Kristine Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I said it would make me happy if he did that. He told me he's been getting about 4 messages a day. He showed me a couple of them. What do I make of this? He didn't ask me to take mine down, he did say he doesn't really go to the site. So what do you think? Do I take mine down after he does of course? Leave it up until he requests I take it down? Any other thoughts, comments, suggestions?
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Is this the same guy that broke up with you and then changed his mind?
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I read your other thread. If you both think you're in love, it seems the progression would be to an exclusive relationship. Is that what he was getting at? I think it is time for you to be "all in" or "fold."
Author Kristine Posted January 30, 2010 Author Posted January 30, 2010 yes it's the same guy. What does all in mean to you because to me that means marriage and I'm not ready for that step yet. All in as in boyfriend girlfriend, well I'll talk to him tonight about that.
EM47 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 what does marriage have to do with anything? like wow, back up about 40 steps....
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 "All in" meaning an exclusive relationship
Author Kristine Posted January 30, 2010 Author Posted January 30, 2010 Okay so I'm not sure I'm ready for that either. I mean I like him but I don't know if I want to be exclusive just yet. He's always hitting me with some pretty major news about himself and then doing this lets get closer thing. And I'm a long term planner, I've been married to boyfriends I had no intention of marrying so I'm thinking "is this a guy I could be married to?". And yes boyfriends is plural. Nope thinking about it I guess we're not ready for exclusive relationship, although I'm not dating anyone else I'm still wanting to keep my options open.
thats what i said Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 He probably told you he's taking his down as a point of good faith. He hasn't asked you because he's probably hoping you'll take yours down on your own. However, if he does ask you to and you're not ready too, just tell him so. Say, "I still want to keep my options open." If he's that into you, he'll be patient. If he's not that into you, he won't.
TheLoneSock Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 He probably told you he's taking his down as a point of good faith. He hasn't asked you because he's probably hoping you'll take yours down on your own. However, if he does ask you to and you're not ready too, just tell him so. Say, "I still want to keep my options open." If he's that into you, he'll be patient. If he's not that into you, he won't. I would hope that she had already taken hers down, or has since - since she came to him and asked him to take his down. Otherwise, that would be a hypocritical double standard, and not healthy for the relationship.
Author Kristine Posted January 30, 2010 Author Posted January 30, 2010 I agree it's not healthy, I checked and his is still up so now what? Was he just talking to see my reaction?
lurker219 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I agree it's not healthy, I checked and his is still up so now what? Was he just talking to see my reaction? Here's the bottom line as I see it. Talk to him, tell him you're not ready for a committed relationship with him. Tell him you're hanging on to him until you find a Bigger Better Deal. Why would you signal a committed relationship by telling him it "would make you happy" if you have no plans on going through with it. You seem as if you're a typical AW playing games with this guy. Fortunately for him, he's not falling for it and taking anything down for you. Try telling the truth, clean it up a bit but tell him he's wasting his time with you as you want to keep your options open. Nothing wrong witt that, hiding the truth is another story...
sagetalk Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I agree it's not healthy, I checked and his is still up so now what? Was he just talking to see my reaction? You asked him to take his down with yours still up? That is really lame. It doesn't even sound like you like the guy. This whole post is just one massive turn off. Bleh .
Author Kristine Posted January 30, 2010 Author Posted January 30, 2010 I do like the guy but he's giving mixed messages and I don't want to get hurt. He did ultimately take down his profile but when I asked him if I should he said it's up to me. You guys obviously think I should too. It's a little scary for me for some reason. He is moving kind of fast, but at the same time it's his words that are fast his actions are on course IMO. Like he called me Mrs. my first name his last name today, when I asked him to repeat it he did. That's what I mean by fast, I want to be sure he's the right guy for me because he's serious on some level.
sagetalk Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I do like the guy but he's giving mixed messages and I don't want to get hurt. He did ultimately take down his profile but when I asked him if I should he said it's up to me. You guys obviously think I should too. It's a little scary for me for some reason. He is moving kind of fast, but at the same time it's his words that are fast his actions are on course IMO. Like he called me Mrs. my first name his last name today, when I asked him to repeat it he did. That's what I mean by fast, I want to be sure he's the right guy for me because he's serious on some level. This guy is smooth . I love how he's got you thinking about him, this is classic. Where's the popcorn and my note taking pad.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Like he called me Mrs. my first name his last name today, when I asked him to repeat it he did. That's what I mean by fast, I want to be sure he's the right guy for me because he's serious on some level. Hmmm. I don't think a guy who is really serious would throw around Mrs + his last name. It's too fast and too risky. I think he's toying with you. Something's not right here.
OnlyJake Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I do like the guy but he's giving mixed messages and I don't want to get hurt. He did ultimately take down his profile but when I asked him if I should he said it's up to me. You guys obviously think I should too. It's a little scary for me for some reason. He is moving kind of fast, but at the same time it's his words that are fast his actions are on course IMO. Like he called me Mrs. my first name his last name today, when I asked him to repeat it he did. That's what I mean by fast, I want to be sure he's the right guy for me because he's serious on some level. For God's sake, is this the same guy you started a thread about because he asked your ring size on the 5th date? I agree there's something wrong here, but I'm thinking it's with the OP. You sound like a drama queen
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Hmmm. I don't think a guy who is really serious would throw around Mrs + his last name. It's too fast and too risky. I think he's toying with you. Something's not right here. That is EXACTLY what I was thinking. Tread carefully, OP.
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