Woman totally blew me off at the gym - I'm done. Going to join Superficial America

[OpenGL]

Ok, I got back to the gym about 2 hours ago and I want to share my "pleasant" experience.

 

So I am doing my daily cardio on the treadmill and I notice a girl walk by and get on the bike in front of me. Now this girl was totally my type, and thats a rarity (but I obviously don't restrict myself from only dating a certain type of woman). She has the hippy/nerd look, very average looks by societies standards, maybe a 4 or 5 but looked very good in my eyes. About 5'3 with long dark brown hair. And she was also reading a popular mechanics magazine while biking which exponentially increased my interest in her. I also knew this was my "in" as I read popular mechanics from time to time.

 

With all the btching I do on the forum, coupled with how much she interested me (so far), I knew I had to step up and try to talk to her. I couldn't let the opprotunity go by.

 

After I was done with the treadmill I just kinda streched off to the side to waited till she was finished, as I didn't want to be rude and interrupt her workout. After she was doing, I have her a minute to cooldown and grab her stuff, but as she started walking down the aisle I approached her. The "conversation" went something like this:

 

Me: "Hey excuse me"

-She turns around, seeming annoyed

Me: "I noticed you were reading popular mechanics, was that this month's issue?"

-She stares at me for about 3 seconds with these narrow annoyed looking eyes, turned around and picked her bags back up and walked off. Did not say a word. She didn't even acknowledge that I was a human being. Just walked off like I shouldn't even of had the nerve to interrupt her life for 5 seconds.

 

I just kinda stood there for a second, shook my head, and went to go hit the weights. I know what you're going to say, maybe she had a boyfriend, and maybe you're right, but she wasn't there with him and it still doesn't require her to not even acknowledge me as a living and breathing human being.

 

 

So yeah, I'm completely done. I give up, I can't beat em, so I'm joining them. This girl completely dismissed me without even getting to know ANYTHING about me or saying a word to me. Look, in today's society, we live in a plastic, superficial, media driven country and women have completely soaked it up. All women. From good looking to below average. From airhead to nerd. It doesn't matter, they all have bought into it hook line and sinker. You're not even worthy of talking to unless you're good looking

 

Here is what I plan to do to improve my looks:

 

1. Start taking steroids, get even more ripped and lean that I already am. I want to gain 20lbs and start walking around at 6% body fat on a daily basis.

 

2. Plastic Surgery to my face and get skin treatment. Make my face shape more symertical and model like with very smooth skin, sharper chin and jawline.

 

3. Go to mexico and get the heightening surgery. At least 3 inches, I think 5'10 will make me "passable". Remember I only am asking for very average women, I think most will accept 5'10.

 

4. Either wear expensive suits or a tank top everywhere. That's it. At all times I'm either going to be showing off my wealth or muscles.

[Chicago_Guy]

The gym can be a tougher place to meet women than you would think. If you are going to go up and try to talk to a woman you almost need her to give you some type of indication of interest, however sometimes it can still be hard to tell whether a girl is open to talking to you.

 

I had a bad experience when I went up to talk to a girl at the gym myself last year. I had seen a particular girl staring at me a number of times when I was at the gym over a period of several weeks. It was weird because she didn't smile but she would sometimes keep staring even after she saw me notice her looking at me. So I eventually summoned the nerve to talk to this girl - I didn't hit on her, but I did tell her I had seen her down there before and introduced myself. She was not receptive and was kind of unfriendly. I don't know what her deal was, but it seemed as though she definitely was not interested when I talked to her. Luckily, I have managed to talk to other girls at the gym since then who have been much more friendly.

[ella23]

Heightening surgery? Come on, you can't be serious.

You're overreacting.

[SoulSearch_CO]

1. Start taking steroids, get even more ripped and lean that I already am. I want to gain 20lbs and start walking around at 6% body fat on a daily basis.

I hope you have a HUGE dick or else you're only going to need a finger-condom after taking steroids.

[Malenfant]

amusing post!!

 

i think you should definitely get way more muscley, to the point where your arms wont go down by your sides anymore!!

Cos women just love that look, especially when coupled with the 'thighs too big walk' (otherwise known as the 'i've sh*t myself walk')

 

seriously, the girl was just a b*tch. Its so rude to ignore someone who approaches you. i'd never do that. its just not polite.

[counterman]

Should have uttered "bitch..." loudly so that she would have heard it

 

All jokes aside, it was rude of her. Best you could have done was shrug it off and move on.

[New_Life08]

Yeah, that's rude. When she ignored you.....you should have said...

 

"Oh I'm sorry, but I thought I would give you a heads up on that booger stuck to the side of your face."

[Barky]

Here is what I plan to do to improve my looks:

 

Yikes man that's awfully reactionary of you. So one chick blew you off. No reason to go wild with the self-makeover.

