Kain Highwind Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I'm gonna go ahead and say I've made ALOT of topics here about this girl. She's the one who I think won't last long in her current relationship. I love her. I've been thinking about it and I honestly feel safe in saying that I love her. I'm always thinking about her and it just makes me so happy... Whenever we talked, no matter about what, it cheered me up, especially if I was having a bad day. If I was and I heard her voice, I instantly felt so much better. Whenever we hung out, I was happier around her more htan I am around anyone else. I appreciated every single time together and they were some of the happiest experiences I've had in years. I can't describe the feelings I had.. I was just so happy to be around her. Whenever we were close together, like watching a movie, I just had so many butterflies in my stomach. I loved every second of it and it honestly made me feel like the happiest man on Earth. Her voice is beautiful, she's beautiful, and pretty much I love everything about her. I've been in alot of relationships before but.. She's just so much better. I care about her more than I do anyone else and I'd do anything I could to make her happy. If we ever got together, she'd be my number one and I'd treat her as best as I could (I'm positive I'd treat her better than who she's with). I'd stay faithful to her (I mean, even if Taylor Swift started humping my leg like a dog, I'd still tell her to go away) and I'd just want her to know that I'd care for her. When classes started, just walking past each other and waving just made me so happy... She's special to me... More special to anyone in the world and I just would love to get with her... That'd make me so happy... I just wish she knew how much I care for her. I mean, I don't even care that much (I still do but not as much as my past relationships) about sex... Just knowing that she'd like me back would make me happy. I just want her to care about me as much as I do her... Just knowing that we are a big part of each others' lives. I just can't describe how much I care for her and how happy it'd make me if she did too. I know I can't, but if I could just tell her how I feel, I think that could possibly change her opinion of me... Knowing how much I care about her. I now I care about her more than her current boyfriend. I know I've made alot of topics about this but... I think I can comfortably say that I love her
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Wow, forgot to post the second part lol I was thinking of telling our mutual friend. He's the one I've been confiding in about this and he's the one who has been helping me. I was thinking about telling him just so I can say it to someone just so I won't say it to her. I'm hoping thatif I tell him (not as dramatic as this topic, which I'll admit, was a bit dramatized >_>), then someday he may be like 'Hey, remember ____? He really did care about you" or something We've been confiding in each others' problems and I'd just feel better if I told him this. I know telling a girl how you feel never works but I'm wondering if its possible that if he sort of lets her know how much I care about her (in a less dramatic way lol), then she may rethink her opinion of me, even though she's with someone? She turned me down for him but I think she may have just thought that I thought she was cute or something. She doesn't know how I actually feel...
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 We've been confiding in each others' problems and I'd just feel better if I told him this. I know telling a girl how you feel never works but I'm wondering if its possible that if he sort of lets her know how much I care about her (in a less dramatic way lol), then she may rethink her opinion of me, even though she's with someone? She turned me down for him but I think she may have just thought that I thought she was cute or something. She doesn't know how I actually feel... You have about a chance in a million of that happening. It would appear that she's not interested in you, and there's very little you can do about it.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 You have about a chance in a million of that happening. It would appear that she's not interested in you, and there's very little you can do about it. People say this all the time but I seriously think that she may have had feelings for me without realizing it We were just way too close for friends
walktheline Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Is this the same girl that's turned you down twice? If so you need to forget about her completely. NC all the way and maybe consider talking to someone such as a counselor to show you how to get past this. Just reading your post, you are starting to sound like you are obsessed with this person and that's not emotionally or mentally healthy.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Is this the same girl that's turned you down twice? If so you need to forget about her completely. NC all the way and maybe consider talking to someone such as a counselor to show you how to get past this. Just reading your post, you are starting to sound like you are obsessed with this person and that's not emotionally or mentally healthy. Yes, it is There are just too many good things that make me think that she may have feelings without realizing it. I know people use that as a bargaining thing but I seriously think so She was always very happy when we were together. My friend hung out with her recently and he said she kept on talking about how awesome I am and how great of a time she always had with me. He said she kept bringing it up. She was always pretty flirty with me and her body language (I know the signs/signals) was giving off good signs whenever we hung out. And when we saw each other like last week, she was way too happy. Combined with the fact that the current relationship she's in has way too many aspects that I've seen break up relationships before... I think she may turn around I know that almost everyone says that but... There's just too many good signs (I'm not the only one who thinks so). I'm a believer that feelings can change so... Yeah
Bridgey Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Ok, so I went back and read some of the other posts you have written about this girl, and based on what I've read here is what I have to say: You HAVE to forget about this girl. You are wasting so many emotions on a girl who simply does not have romantic feelings for you. You have made it crystal clear you wanted to be with her and she still turned you down, twice. Having a mutual friend tell her how you feel about her is not going to make her break up with her BF to be with you. Move on. All the way on. Stop torturing yourself by hanging around her and talking to her all the time. A lot of people have already told you this and I'm not quite sure why you haven't listened yet. Go find a girl who truly wants to be with you from the start. Find a girl who is going to like you just as much as you like her. You will end up way happier.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Ok, so I went back and read some of the other posts you have written about this girl, and based on what I've read here is what I have to say: You HAVE to forget about this girl. You are wasting so many emotions on a girl who simply does not have romantic feelings for you. You have made it crystal clear you wanted to be with her and she still turned you down, twice. Having a mutual friend tell her how you feel about her is not going to make her break up with her BF to be with you. Move on. All the way on. Stop torturing yourself by hanging around her and talking to her all the time. A lot of people have already told you this and I'm not quite sure why you haven't listened yet. Go find a girl who truly wants to be with you from the start. Find a girl who is going to like you just as much as you like her. You will end up way happier. I'm not thinking that it will make her break up. If anything, I think that it may just let her know that I genuinely care about her and that I didn't want to get with her just for a superficial reason like I thought she was cute.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 And I am listening but there wre just too many little things that I noticed that you really can't control (nips, eyes, etc) that appear when you like someone I mean... They were friends for five years before getting together
Cracker Jack Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Dude, you're creating way too many false scenarios in your mind. You need to just let it go. Chasing after her constantly will do nothing for you. I'm sure she knows how much you're into her, but if she hasn't shown any interest in terms of forming a relationship, then you need to just understand this and move on. You're doing more good than bad in hoping she acknowledges these "feelings" or whatever you think she has without realizing she has them.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Dude, you're creating way too many false scenarios in your mind. You need to just let it go. Chasing after her constantly will do nothing for you. I'm sure she knows how much you're into her, but if she hasn't shown any interest in terms of forming a relationship, then you need to just understand this and move on. You're doing more good than bad in hoping she acknowledges these "feelings" or whatever you think she has without realizing she has them. I seriously don't think she does I got turned down the day after she went on a date with her bf just by asking her on a date. I didn't say anything like how much I like her And no offense, but I've osted about this on other boards too and some of them were being unanimous in saying yes lol. I don't know which to listen to >_>
denise_xo Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 People say this all the time but I seriously think that she may have had feelings for me without realizing it We were just way too close for friends This type of false consciousness doesn't actually exist. Be good to yourself and move on, and find someone you can have a mutually loving relationship with. Good luck.
