shawna92 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 (edited) this society is like a wreck and a nightmare- men are basically insane and weird. Ive been single all my life. I am a drop dead gorgeous female....who stands out and is just pretty. Men have never asked me out- every man literally acts as if he's entitled to getting 'sex' off me using me then bailing. I'm even a virgin cuz ive never had a boyfriend-- i can't get a boyfriend. All men do is insult and harass and mock me cuz im 'beautiful' and they have to put me down to make themselves feel better. Ive had lots of men sexually reject me--just for kicks, or just try to get sex off me so they can use me and never talk to me again. Every male i meet disrespects me and treats me like dirt, though i am sweet, nice etc. Also b/c im sweet, nice every psychopathic male, literally tries to dominate, insult and control me. That's it. Are people really this crazy? People tlel me...well youre so beautiful..u can get any guy you want...really? im in my early 30's and the only 'boyfriend' i had was a male who rejected me sexually and mentally tortured me. I dont see this happening to other women---whether they are hot or fat or ugly or pretty....but it happened to me. Every male i meet acts as if....he either bails or tries to stick around hoping to get 'laid'...though he is weird stupid rude but still feels 'entitled' to sex off me...though im a virgin....when he gets nothnig then he stops talking to me cold turkey. I dont give them anything to see how genuine they are....and most of these scumbag idiots...they can be butt ****ing ugly and feel they should get sex off any girl and its their right or privilege....the men of this society are insane...sick freaks....the sickest i cant imagine...and if youre a pretty girl...guys will try harder to use abuse dominate control and ditch you all in one go....most men these days are raving sociopaths psychopaths idiots sickos....every 'nice guy' who claims to get used by women---then tries to dominate torture and control/use abuse me in horrible ways....its scary and weird....he can say "yeah these women used me" then turn around and not only do the same to me but just abuse use me and then dump me....nto that i date but this is like a week's worth of 'dating' or talking....people are weird crazy and insane...then they try to use people control abuse and kick them to the curb....but i dont see guys treating other girls this way....not blondes or white girls....im asian and i get tortured and tormented by men in the cruellest of ways that ive never heard of in my life...yet im supposedly such a beautiful woman who cant get a boyfriend-- i cant even get sex if i really wanted...cuz it would be a guy who would try to use me in a weird bizarre crazy way just to satisfy himself...is there a way of dealing with this? do others experience this? im sure most women get guys trying to get laid but can manage to get a boyfriend...i cant get a boyfriend..b/c as men haev said "youre TOO BEAUTIFUL" so i get treated like a monster and people just make fun of me and treat me like dirt. Most men insult and degrade me...and if im nice and friendly, then they accuse me of being a liar or who knows what or have to put me down. If every male on planet earth hates your guts b/c you are a beautiful woman and has to attempt to destroy your self esteem and degrade you just if he's in your presence...how aer you supposed to meet a guy? You have to try to get the first guy who doesnt degrade you but every male does.. im a sensible college educated intelligent normal nice person...but if every man treats me this way and ive been single all my life but look like a model...wtf am i suppsoed to do? no im not arrogant im not intimidating im like 5 5 and petite...ive had guys say "youre the perfect woman" yet i can't get a boyfriend?? I used to think well im hot sure i can meet a guy? right? not in 32 years...men who finally if i let them 'touch me' or do something...then they reject me and run off....everyone out there is crazy---there are no normal people left---men have lost their minds and are sick freaks who feel entitled to sex from any female around....its the worst society ever--no society can be full of such low life low class degenerate sick people to exist who use others in this way.... Edited January 20, 2011 by shawna92
mo mo Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 cool story bro nah but seriously you probably won't get help with your issues here. You should consider seeing a therapist. Even if the guy of your dreams came into your life right now you probably would not be prepared to deal with him
Author shawna92 Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 how on earth would u know what i would be equipped to deal with? why do u people make such inaccurate and flawed statements about people like that...its really strange....guys say this all the time and its like very weird and disturbing...if the guy of my dreams came into my life i would be thrilled....but the guy of my dreams doesn't exist I think because all i keep meeting are jerks and weirdos.....so thats just not true....and its not a story its a situation....
