sweet_peach115 Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 I was dating this guy for a bit and I really liked him. He broke it off but we tried to stay friends. It became obvious to me he had no intentions of really being friends because I was the one always initiating contact. He told me about 1.5 months ago that he had a new girlfriend so I stopped trying to make plans with him to hang out. Every weekend though, he starts drunk texting me to come meet up with him when I know he is with his girlfriend. Apparently the first time he did it, they were dancing at a bar and she found out who he was calling/texting and they got in a huge fight. I always ignor the texts. What I want to know is: why is he doing this??? He didn't want to be with me anymore and he has a girlfriend. What is he trying to accomplish?
DustySaltus Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 He's trying to establish a salad bar where he can have his choice of entrees anytime he wants. Tell him to stop and ignore it. Problem solved.
Awesome Username Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 He is trying to booty call you when his girlfriend won't give him any. Ignore him.
carhill Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 What is he trying to accomplish? Others have mentioned booty call. That's reasonable, especially if he knows you're good for sex (this assumes you were sexual during that 'bit' of dating). Another potential is the 'Cheers Effect' where, by keeping his name in front of you periodically, he reinforces the impression he made on you in the past before breaking up with you, in case he needs to pour on the coals again to cook up another delectable sauce. The Cheers Effect facilitates the BBGF (back burner girlfriend) methodology. Contact + memory + oxytocin = potential. Smart womanizers know this. This is why they bed women as quickly as possible. NC and deleting contacts from him without reading them will facilitate healing and moving on. It's just electrons. If he really was a friend and/or really wanted a relationship, he'd be on your doorstep with a sincere interest in your life and times. He's not, so there ya go
Crazy Magnet Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 He's being a loser. No need to even justify telling him to get lost. Ignore everything he ever says to you. He'll get the picture.
BobSacamento Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 He's attempting to create the illusion of options. It gives the appearance that he's attractive to a wide range of women.
BellaMoon Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 He's an a**hole plain and simple. Cut him off. Block his number if you can. Anyone that'd do that to his current girlfriend would do that to you and you don't want that.
tami-chan Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I agree with the previous posters. He is a jerk. Be glad he is not in your life...or shouldn't be. Block his number.
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