 

If you want to make it in the dating world buddy you've got to develop super thick skin. Hit on two more chicks within the next 24 hours. I've hit on so many women in so many different places that when I get rejected it doesn't phase me for more than 5 minutes.

 

It's like training to be a boxer. At first when somebody punches you in the face as hard as they can, it stuns you for a long time. After you've gotten hit in the face a looooot, you hardly feel it and just keep going.

[SoulSearch_CO]

So one chick blew you off.

LMAO - clearly you're new, here.

[Barky]

oh, does he get blown off a lot?

[Malenfant]

oh, does he get blown off a lot?

 

i think if he did he wouldn't be on here complaining about it!!

[SoulSearch_CO]

Sounds like a constant thing, based on his threads. Hence his typical comments about hating women and women being evil.

[Barky]

well then I'm not sure. Maybe he's choosing bad places to hit on chicks or maybe his 'vibe' is all off, or maybe he's just unlucky. OP might try online dating where at least he knows the majority of women are single and looking. Trying to pick up random chicks in random places is a low-percentage game. 95% of them are either taken or not interested in being approached.

 

The only guys I know who have ever been successful picking up women in public, non-bar places are guys who hit on everything with two legs. Sooner or later they land one.

 

It's all numbers.

[lino]

I've read many of your threads on here and though I think that you're often being very hard on yourself and exaggerating a bit, I believe that a good chunk of what you say is accurate.

 

I've suffered non-stop rejection throughout life myself, though at different points to you it seems, so I can understand your frustration. Not so much the height thing though, I've never experienced problems there myself or seen others having big problems with that.

 

I definitely agree with you that women are more superficial than ever. It's very evident where I live and I can imagine in the USA it's a lot worse.

 

I think you shouldn't bother trying to meet women at the gym. 99.999% of them aren't there to be chatted up by guys at all. The ones who are very flirty with guys who approach them at the gym are usually just attention seekers. That's what I've noticed.

 

I've met girls at the gym on 2 occasions and they approached me both times. That's really the only way it'll happen in that setting I believe because like I said, nearly all girls at the gym don't want guys approaching them.

 

Just put this episode behind you and keep going to the gym and training hard. The gym should be somewhere that a man can go to relax and enjoy himself too, not a place to deal with yet more drama from females.

And don't touch the roids!! You'll really regret it!

 

3. Go to mexico and get the heightening surgery. At least 3 inches, I think 5'10 will make me "passable". Remember I only am asking for very average women, I think most will accept 5'10.

 

Is that even possible? I've never heard of that. It sounds pretty risky to be honest!

[Woggle]

Yet they wonder why I am rude with them at Target and other places they try to talk to me.

[Barky]

I understand that, and I'm often very glad that it's not generally considered "ok" for women to come onto men. Most of the time when I'm at the store or doing whatever I just want to get my ***** done and move on to the next thing I have to do. The last thing I want is to have to chit-chat with some stranger.

 

Not that a ton of women would be coming on to me even if they could, but for example, a couple of weeks ago I was at the pet store getting a toy for a friend's dog (don't ask) and some blonde came up and starting making comments about the 50000 different squeeze toys. I just chuckled and moved on, she was attractive but I just had other things on my mind.

 

This past weekend I was practicing tennis at the local courts and was hitting balls against a big concrete practice wall, and some blonde (not the same one) came up and "accidentally" started hitting balls into my area so I had to stop, pick up her ball, and hand it to her. I think she was expecting me to strike up a conversation or something. After this happened a couple of times I was so fed up I had to leave.

 

My point is: this doesn't happen too often to me but I can see how it would be annoying. Especially for hot women who get hit on twenty times a day.

[SoulSearch_CO]

Yet they wonder why I am rude with them at Target and other places they try to talk to me.

"They." Like we're all one amorphous mass. You know, guys are dicks, too. Quit blaming everything on women.

[Awesome Username]

Open GL, sometimes when guys come up to me like that who are attractive, I almost act the same way. Its not because I think that I'm better than them, but it's because I'm nervous as Hell and completely shut down. What she did was certainly rude and there's no excuse for it, but you never really know what's going on in her brain.

 

She has issues, but please don't let that keep you from trying again. I don't think you should take her reaction personally. Women are taught to be scared of strangers, and they're also taught that creepy guys stare at them at the gym. If it were any other place, she might have been more receptive. You never know.

 

BTW, don't take steroids. Muscles that are bulging out of mens' shirts is a look that a lot of gay men love, but not a lot of women to be honest. Also, you might grow breasts and your junk will probably shrink.

[motive2002]

Do all the self improvement you want, it won't make any difference.

I'm gonna share my story with you. Whether it's read or not, who knows.

