K'aycie Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 I met someone and we’ve gone out about 5 times over 2 months and we talk on a daily basis. We live about 1.5 hours from each other and have different school schedules. We haven’t seen each other since over two weeks ago and I mentioned I’d like to see him again, but he really hasn’t made definitive plans in that regard, whereas I pretty much mentioned getting together the times we saw each other. He also doesn’t really say anyhing about our relationship, or that he likes me, things of that nature. One time, I sent him a message, that I missed him and was thinking about him, and he didn’t really say it back until I asked him and he said something along the lines of “sure I do”. I really like him, and maybe I am being a bit needy and insecure, but I can’t help but feel as though he is lukewarm towards me at this point. In which case, I’m not sure if I should mention this to him, or not say anything and just see how things continue to go. Thoughts?
Art_Critic Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 but I can’t help but feel as though he is lukewarm towards me at this point. ? Well.. you are still going out every couple of weeks.. but... To me it sounds like he has more than one iron in the fire.. Competition can be a good thing.. maybe it's time to heat it up some and squash the other girl he is seeing..
Art_Critic Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 The other thing is the driving distance.. He may not see you as great relationship potential because of that and might be keeping a closer girl on the front burner or in his sights.
Author K'aycie Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 Well.. you are still going out every couple of weeks.. but... To me it sounds like he has more than one iron in the fire.. Competition can be a good thing.. maybe it's time to heat it up some and squash the other girl he is seeing.. True. I really hope that's not the case and that is what I am afraid of. I would prefer if that was the case, that he could just come out and tell me, but I guess that's wishful thinking.
Author K'aycie Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 The other thing is the driving distance.. He may not see you as great relationship potential because of that and might be keeping a closer girl on the front burner or in his sights. Hadn't really thought of that. I guess I'll see how things go and try to get a feel for things the next time I see him. I'm just really starting to develop feelings towards him and I'd like to continue dating, but I can't really do that, if it's not mutual.
Author K'aycie Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 Geesh I guess you need a boat load of drama to get more responses around here. In any event, he's taking me to see the new Marky Mark flick (he knows how much I like him ), so I'm excited we get to spend some time together. Thanks Art Critic for your thoughts on the matter. For me, I know I am a little gun shy do to past experience, so just going to try to take it easy and enjoy things.
a_woman Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 you will get more responses if you post the thread on the 'dating' forum instead. it's a busier.
alexlakeman Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 Why did you pick a guy so far away? I met a woman a couple months ago, and she was physically attractive, we had good convo, but when I made the drive I did NOT invision myself making that drive on a regular basis if we would start dating.. it was about 40-50 miles.. forget it, lol... Also, have you put out yet? He might be focusing on the other one who is sleeping with him.. just brain storming..
Author K'aycie Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Cool I just figured out how to multi-quote. you will get more responses if you post the thread on the 'dating' forum instead. it's a busier. I think you may be right, but, it's a bit silly over there (not that I am not found of the silliness). Why did you pick a guy so far away? I met a woman a couple months ago, and she was physically attractive, we had good convo, but when I made the drive I did NOT invision myself making that drive on a regular basis if we would start dating.. it was about 40-50 miles.. forget it, lol... Also, have you put out yet? He might be focusing on the other one who is sleeping with him.. just brain storming.. He and I were introduced through my father's co-worker. Distance wise it's not that far, but with traffic, it takes a bit longer. As it stands, he's driven to me all the times so far and we communicate every day otherwise, so I don't know if the distance is a factor for him, but I suppose I could always ask nonchalantly. We've been "touchy touchy" with each other physically , but that's as far as it's gone. Hrm, I hope he isn't sleeping with other women while being physical with me, that would def push me away.
gsly Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 The other thing is the driving distance.. He may not see you as great relationship potential because of that and might be keeping a closer girl on the front burner or in his sights. distance shouldnt matter if you both love each other..
Author K'aycie Posted August 15, 2010 Author Posted August 15, 2010 distance shouldnt matter if you both love each other.. Very true, though I am sure everyone has their limits. If it's an issue or becomes an issue, hopefully we can reach a compromise, we can take turns driving and there's always mass transit.
Author K'aycie Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 I need help . Ok so its been a little over 2 weeks since we’ve last seen each other. I mentioned wanting to see him and I‘d drive to him (I don't want him to have to always be the one to drive here), but he mentioned seeing each other towards the end of the month at an opening event. We still speak daily, and recently when we spoke he mentioned he wasn’t doing anything this coming Wednesday, but no mention of getting together. If we see each other at the event he mentioned, it will be a month since we’ve seen each other last. Even though the distance plus our schedules are a factor, I really like this guy and I’d love to be exclusive and develop a relationship. At this point, I've entrusted that he isn't seeing anyone else and I haven't either, but my spidey senses are starting to tingle. Do I leave it alone and wait until we see each other next and just see how things go or bring it up over the phone. I rather things happen naturally in person, but its hard when we really haven't spent that much time together. Thoughts?
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