anne1707 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 ((((Hugs)))) Mickleb I'm so sorry to hear your news
LivingInMomsBasement Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I love animals and have had many pets where I had to make the decision to end their life. It is so hard, I know. I am 43 and to date I have had to put down 2 cats and 4 dogs. It never gets easier. The first dog that was old and ill....I just could not bring my self to put her down. She died one evening and it was a horrible scene....no passing peacefully in her sleep. Since the....I have made sure that no animal got to that point. I usually get another dog soon after...not to replace my beloved pet...but to give another that needs a loving home a good life and it gives me something to love, nurture and care for. Putting an animal down that is old or very ill is the last act of love and kindness you can do for them. It does not get easier.... I am so sorry for your loss. You did right by your beloved pet.
Author mickleb Posted June 26, 2010 Author Posted June 26, 2010 Thank you so much, LIMB. I think as soon as I can, I will foster a dog for the Cinammon Trust. It's a really cute charity we have here that puts carers in touch with elderly people who need their help. It was all a bit sudden, as she was fine Wedndesday morning but I got the news she had a tumor on her heart and one on her spleen, and her spleen was bleeding, also. It could have ruptured anytime. She was so brave, she must have put up with a lot of discomfort without insisting I knew about it. We had a lovely time in the last few minutes of her life. It was very peaceful and full of love. I kept really strong for her until she had gone and am quite proud of myself for that. I feel the sudden break-up I experienced last year was preparation for this. She was the love of my life. But I will be fine and she is at rest. x
LivingInMomsBasement Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Fostering an animal is a great way to give. I volunteer for several organizations and am the Animal Welfare Director for a shelter in Ohio. The need for foster homes is big....and good fosters are hard to find....and we supply food, veterinary care, etc. And if you fall in love....you can adopt your foster pet too!
GrayClouds Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Lovers may come and go, but a good dog stays in your heart forever. .
sedgwick Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) Oh, I am so sorry!! That's horrible. One of my cats is 15 years old now and I know it won't be long until it's time to say goodbye to him, and I can't bear the thought. My best friend went through a tough breakup a few years ago and a few weeks later had to put her beloved dog to sleep. I remember her saying, "Yo-Yo has been with me through four boyfriends." She told me about the time she packed up all her stuff and left a possessive, needy boyfriend while he was at work, and how as she drove away with Yo-Yo in the passenger seat, she felt a tremendous love for her for always being there no matter what. Please take care of yourself. <3 Edited June 26, 2010 by sedgwick
Treasa Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) I'm so sorry. I love my animals more than almost everyone in my life. They are always there for us. I think it's great what you're going to be doing, but you have my sympathies. And you just gave me another reason to hate my ex. When a beloved pet of mine died a few years ago, he was pretty emotionless and just basically said, "Sorry." Or something along those lines. Edited June 26, 2010 by Treasa Forgot to add
JamesM Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Four years ago, our family dog died in our arms. It was very difficult. I understand the pain and loss you are enduring. It is not an easy time. Now that we have had another for a few years, I dread the day that we lose her as she is even closer to us as our children are getting older. Yet I know that now I cherish each day more with her knowing what will happen. Hugs and all my sympathy.
GrayClouds Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 I feel the sudden break-up I experienced last year was preparation for this. She was the love of my life. But I will be fine and she is at rest. x For the new among us who is gnashing our teeth and shouting at the moon trying to figure out why the break-up, this is something you can take away from it. If done well, once you get through grief and to the other side, you a new strength that can not be taking way. mickleb, I hope your doing well. <:3 .
Author mickleb Posted June 27, 2010 Author Posted June 27, 2010 Thank you everyone. I'm tired out after making sure she got safely to her resting place and that her send-off was perfect. I will probably post here more over the next few days whilst I continue to deal. The aparment feels strange.. Thank you again. <3 x
anne1707 Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Mickleb My H were only talking earlier of a cat we lost a few years ago. Making that decision was so painful but we also knew it was the right thing to do for her. The initial thoughts and feelings are so painful but it does get easier. Although we can still sometimes get sad when we think of her, we also remember the tremendous pleasure from all the years we had with her. We can even think of things that were "right" about that last day we had with her. To me, and I am sure to many others including you, this price we pay as a "responsible pet owner" is worth it for all the joy and love they bring us.
TaraMaiden Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 mickleb.... Well. You know. With you all the way. All I can say, convinced as I am of my own individual belief, is that we haven't seen the last of her. But that's just me.... But when I consider that countless times, animals seem to do a whole lot better at being complete and wonderfully caring, selfless individuals, it's hard to argue against it.... Namaste.
Brightmoon Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 (((((Mega hugs))))) I am so sorry to hear that Mickleb.
This Hurts Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 This makes me so sad But it makes me wonder... do we mourn the death of a pet we've had for many, many years the same as the death of another human in our life, the end of a relationship or friendship, the loss of a job, or anything else? I've never been in that situation, so I don't know what it's like, and I'm curious.
spriggig Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 This is no joke, I just lost two dogs--one on Thursday and one on Friday. No kidding. A 12 year old greyhound to old age and a mutt to kidney failure. I knew the mutt was going, but the greyhound seemed fine--until he didn't. So, I give the STBXW the bad news about dog number two and tell her she needs to feed her Chihuahua better than commercial dog food crap--when she takes the dog, I'm taking care of her right now. She told me she wants me to keep the Chihuahua--the same dog I was adamantly opposed to getting and the wife got her anyway. The same dog I now love and who rarely leaves my side. Life is weird. So, yeah. I feel ya. Hang in there.
Author mickleb Posted June 28, 2010 Author Posted June 28, 2010 This is no joke, I just lost two dogs--one on Thursday and one on Friday. No kidding. A 12 year old greyhound to old age and a mutt to kidney failure. I knew the mutt was going, but the greyhound seemed fine--until he didn't. So, I give the STBXW the bad news about dog number two and tell her she needs to feed her Chihuahua better than commercial dog food crap--when she takes the dog, I'm taking care of her right now. She told me she wants me to keep the Chihuahua--the same dog I was adamantly opposed to getting and the wife got her anyway. The same dog I now love and who rarely leaves my side. Life is weird. So, yeah. I feel ya. Hang in there. Life's a bitch. x
brokendream Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Oh sorry to hear that. It's like losing a family member I had to put my dog to sleep last year because of the same reasons...she was 15. A couple of months later had to have my cat put to sleep. I miss them so much. My parents bought me a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel for my birthday and he's the love of my life.
Author mickleb Posted June 29, 2010 Author Posted June 29, 2010 Thank you, everyone, for your comments. They really mean a lot to me, at this time. Lots of tears and crap feelings last night but feel better for processing some of that. This Hurts - you ask an interesting question. It is the same in many, many ways but the main difference is that I get to be happy about the memories. She didn't break my heart so I don't have to let her go. I am allowed to hold on because doing so - remembering the good times - actually helps, rather than hurts. Thank you for asking this as it helps me to rationalise it all and keep myself in check. I'll tell you what, though, I could do without the fkn summer cold I appear to have acquired over the weekend. It's my excuse for leaving this late for work, heh heh.. x
GrayClouds Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 Like you said, in this case you get to focus on the good memories for you know they were true and honest. Dogs don't lie. <:3 .
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