Sorry to be a pest
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