?

[ScarletMeshell]

I was with a man for over 4 years. He lived in Euruope and we were dealing with imagration and visas. I traveled back and forth every few months and we have a 2 year old daughter. In November he told me there was someone else and I needed to come quickly. I didn't I was hurt and didn't jump on a plane. I have had contact with him as I felt like we needed to work something out becuase of our daughter. I can't get the thought of him with someone else out of my head. Today he told to me to come see him as soon as possible he loves us and wants to try again. I'm scared. I don't want to be hurt again and if he dissapointed me what will stop him from dissapointing my daughter? I'm sorry if none of this makes much sense, my thoughts and feelings don't make much sense at the moment.

Edited January 25, 2011 by ScarletMeshell
spelling

[Bateman]

In my opinion, you need to go talk to him about it. He may have realized that he made a huge mistake. At least he was honest with you about it. You're not gonna get honesty out of most people. I understand you're emotional right now but he wants to talk to you about it. If you do find the strength to see him then you need to tell him that you're not going to deal with that kind of bullsh*t. You know him better than anyone...people deserve second chances if they're sincere about changing. Of course things are going to be different now that he was with another woman and there is no way of telling if he will change or not. I think you need to let him know how you feel about all of this though. Good luck.

[JrRos]

How this other person walked into his life, will tell you a lot about what went on between you two. Sometimes us men seek attention when we don't feel we get it from our partners. Sometimes men just like to fool around. If it's in you to give it a shot, then at least listen to what he's got to say.