Xewkija Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Should I get in touch with her and ask her if she's done and moving on or if she's thinking about a second chance? It's just bothering me knowing that I would love to be with her still but I don't want to be a rock and not move even though I'm trying my best to move on. I just want to know if she's thinking about me or not; if she's planning on getting back with me or not. I was thinking of waiting till feb 5th cause that's my birthday and seeing what she does. I just want to know.
TheThinker Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Should I get in touch with her and ask her if she's done and moving on or if she's thinking about a second chance? It's just bothering me knowing that I would love to be with her still but I don't want to be a rock and not move even though I'm trying my best to move on. I just want to know if she's thinking about me or not; if she's planning on getting back with me or not. I was thinking of waiting till feb 5th cause that's my birthday and seeing what she does. I just want to know. As i understand it (and dont get me wrong, its hard to understand everything when you are heartbroken) if you are ready to break NC for the sake of asking her these questions then its not the right thing to do. Let her contact you ... Be truthful to yourself - If she was thinking about another chance would she not have contacted you herself - Now dont take that the wrong way, she may be thinking about it for all i know, but it doesnt mean that she is ready to do this yet (if at all) ... Sorry to put it like that You can use your birthday as a positive thing rather than thinking about using it to something which could blow up in your face. Think about doing something for your birthday - going out with friends, arranging an event, going away for the weekend. She may contact you to say Happy Birthday which in its own right will break the no contact from her side but dont get hung up on it all. If she doesn's then dust yourself off and carry on. All i seem to write at the minute is the same thing over and over but its because these are the things that have stuck in my head. This one is above all the most poignant: Think about it this way - the things you need to do to get over her are the same things you need to do to get her back. So you just do them. You stay strong, you stay positive
asitgoes Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 dooo NOT contact her! wait till your bday see what she does. im sure shes well aware its your bday she will contact you, and if she doesnt then you have your answer as to if she wants to make up.
geegirl Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 If you are trying your best to move on, contacting her will be doing just the opposite. Keep moving forward. Stick to NC. If she wants to come back, you will hear from her at some point. Picture yourself breaking NC and not getting the response you want and then picture how you will be feeling after. If you need some type of sign or indication of her interest, at least wait till the birthday.
Trovador Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 Above all, dont get your expectations high... she might not contact you on your birthday... NC is easier (or rather, less difficult) when you stop expecting the other's contact... in any case, when they do contact (if at all) your suprise is genuine... for what is worth... be strong, man...
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