NeNinja Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 I'm layed over between connecting flights and just got a text from my ex.I ran into one of her better friends last night (I was with my date. It was slightly interesting. I'll write it up later if I have time.) and ended up telling her to tell her I said 'Happy New Year.' The text said this: "I'm sorry. I really just want to be done. Please stop trying." The thing is I wasn't trying and I want to let her know. I figured this would be the perfect opportunity to send a sort or NC email and maybe clear the air a little bit. I wasn't 'trying' anything. I think she might be hurt that I was out with another girl or maybe vain enough to think that I was just trying to make her jealous. I might want her back someday, but not today/this week/this month. (Her name), I just got off the plane and just got your text. I'm sorry you're upset. I still care about you but none of this had anything to do with trying to get you back. I know what I did was wrong. I'm sorry it happened, but it will never happen again. I want you to know how sorry I am, but I also want you to know that I understand. Breaking up was the right decision for us. In the last two or three weeks I've figured out more about my life, the universe, and everything than I have in the last two or three years. I wake up in the morning with goals. I know what I want and I'm finally doing something about it. Love? Sincerely? an inside joke? (My name) What does it need?
january2010 Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 It needs to not be sent. Because: I'm layed over between connecting flights and just got a text from my ex.I ran into one of her better friends last night (I was with my date. It was slightly interesting. I'll write it up later if I have time.) and ended up telling her to tell her I said 'Happy New Year.' The text said this: "I'm sorry. I really just want to be done. Please stop trying." The thing is I wasn't trying and I want to let her know. I figured this would be the perfect opportunity to send a sort or NC email and maybe clear the air a little bit. I wasn't 'trying' anything. I think she might be hurt that I was out with another girl or maybe vain enough to think that I was just trying to make her jealous. I might want her back someday, but not today/this week/this month. (Her name), I just got off the plane and just got your text. I'm sorry you're upset. I still care about you but none of this had anything to do with trying to get you back. I know what I did was wrong. I'm sorry it happened, but it will never happen again. I want you to know how sorry I am, but I also want you to know that I understand. Breaking up was the right decision for us. In the last two or three weeks I've figured out more about my life, the universe, and everything than I have in the last two or three years. I wake up in the morning with goals. I know what I want and I'm finally doing something about it. Love? Sincerely? an inside joke? (My name) What does it need? You know what you want but you only might want her, just not right now. You're seeing other people. She wants to be done. I suggest full NC. Let her get on with her life rather than selfishly keeping her on the backburner until you're ready to take her back.
WTRanger Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 (edited) "I'm sorry. I really just want to be done. Please stop trying." What part about that makes you think you need to send a NC email to your ex? What about about PLEASE STOP TRYING can't you get through your head? Your email needs nothing because if you send it, you might as well castrate yourself. DO NOT SEND ANYTHING! Here's a fancy thought, how about you actually listen to her? How about you not push her to the brink of insanity due to your extreme need to cling onto her? You haven't learn jack squat in just three weeks. It's impossible to make any sort of real life change in three weeks. You think you've learned something, but you haven't. If you had learned anything, you'd learn that your ex really wants nothing to do with you. Seriously, what are you trying to accomplish with that email? Apologizing for going on a date with a new girl? Are you F'ing nuts!!?!!? You two are broken up, you do have the green light to date new girls. You don't need her approval for that one. Do you really think she'd say the same to you? Do you think she'd ask for your forgiveness if she's been on dates with new guys? The other thing that made me spit my coffee all over the keyboard was the fact that you were on a date with a new girl, and you told a friend of the ex's to tell your ex, "Happy New Year." Are you insane or just really dense in the head? How would you feel if you were the new girl? That violates just about every code in the dating book. Work on yourself for a bit before you seriously think about dating again. Edited January 1, 2011 by WTRanger
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