agt2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Okay I'm a male in my mid-late 20's and I've been on plentyoffish for the past couple of months and have done really well on there. So I decided to joining after hearing everyone on here talk about it. Now mind you I'm a good looking guy, good career, etc. I used all the same photos on OKC as I did on POF and actually added a couple of new ones and made my profile more in-depth. I message all ladies in the same category, very good looking, so I'd say all 8's and up, with their career already together, seems like good head on their shoulders etc. And pretty much email them with the same standard message tailored toward their profile, personaltiy, interests, etc. On Plentyoffish for every 10 messages I sent out I'd say I'd get 5 or 6 responses. So 50%-60% response rate. Overall I met some really good girls on their with their stuff together on there. Now I've been on OKC for 4 days. I've sent out 11 messages to get only 2 responses! That's only about a 18% response rate! Out of the 2 both seem like they are going to lead to a date. Why is the response rate so much lower on OKC? Is it me or do you guys/girls have the same issue? I can't wait for all your comments!
irc333 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Typically the same women are on the same sites (same faces, across the board on other dating sites as well - at least in my geographic area) so it's moot. It kind of says something about how unrealistic they're being, if they have 5 profiles on 5 different dating sites, and they've been on these sites for years....says something about how unrealistic their expetations are. By seeing these same people, I've came to the conclusion that there's actually a "finite" amt of people on dating sites in a certain geographic location. And they should come to this realization too, that when they start seeing the same men that had emailed (and they ignored), that they should start giving men a shot.
Cee Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 OKC has a persistent reputation for having low response rates for men. It might be that the pool of women is smaller. I don't really know. If you go into the OKC forums, you will see this issue debated ad infinitum. If you can deal with the 90% of troll responses, you might find an answer there. Also, on OKC, men complain that women want to chat/email & not ever set a date. I've heard that OKC is for people who aren't serious about dating. In a way, it's true. I've gone out with a number of guys who seemed to do OKC as a diversion or a way to get sex. I don't know if women treat the site that way or not. I was sincere in my desire to date. Look at people's date of signing up for OKC. It's telling. I tend to do better with guys who've been on the site a short time than ones on it for over a year or two.
Raderick Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 OKC has a persistent reputation for having low response rates for men. It might be that the pool of women is smaller. I don't really know. If you go into the OKC forums, you will see this issue debated ad infinitum. If you can deal with the 90% of troll responses, you might find an answer there. Also, on OKC, men complain that women want to chat/email & not ever set a date. I've heard that OKC is for people who aren't serious about dating. In a way, it's true. I've gone out with a number of guys who seemed to do OKC as a diversion or a way to get sex. I don't know if women treat the site that way or not. I was sincere in my desire to date. Look at people's date of signing up for OKC. It's telling. I tend to do better with guys who've been on the site a short time than ones on it for over a year or two. That's weird, because besides the first issue with chatting/e-mailing and not wanting to set a date, replace OKC with POF and you have my exact experience and what I have heard from others.
naya1 Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 i prefer okcupid over pof. i think you should too. to be honest. dont mind the response time, you just joined too. its gonna take a while.
Raderick Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 i prefer okcupid over pof. i think you should too. to be honest. dont mind the response time, you just joined too. its gonna take a while. Off topic, but your avatar deserves many super-cool awesome points.
BobSacamento Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 I have been on more dates through POF than OKCupid. However the number of decent dates has been been pretty even.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 OKC is great for women in terms of response rate. I think I got about 8 responses out of the 10 messages. But lots of men seem to be looking for sex and are willing to misrepresent themselves to get it.
shadowplay Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 OKC has a persistent reputation for having low response rates for men. It might be that the pool of women is smaller. I don't really know. If you go into the OKC forums, you will see this issue debated ad infinitum. If you can deal with the 90% of troll responses, you might find an answer there. Also, on OKC, men complain that women want to chat/email & not ever set a date. I've heard that OKC is for people who aren't serious about dating. In a way, it's true. I've gone out with a number of guys who seemed to do OKC as a diversion or a way to get sex. I don't know if women treat the site that way or not. I was sincere in my desire to date. Look at people's date of signing up for OKC. It's telling. I tend to do better with guys who've been on the site a short time than ones on it for over a year or two. I think they got rid of this feature. I can no longer see the join date on somebody's profile, just when they were last online. The last guy I briefly dated had been on the site since 2004 when he was only 19. It's interesting you say that most of the male population on OKC is just looking to get laid. Doesn't that seem surprising given that it caters to a more educated crowd?
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