DenverBachelor Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 NC means NO CONTACT. NC is not NCUIFLCH. (No contact until I feel like contacting him/her). NC is for HEALING. NC is for moving on with your life and getting involved in bigger and better things. NC is for getting past your EX's BS so that you can get yourself in gear to meet someone far better than your ex. NC means NO CONTACT. Let me repeat -- when you break up with someone, you don't contact them. You don't remain their friend. You don't send texts to them after 8 months because you get this warm fuzzy feeling that all is right with the world. NC means no contact. NC does not mean you get drunk and figure, "screw it," and then proceed to call them, text them, drive by their house, call their mom, text their sister, etc. NC means you make every conceivable attempt never to have to deal with them again. NC is not for getting them back. You don't want them back -- trust me. If they left you, they're a quitter and only people with low self-esteem date quitters and only people with NO SELF WORTH want to date them a second time. So to re-cap -- if you're thinking about breaking NC, go drop a brick on your foot. It will be a lot less painful in the long run. 1
D-Lish Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Well, I can only assume your thread is about BB and his latest lapse. Meh, he did what he did, he's only human.
Author DenverBachelor Posted July 27, 2010 Author Posted July 27, 2010 Well, I can only assume your thread is about BB and his latest lapse. Meh, he did what he did, he's only human. I'm not calling out anyone by name in a new thread, but this is just a reminder for other people that this is the tried and proven way with moving forward. My thoughts about what BB did are in his thread.
Username37 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I was tempted to break NC. Thank God I didn't. NC = awesome
smk Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 in my experience I think we all have the lapses where we need a good kicking up the backside and be reminded that its our ex's that left us and as DB and a lot of other people on here have reminded me that its our ex's who quit on us - we did what we could - we fought to the end and you know what they obviously didnt deserve us hence its their loss.... I am shouldnt really be one to talk seeing the roller coaster that I have been through in the last 48 hours and been tempted to break NC - but I maintained and have today started day 15 of NC - sure it feels like crap and I miss her, but I am now beginning to see her for who she was, I am slowly taking of the rosy coloured glasses and reminding myself that even though we had some good times, we also had some bad times, there were alot of things said and done that remind me that she is not as perfect as I have made her to be in my mind. so for now after my temporary relapse I am sticking to NC...
This Hurts Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 This post is f*cking awesome; it's going on my signature! No, but seriously... thank you.
Treasa Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I haven't been tempted to break NC at all. As soon as I saw that my ex was signing up for Facebook (something I had invited him to but he insisted he never was going to do), I immediately blocked him. I don't plan on ever contacting him again, and if he knows what's good for him, he won't contact me, either. I don't want someone who's willing to throw me away. 1
bonpaw2008 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 NC is not for getting them back. You don't want them back -- trust me. If they left you, they're a quitter and only people with low self-esteem date quitters and only people with NO SELF WORTH want to date them a second time. Thank you I really needed this today. He is a f-ing quitter.
Ilovecake Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 I think breaking NC has a lot to do with accepting the reality of the absence of your relationship. People who break NC have not accepted the loss of the person and hold on to unrealistic hopes of reconciliation. They think that little bit of contact will remind their ex of the person they fell in love with unfortunately the person breaking NC is nothing like the person they fell in love with at all. Usually the contact just reminds the ex of why they broke up with you in the first place, because you loved them more than they loved you. Breaking NC strengthens your exs resolve to stay away from you. Once you start seeing the reality of the fact that your relationship no longer exists then you’ll be too embarrassed to break NC. Everyone just gets there on their own time.
Dark_of_the_Moon Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Thank you...I have had some really rough few days and I was starting to think about breaking. I wont, but sure was thinking of it. I need a slap upside the head sometimes. NC NC NC
silic0ntoad Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 @Dark & Others... You know what I did when I had the urge to break NC? (Which was often) I'd make myself angry. I get so furious I'd have to take a long run, blasting loud, angry music. I no longer have any desire to break NC. Sometimes, like a butterfly, it will pass as a fleeting thought, especially on days I know she is at her parents house. But then, I simply remember how stone cold she was, how poorly she treated me, how miserable I was, and how I felt. Remember that this too, shall come to pass, with time and healing. 1
LoveTruthChaos Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 If they left you, they're a quitter and only people with low self-esteem date quitters and only people with NO SELF WORTH want to date them a second time. THANK YOU. I need to be reminded of this! He was, is, and always will be a quitter. It's like he gave up before he even began. What a loser!
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