mo mo Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 how on earth would u know what i would be equipped to deal with? why do u people make such inaccurate and flawed statements about people like that...its really strange....guys say this all the time and its like very weird and disturbing...if the guy of my dreams came into my life i would be thrilled....but the guy of my dreams doesn't exist I think because all i keep meeting are jerks and weirdos.....so thats just not true....and its not a story its a situation.... you just proved my point You have all these preconceived notions about men (and probably about yourself, no offense, just making an observation), so if the guy of your dreams met you tomorrow you might not even realize how awesome he is. You have a block right now. I'm not trying to insult you, I know this is a real situation that happens to people, I'm just saying you probably won't get the kind of help you need here.
Jazzari Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I have a girlfriend who is also a total knockout. Her problems aren't as extreme as yours, but enough that I see where you are coming from. It sucks to never be treated as a person. Beautiful women are discriminated against and get no sympathy. I consider myself attractive but not anywhere in your league. But even I have run across this on occasion. You can downplay your sexuality with the way you dress, makeup, etc. Yeah, I know. It's not fair that other women can wear certain clothing but you can't. But you have to deal with reality. People would get very angry at my girlfriend for wearing a certain shirt. But if I wore the exact same thing, it was fine. Most women stuggle to appear more attractive. You need to downplay yours to be taken seriously.
mo mo Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I have a girlfriend who is also a total knockout. Her problems aren't as extreme as yours, but enough that I see where you are coming from. It sucks to never be treated as a person. Beautiful women are discriminated against and get no sympathy. I consider myself attractive but not anywhere in your league. But even I have run across this on occasion. You can downplay your sexuality with the way you dress, makeup, etc. Yeah, I know. It's not fair that other women can wear certain clothing but you can't. But you have to deal with reality. People would get very angry at my girlfriend for wearing a certain shirt. But if I wore the exact same thing, it was fine. Most women stuggle to appear more attractive. You need to downplay yours to be taken seriously. This is good advice, but I think her issues are much more serious and can't be fixed that easily.
Surrealist Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Okay! Okay! I'm sick!!! I'm a sick freak!! All I wanna do is eat your gorgeous pu$$Y! Seriously I can't help myself! I'm a crazy demented sick-arse freak with no moral conscience or consideration! Please baby let me have you NOW!!!! I love Asian women, your long black silky flowing hair and yummy tid-bits! Woo hoooooo!!!!
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Okay! Okay! I'm sick!!! I'm a sick freak!! All I wanna do is eat your gorgeous pu$$Y! Seriously I can't help myself! I'm a crazy demented sick-arse freak with no moral conscience or consideration! Please baby let me have you NOW!!!! I love Asian women, your long black silky flowing hair and yummy tid-bits! Woo hoooooo!!!! I just spat out the water I was drinking and nearly choked on it. OP, seriously...get therapy. I see posts like this all the time at the love shy forum, except aimed at women. Misandry is just as bad as misogyny. Maybe you're projecting a certain "image"? I know that, if I see a girl who looks slutty, I assume she is. All the Ke$ha wannabees are examples of this. Maybe you're projecting a sexual image, and so all the jerks think you want sex (and all the nice, respectable guys stay away?)
mo mo Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I just spat out the water I was drinking and nearly choked on it. OP, seriously...get therapy. I see posts like this all the time at the love shy forum, except aimed at women. Misandry is just as bad as misogyny. Maybe you're projecting a certain "image"? I know that, if I see a girl who looks slutty, I assume she is. All the Ke$ha wannabees are examples of this. Maybe you're projecting a sexual image, and so all the jerks think you want sex (and all the nice, respectable guys stay away?) Preconceived notions at this point. I'll bet my life on it.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Preconceived notions at this point. I'll bet my life on it. Mine or the OP's? Can you please explain? Because that made no sense whatsoever.
mo mo Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Mine or the OP's? Can you please explain? Because that made no sense whatsoever. OP's. I commented on it earlier. I agree that she should consider therapy. I won't argue with her about guys wanting sex or that she may be very attractive, but her attitude right now is not healthy and she probably could not handle a relationship even if she met Mr. Right.
