He's left me waiting, again.

[Lilmisus]

I'm 20 and I've been dating my 22 year old boyfriend for eight months as of yesterday. When we are together, things are great, and it's hard for me to imagine a future without him, but when we're not, I don't hear from him...at all. He doesn't have a phone anymore, and doesn't have internet at his house, so if he wants to get in touch with me or anyone else, he has to go to his parent's place, next door, and use their means of communication. It's been the same since we started seeing each other ten months ago - we'd make plans, he'd promise to call, he never does, when he does he apologizes and gives an excuse, I forgive him, and the same thing happens again, usually soon after. But recently, it's gotten so much worse. In the past two months I've had to wait for around two weeks to hear from him three times (but "good" reasons each time). That's seven weeks altogether just waiting to hear from him. Last time it happened, I told him how worried I was, and to never, ever do it to me again, or else I'd be very mad and probably leave him, and he told me that he heard me loud and clear and promised never to again. That was two weeks ago. We made plans for the next Monday, but he sent me a text to reschedule since he had to help his dad with some all day work, which I understood. We then agreed on Wednesday, but then he texted me asking me not to be mad but his best friend was back in town and wanted to go out (he hadn't seen him in a few years, since he ended their friendship, and a few months ago, he expressed his regret and even cried about it since he thought his friend was on his death bed and was willing to do anything to see him again to patch things up. His friend turned out to be ok, and it was actually his friend's wife who was dying, but he was at risk too). I understood again, and even encouraged their hanging out, saying I had to study for a test Friday anyway, and so when he said that he wanted to go out the next day - Thursday - I asked if he was free Friday. He never responded, which I'm guessing he went out with his friend, or his dad took his phone back or whatever, but I don't know why. I'm not even sure if he waited for me Thursday to come around, thinking that I would, or not, or if he even saw my last text. It's now Sunday, and it has been a few days since I last heard from him, though I heard from his dad Friday asking if I'd seen him. I'm mad, since I told him to never leave me waiting again, and here he is doing it yet again, but I don't know if this is a special case since his old friend has come back or not. Should I just our relationship since he knew how mad and hurt I'd be, or should I try to understand - yet again! - and let him have some quality time with his best friend who he thought he'd lose forever, not too long ago?

[Eddie Edirol]

He called your bluff, and he will keep calling it as long as you dont live up to your threats. So next time you say "Ill break up with you if you leave me hanging again..." Then you have to actually do it for him to learn. Why would he have to change when he knows youre sitting there desperately waiting for his call?