alittlejaded Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 A little background info first-- we were HS sweethearts and dated for several years, but eventually broke up. Even though it was the most painful experience of my life, I moved on and never tried to contact him. Fast forward to the present (several years later), he contacts me out of the blue. It was so emotionally overwhelming for me, and I let him know that, but he continued to text and email me. Ok, so I am thinking that there might be something here, especially since the L word came up. We decide to meet (we live in different cities) after several months and end up in bed together. It was very emotional experience I thought for both of us, but then he tells me he has a girlfriend that he is committed to. What?!??!? Then he throws in "I will always love you". A couple of months go by and he asks me to come visit him when he is on a business trip. Even though my head is telling me it's not right, my heart books the flight and I find myself with him again. He is with business associates, so he tells them I am an "old friend" and we go have dinner and drinks. Well, his business buddies start flirting with me because they think I am available. He doesn't say a word until we get back to the room then he blows up on me telling me he should have never let me come--ouch! Emotional me starts to cry, and we end up sleeping together again. In the morning after the alcohol wore off, I told him I couldn't do this anymore. He has a girlfriend and I hate lying. He said he understood and we parted ways. He recently texted me again telling me he will be in town in a couple of weeks. Since he really hasn't spoken to me since all this took place, I pretty much know he is looking to hook up with no strings attached. So, here's my question: I want to know why an ex would contact me after 10 plus years of NC and basically want nothing more than an out of town hook up? Why me when he knows I still love him and he puts me right back to square one every time I see him?
Am4Real Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Jaded, Although your screen name implies being tired and worn out as in “jaded”, it sounds more to me like this other individual is the one torn and worn out with being unsure of who he really is. I hope after this experience you will find trust in the right man…and your heart finds all the rewards possible. Do take care. Am4Real
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