I am healed Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 if you are so attractive, educated, kind, and you're tired of the wrong men approaching you. Why don't you approach men that you think would be nice? hmmm... this way you can actually go after the kind of men who have been elluding you your entire life.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Wait, let me explain something: The people at the love shy forum aren't bad people at all. They're hurt, bitter, angry people, and they rant a lot, but they aren't bad people...underneath it all. The OP is also not a bad person. She's hurt, bitter, and angry, and ranting. I just didn't want her to go down that path of hating an entire gender, just because a couple of loose screws are around. And I was sincere when I said that she probably is presenting herself inappropriately. Someone who dresses like Paris Hilton is probably going to be considered 'easy', compared to someone who dresses conservatively, yet sexy.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 if you are so attractive, educated, kind, and you're tired of the wrong men approaching you. Why don't you approach men that you think would be nice? hmmm... this way you can actually go after the kind of men who have been elluding you your entire life. This is a very good idea. More women should approach men. That way, shy guys can have an equal footing in the dating game.
Mad Max Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I am a drop dead gorgeous female Stopped reading after this. A little humility goes a long way.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 A clue for you, OP...if you're dressing like this woman, you're wearing too little clothes.
Mad Max Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 A clue for you, OP...if you're dressing like this woman, you're wearing too little clothes. Women in clubs wear more clothing than that.
Woggle Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I won't judge you too much because I have been through bouts where I have been this bitter about women and sometimes I still have moments like this but I know this is not healthy. Try to see men as individual people who are all different from one another. There is no monolithic male gender. Start to view men as just human beings like yourself and possible change the circles that you choosing men from and things might begin to change. Also if you come across a man that you find appealing take the initiative yourself. Many good guys who are not cocky and arrogant players tend to think they have no chance with attractive women so they don't even try. I am not saying do all the work but at least let them know the door is open and let the jerks know it is closed.
dispatch3d Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Hey. Well I'm sad to see someone this upset about men. I really don't like seeing upset people, and I'm sure deep down you are a very nice person. However, I can tell from some things expressed in your post that you aren't coming off that way to men (or possibly people) you meet. Take a hard look at this. I mean, on the positive dating for you is going to become very very very easy if you can get over this type of attitude. Here is literally what you wrote (while admittedly you were very upset) about people, society, and specifically men. and most of these scumbag idiots...they can be butt ****ing ugly men of this society are insane...sick freaks....the sickest i cant imagine most men these days are raving sociopaths psychopaths idiots sickos people are weird crazy and insane .its the worst society ever--no society can be full of such low life low class degenerate sick people to exist who use others in this way.... When someone's angry they often say things they don't mean, I'm sure this is exactly what happened here. But you really have to figure out how to get around this attitude. If you really truly believe all men just want sex from you, I'm sure you will have no problem reaffirming your belief that that is all every guy wants. Really, it's kind of a leap of faith you have to make. You meet lots of people, decide to like them all for who they are. Then start to figure out who the best people are deep down, and a guy like that is probably going to be the guy you go out with. It's the sort of thing that REQUIRES a positive outlook. If you go into something like this with hate - be it making friends or finding a boyfriend - more than enough people have TONS of problems they cannot contain, so they'll have no problem being mean to a person who is already mean to them. Sure, I know you don't intend to come off this way, but start taking an inner-focus to your problems, and be more positive. I know that sounds difficult to do. It's like just be nice+cool and everything will work itself out. It takes some self improvement, but eventually you can just decide to be happy and you are happy almost always. I mean, I get upset, but we are talking hours here. Never ever ever months or weeks, and rarely days. This is definitely a workable problem. Get out of the hypothetical examples, and give some real world examples of guys being "dicks". I think you'll see immediate improvements pretty quickly.
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