Bridgey Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Girls don't date guys based on how much they like them. They date guys they are romantically interested in. If she wanted to be with you she would have said yes when you asked her out the first time.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Girls don't date guys based on how much they like them. They date guys they are romantically interested in. If she wanted to be with you she would have said yes when you asked her out the first time. I don't know if its different for guys and girls but I started to have some feelings for one girl after I learned that she liked me :/
Bridgey Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Well, you have posted here looking for opinions and advice and almost everyone has given you the same advice. Move on. If you honestly think there is still a chance you two will end up together I doubt there is anything anyone can say to make you think otherwise. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you end up happy
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Well, you have posted here looking for opinions and advice and almost everyone has given you the same advice. Move on. If you honestly think there is still a chance you two will end up together I doubt there is anything anyone can say to make you think otherwise. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you end up happy Thanks I apologize if I come off as being idiotic or stupid for ignoring, but I'm not doing it on purpose. I'm just really confused. Everyone here is saying no, but everyone at another site is saying yes and I just can't decide to listen to And I honestly, with all my heart, think we will. I've seen people reason by saying that before (and I actually have >_>) but... I just can't describe my feeling right now. I just think it will work out
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 And I know my limits I'm not gonna go onto the point where I'm hurting myself. I witnessed my dad do that before and I don't wanna go through with it
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 And even though I still don't know what I do (Both forums hold the same weight and I just can't decide...), if I do go through with it, should I tell my friend?
Bridgey Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Feel free to confide in your friend if you think it will make you feel better, but don't do it so he'll end up telling her. That is a bit highschoolish IMO. Maybe you should set a time limit for yourself as to how long you will pursue this possible relationship. Tell yourself "after this many weeks/months I will move on completely if it doesn't work out". That way there is a foreseeable end to all of this, whether or not you two end up together. Once you have a time limit set you can do whatever you feel necessary to win this girl over until the time runs out.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 Feel free to confide in your friend if you think it will make you feel better, but don't do it so he'll end up telling her. That is a bit highschoolish IMO. Maybe you should set a time limit for yourself as to how long you will pursue this possible relationship. Tell yourself "after this many weeks/months I will move on completely if it doesn't work out". That way there is a foreseeable end to all of this, whether or not you two end up together. Once you have a time limit set you can do whatever you feel necessary to win this girl over until the time runs out. Well it is community college and she's still a teenager >_> I thought it was a good idea because I just cna't go to her and tell her how I feel. It'd just be too much, catch her off guard, etc I was thinking that if he like said that I really cared about her or whatever and sort of went into what I said (not much though), it may make her actually think about it. Like "He didn't just think I was cute?" or something Might make her decide to give me a chance one day
Bridgey Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Well I'm 19 and I still find it a bit immature. Girls like maturity and confidence. My honest opinion is don't have your friend say anything to her about how YOU feel.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 Well I'm 19 and I still find it a bit immature. Girls like maturity and confidence. My honest opinion is don't have your friend say anything to her about how YOU feel. k, you're the same age lol I don't know what I should do then... I want her to know how I feel about her but I just can't tell her myself. She's in a relationship and I know for a fact that never works but I want her to know that she meant more than me than "Oh you're cute I wanna have sex"
Bridgey Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Well there isn't much you can do while she is still with her current boyfriend. So until she becomes single again just let things be. If her and her boyfriend break up you can tell her exactly how you feel. If she still doesn't want to date you then you move on.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 Well there isn't much you can do while she is still with her current boyfriend. So until she becomes single again just let things be. If her and her boyfriend break up you can tell her exactly how you feel. If she still doesn't want to date you then you move on. I know I'm going to have to if she doens't. I may have come off as stubborn but I realize that I have only one chance left. And I seriously can't see them lasting long at all.. THere are just too many thngs that I've seen break others up that's present between them and if they break up, I'm hoping she sees that I still care and that she gives me a chance
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 Well... I told my friend how I felt He said that it did sound like I love her and that he'd just keep quiet about it unless I wanted him to. I told him to wait. He said that he would have liked me being with her now because he knows that I'd treat her well and that he can see that I really care for her
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