U1987 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 So I'm pretty bummed out/hungover because I've had a pretty bad stroke of bad luck today. I was supposed to go on the first date I've had in a while with a cute coworker I met about 2 weeks ago tonight, but as I was driving to her campus, she texted me saying she had to cancel because she was in the hospital. She was moving furniture around with her roommate. A book case fell over, hit her and cut her on the head. I sent her a text message saying "That's terrible! I hope you're okay. Call/text me as soon as you get out" but to be honest, I was really skeptical. I really believed it was an elaborate excuse to blow me off. However, I just got home and check her facebook mobile; she posted about it on her profile and everyone she knows is wishing her well, so I guess she was telling the truth. The thing is, how should I conduct my interactions with this girl until she gets better? I was thinking about offering to visit her in the hospital or at home when she gets discharged, but then I realized that I barely know this girl (we haven't even had a first date yet; tonight was supposed to be our first) and I'm worried offering to visit might come off as overbearing or creepy. And I'm also wondering if I should send a second text asking if she's alright, and if so, how soon. How should I conduct my communication with this girl and how should I go about rescheduling a date with her?
D-Lish Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Wait it out. Let her set up the next date. Don't offer anything- including your condolences.
810 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 personally, i would get a flower (just one and not rose) and visit her. if anything, it's a friendly/nice gesture. you can meet and chat a bit too...after all, she's your coworker.
jerbear Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 And I'm also wondering if I should send a second text asking if she's alright, and if so, how soon. How should I conduct my communication with this girl and how should I go about rescheduling a date with her? No 2nd text. You already gave her your condolences. She knows she should contact you when she gets out. You can reschedule after you stalk her Facebook profile, when she says she is out. Another thing, you can get her a card, flower, stuffed animal, something small and inexpensive for her and deliver it to her.
Author U1987 Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 (edited) personally, i would get a flower (just one and not rose) and visit her. if anything, it's a friendly/nice gesture. you can meet and chat a bit too...after all, she's your coworker. No 2nd text. You already gave her your condolences. She knows she should contact you when she gets out. You can reschedule after you stalk her Facebook profile, when she says she is out. Another thing, you can get her a card, flower, stuffed animal, something small and inexpensive for her and deliver it to her. No offense to any people of Italian decent on here, but she's your stereotypical, hard-partying "Guidette." I'm just worrying this might come off as old-fashioned and uncool to a girl like her. I would like to keep my gestures, I dunno, as "Un-material" as possible. What about food though? Like, offering to bring over take-out? Edited November 17, 2010 by U1987
jerbear Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 No offense to any people of Italian decent on here, but she's your stereotypical, hard-partying "Guidette." I'm just worrying this might come off as old-fashioned and uncool to a girl like her. I would like to keep my gestures, I dunno, as "Un-material" as possible. What about food though? Like, offering to bring over take-out? Well that changes things! No food, the hospital provides a diet. Now "contraband" food is another story. Then again who knows. You know what, just ask her and show up. It could be your first date. Unconventional but you know; she may never forget that you're the Hospital dude.
810 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 You know what, just ask her and show up. It could be your first date. Unconventional but you know; she may never forget that you're the Hospital dude. ditto! No offense to any people of Italian decent on here, but she's your stereotypical, hard-partying "Guidette." I'm just worrying this might come off as old-fashioned and uncool to a girl like her. I would like to keep my gestures, I dunno, as "Un-material" as possible. What about food though? Like, offering to bring over take-out? do what feels right to you.
nice-easy-day Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I wouldn't trust her for a second. curious, what makes you think that?
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 I wouldn't trust her for a second. She posted pictures of her cut and the spilled books allover her floor.
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