EricaH329 Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 The last thread that I posted about my ex was one describing the intense disgust and hatred I felt towards him. At the time, I never thought in a million years i'd be able to move passed it. After almost 2 months of being broken up, I feel that I am ready to move passed it. I am ready to forgive him for all of the negative ways he treated me, and made me feel. This isn't going to be done through communicating with him, but from within myself. After having time for myself, without thinking about him, I can honestly say that I no longer feel any anger towards him. In a way, I feel bad for him. He is at a stage in his life where nothing makes sense to him. He has successfully pushed away everyone that has truly cared about him, including family. That is no longer my problem. I will not feel hatred towards him any longer. Carrying that burden is more than I am willing to deal with. I will forgive him with the most sincerity I can possibly have. I will free myself of these negative thoughts and emotions I have towards him. I will think of him as simply a man that I am no longer compatible with. In the past 2 months alone, I have been happier than I can ever remember myself being. I want to continue to improve myself, and I truly believe this is just another step towards becoming the person I ultimately strive to be. I am finally excited about life again, and the things I am going to be able to accomplish, without any negative energy that I can help. This is exciting stuff! :bunny:
PortuguesePrincess80 Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I really like your post and hope I can come to that sooner rather than later. I just found out my spouse of 12 years has been having an affair on me for over a year..just this past weekend. I am devasted and have so many emotions...hate...fear...disgust...you name it. I really hope I can achieve these in harmony as you have! Very inspiring...thanks you!
Author EricaH329 Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 I really like your post and hope I can come to that sooner rather than later. I just found out my spouse of 12 years has been having an affair on me for over a year..just this past weekend. I am devasted and have so many emotions...hate...fear...disgust...you name it. I really hope I can achieve these in harmony as you have! Very inspiring...thanks you! Oh geez, i'm so sorry you are going through all of that!! I can't imagine everything you must be going through right now!! I can definitely relate to having many of those feelings towards an ex, though. You'll be able to pull yourself out of it when you are fully ready. Everything takes time. Try (as hard as it may be) to stay positive through all of this. You'll come out a much stronger person than you ever thought possible. Hang in there!!
skydiveaddict Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Erica, I dont know you can move beyond the heartache so quickly. I wish I could do that. You are my hero
Author EricaH329 Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 Erica, I dont know you can move beyond the heartache so quickly. I wish I could do that. You are my hero You've seen all the ups and downs (mostly downs) i've been through with my ex. It definitely wasn't easy getting to a point where I absolutely couldn't take it anymore. But thankfully, I did get to that point. And it helped me realize that I deserve to be treated well. I had gotten to a point where I wasn't treating myself well, and I was also allowing others to treat me poorly. I became depressed (you remember that thread I started?), and then it just all hit me at once. Time to start treating myself better, and cutting the people out of my life who do not treat me well also. Love for yourself can pull you through so much more than you could ever think possible. This, is the perfect example
whichwayisup Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 You're amazing! And the next guy who comes along into your life is going to be a lucky one! It's good you've forgiven him..With that, you've given yourself peace, and closure at the same time.
Author EricaH329 Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 You're amazing! And the next guy who comes along into your life is going to be a lucky one! It's good you've forgiven him..With that, you've given yourself peace, and closure at the same time. Thank you so much! I definitely agree that it has given me closure, and an extreme sense of peace. I never realized how much negative energy I was wasting on him until I finally let it all go. It's a very liberating experience. I am more than grateful for the ability to do this.
deux ex machina Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 (edited) You've seen all the ups and downs (mostly downs) i've been through with my ex. It definitely wasn't easy getting to a point where I absolutely couldn't take it anymore. But thankfully, I did get to that point. And it helped me realize that I deserve to be treated well. I had gotten to a point where I wasn't treating myself well, and I was also allowing others to treat me poorly. I became depressed (you remember that thread I started?), and then it just all hit me at once. Time to start treating myself better, and cutting the people out of my life who do not treat me well also. Love for yourself can pull you through so much more than you could ever think possible. This, is the perfect example Good for you! I can relate to everything you wrote in this thread. I'm in the same space. I am about two months out from no contact whatsoever; with none to come. This past week there has been a consistent feeling of liberation with a relatively smooth path to walk for me. Before that, it was up and down a lot. I still want to see if mine sticks. I think it will, there's been a progression I can trace. Learned loads from all of this that can be taken forward. I am so happy for you. Edited April 27, 2010 by deux ex machina
Author EricaH329 Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 Good for you! I can relate to everything you wrote in this thread. I'm in the same space. I am about two months out from no contact whatsoever; with none to come. This past week there has been a consistent feeling of liberation with a relatively smooth path to walk for me. Before that, it was up and down a lot. I still want to see if mine sticks. I think it will, there's been a progression I can trace. Learned loads from all of this that can be taken forward. I am so happy for you. Thank you!! I'm very happy for you as well!! It's a wonderful feeling to have, especially when you never thought this feeling would ever present itself. We still have much more growing and learning to do, but now I truly believe that for the both of us it will be a much easier and smoother experience.
Peaceful Guy Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 It's good you've forgiven him..With that, you've given yourself peace, and closure at the same time. yeah, i agree! its very healthy and its definitely the way to get on to the next chapter and be able to enjoy everything to the fullest! congrats!
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