Margot Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 An Intro: The past two weeks I have been singing this song and it's just stuck in my mind. Of all the almost 10,000 songs in my iTunes this one I can't get out. Well I have been in NC for almost 5 months now, and yesterday I got tempted to find out something about my ex. We don't have FB so I can't snoop in there. Well after searching (I'm a librarian so I know how to find stuff LOL) I found out he opened a YouTube channel days after he broke up with me (BTW I have one for almost 5 years) and I started looking for the videos he has seen. And there I saw that he watched the video of the song I had stuck in my head the same week I was singing it. I know it's kind of silly of me, but I just can't believe that of all the songs in the world we were both singing or at least listening to the same song the same week. The song is not even my favorite and the group is not even in my top 5. When we were together we used to joke that we had some super power connection because we always called each other at the same time (giving both of us busy signals), we could spent time apart shopping and came back with the same stuff, we would e-mailed each other the same links, and I can go on and on. But the songs it's just weird because we haven't talked to each other for 5 months. He doesn't have access to any of my stuff and knows nothing about me because I had to disappear to deal with this break up. What does this really mean? Maybe it's just a coincidence. Any stories like mine? Have you ever thought you had this weird connection with your significant other?
stopthemadness Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 An Intro: The past two weeks I have been singing this song and it's just stuck in my mind. Of all the almost 10,000 songs in my iTunes this one I can't get out. Well I have been in NC for almost 5 months now, and yesterday I got tempted to find out something about my ex. We don't have FB so I can't snoop in there. Well after searching (I'm a librarian so I know how to find stuff LOL) I found out he opened a YouTube channel days after he broke up with me (BTW I have one for almost 5 years) and I started looking for the videos he has seen. And there I saw that he watched the video of the song I had stuck in my head the same week I was singing it. I know it's kind of silly of me, but I just can't believe that of all the songs in the world we were both singing or at least listening to the same song the same week. The song is not even my favorite and the group is not even in my top 5. When we were together we used to joke that we had some super power connection because we always called each other at the same time (giving both of us busy signals), we could spent time apart shopping and came back with the same stuff, we would e-mailed each other the same links, and I can go on and on. But the songs it's just weird because we haven't talked to each other for 5 months. He doesn't have access to any of my stuff and knows nothing about me because I had to disappear to deal with this break up. What does this really mean? Maybe it's just a coincidence. Any stories like mine? Have you ever thought you had this weird connection with your significant other? Wow Youve been N/C for 5 months! Iam so proud of you. I wish I could be that strong! We (both of us) never go more then a few weeks before one of us breaks down and contacts the other. As far as the song I think thats cool. Did you tell him? Sometimes my ears ring and Id like to think Hes thinking of me. Silly I know..
Author Margot Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 Thanks for your reply. My NC of 5 months is just unbelievable. I used to be so weak for his words but I just had enough. I have to tell you that he breaks NC every week. He sends me e-mails, text, and stuff via my brother, is just that I don't respond to any of it. He hurt me bad and hasn't apologize for anything. BTW I'm not going to tell him, I just can't break the super 5 months NC LOL Maybe one day in the future I would tell him...and I think that we would find out more weird stuff like this.
Nkognito Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I am reading a book right now that will really have a impact on what you just discovered. I am just blown away by some of the things that tie us to each other. Here is the first 20 minutes Here is Oprah talking about the Law of Attraction Its proven a few good read.
cerridwen Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 (edited) I don't know the book but I know a bit about synchronicity. (Not sure if that's what The Secret deals with.) Anyway, synchonicity has been happening a lot in my life lately and more happens when you keep your eyes open to it. Pretty crazy (but oddly reassuring) stuff. Edited November 29, 2010 by cerridwen
AlisaMarie Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I broke NC last week (I shouldn't have because it just caused more pain for the present) but I texted him in the morning. After going back and fourth he said "what made you text me?" The night before I was thinking of him so hard and just needed to know he was ok, that's all. And that's what I told him. He said that he was typing me texts that night to see if I was ok, but couldn't bring himself to send them. May be just a coincidence, but I think we have a greater connection. But it's over now anyway. I do love your story though!
Author Margot Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 Cerridwen: You just made me curious about reading more about synchronicity because even though I'm a very down to earth meaning that I don't believe in spiritual, mystical stuff I don't know why but I believe that some people have this real connection that even when they are apart the may do or think the same thing. Like a Luke & Leia kind of thing in Star Wars: A New Hope (sorry but I'm a geek ) AlishaMarie: I understand you completely. Before my NC I used to have those kind of "weird connections" with my ex. After the NC I can't tell if we had thought the same things like your story because I don't talk to him. But yes I do believe people have those connections but hey they decided to leave us and maybe they are going to figure out that those things don't happen to everyone. My ex used to say that those "weird moments of synchronicity" was for the love we had for each other. Blahhh Well I don't know but stuff keeps happening and he decided to leave, maybe the love wasn't strong enough after all . I just remember another "weird coincidence" that happened to me like two months ago. (Remember that I have been in NC for 5 months). Well one day it was a free day of work in the university where I work to remember a battle that happened in my country. The only people in the country who has that day free is the state university after a great debacle (that's another story). Well every year since I was a little girl I go to the town where this battle happened to commemorate that day. This year I decided to stay home and do some grad school stuff. I was so into my work that I even forgot to do lunch. Well like 3:00pm I go to my kitchen to make my lunch and I decided to look at my window until the food is done. I only looked outside for 2 minutes and in those 2 minutes my ex was walking thru my street. He doesn't leave near, he doesn't work near, my street is almost a dead end, and he was walking. I live in a 16 floor so he can't see me but I saw that he was talking on the phone and looking at my window. The weird thing for me is that the only two minutes that I decide to look at the window are the exact two minutes he walks thru my street. If I had eaten my lunch at the time I always do (12) I haven't seen him. He must assumed that I went to the activities in the other town because he knows I have been going since I was a little girl. So why I saw him? Why I never look outside my window and the time that I decide to do it he passes by? He doesn't know that I saw him and I haven't told anyone...but I think that maybe those stupid signal. I haven't seen him since we broke up in july and last september I saw him thru my window... P.S. I hope you understand my english because it's not my native language although I'm moving next year to the states to pursue my Ph.D. So I have to practice a lot. Keep on with those stories...
AlisaMarie Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Margot... that story gave me chills. Serioulsy!
Author Margot Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 Margot... that story gave me chills. Serioulsy! Ha! Imagine me when I saw him pass by. I think that I almost **** my pants LOL You know that for the past 5 months I have been avoiding him, I stopped going to the place we used to hang out, and places where I might run into him or one of his friend...and bam! there he was... But the story that still really creeps me out is the song...I just keep thinking that the song: is not a hit, is old, is not even the best song of the group, he doesn't even have the cd... One day I'm going to have the mysterious explanation for this incident. Well at least this stories just keep my mind of my hurting, crying, and suffering.
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