 

As a teenager I had horrible acne. (oh, also I'm 5'8" so I'll get that pesky height thing out of the way right off the bat)

I was so insecure about my acne, I honestly thought it was my only roadblock to "getting chicks". I was otherwise a pretty nice guy with a good sense of humor and a decent build.

So when I was 17 I got onto a treatment of a drug called Accutane. It was POWERFUL stuff. They had to check my blood twice a month to make sure it wasn't screwing my liver or God knows what else.

After the treatment was over, I was for once in my teenage life completely zit free. I mean COMPLETELY. not even those pesky blackheads on my nose were there. My complexion was perfect! For a while I thought I was God's gift...

Now I'm not here to sell zit faced people on this type of treatment, but rather to point out how insecurity manifests itself, and how a "cure" for what you think is wrong with you is only temporary.

Naturally, being insecure for most of my life, once the zits were gone, i had found something else about myself I didn't like. And like before I got turned down. Not as much as before maybe.. but I think the confidence in myself really made the difference.

 

The moral of the story is, it doesn't matter. So you get the height surgery done, which is extremely dangerous and could completely screw you up. Should it come out perfect and now your 5'10" what are you gonna do when you still get turned down by chicks?.. because believe me, YOU WILL GET TURNED DOWN BY CHICKS! It happens to all of us guys. unless you are a movie star like Brad Pitt.. and well **** even then I'm sure he got turned down by someone.

 

Nobody is universally attractive to everyone. It's impossible. Some have more "general attractiveness" than others, but they get turned down once in a while just like everyone else.

 

The point is if you can't handle rejection, then you can't handle dating. The two go together, and it's not just short men, it's everyone that puts their neck out in order to get what they want.

 

You have two choices when it comes to rejection. Either cry here on the forum about it, or take it like a man and go out and try again.

 

It's just one dumb snobby chick. Maybe she likes guys with short hair and it has nothing to do with your height? Maybe she cornered and harassed by a guy that looks similar to you in the gym and didn't want to re-enact the experience? How the hell could you ever know since she never said anything to you to begin with?

 

You can blame the world. You can blame your height. But the truth is you really have no idea what was going on in her head. Most of the time people's behavior has very little to do with you, and everything to do with them. Once you realize this basic fact, you may be able to shrug it off better and leave with your self esteem a little more intact.

 

True character is not whether or not you were "defeated". It's how you picked yourself up and continued on after you were.

[jw90063]

 

This girl completely dismissed me without even getting to know ANYTHING about me or saying a word to me.

 

I'm so surprised. Why would she dismiss someone of your nature.

 

Oh, no wait. She must have somehow got a hold of all your demented posts on this site.

[BackUpOrGetStung]

You should get the surgery.

[jw90063]

You should get the surgery.

 

Brain surgery is very expensive.

[Woggle]

"They." Like we're all one amorphous mass. You know, guys are dicks, too. Quit blaming everything on women.

 

If men have to be afraid of even smiling at a woman becaus ehe might get his head bitten why shouldn't women have to deal with the same thing?

[Itzo]

You're not even worthy of talking to unless you're good looking

 

Here is what I plan to do to improve my looks:

 

1. Start taking steroids, get even more ripped and lean that I already am. I want to gain 20lbs and start walking around at 6% body fat on a daily basis.

 

2. Plastic Surgery to my face and get skin treatment. Make my face shape more symertical and model like with very smooth skin, sharper chin and jawline.

 

3. Go to mexico and get the heightening surgery. At least 3 inches, I think 5'10 will make me "passable". Remember I only am asking for very average women, I think most will accept 5'10.

 

4. Either wear expensive suits or a tank top everywhere. That's it. At all times I'm either going to be showing off my wealth or muscles

 

None of this would work!

It is not about how you look man.

Look only matters to men, not to women.

Edited January 27, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[cashew]

Most of the time when I'm at the store or doing whatever I just want to get my ***** done and move on to the next thing I have to do. The last thing I want is to have to chit-chat with some stranger.

 

I agree Barky. I've noticed men especially want to talk when I'm stressed out. I could be sick, in a rush, etc. I get upset because I feel they aren't being considerate. It's obvious when I'm stressed. I have a very expressive face!!! I also feel these men aren't thinking about my feelings because they don't care about ME. They simply want to talk to ANY woman. I'm more responsive to flirting in the form of help or jokes. This is more individualized attention. In other words, it makes me feel special.

 

Men yell at me in the street, follow me into stores, bump into me in lines, sing into my ear, ASK ME WHAT I AM READING, etc. This kind of attention makes me uncomfortable because it's almost too easy and uninspired on their part and I wonder if they do this to women all the time.

 

The gym hipster was rude. I'm usually rude too. I find acting this way is the most efficient. If I nervously giggle and pretend to smile the flirting won't stop. I don't like acting rude. Who likes being called a bitch?

 

Don't do improvements #1-4. It's not your looks you should worry about.