shadowplay Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 I always enjoy threads like these and we don't have enough of them. Please share your happy stories about your relationship and significant other.
alphamale Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 i don't have a SO right now but when i get one i will post something nice about her
Author shadowplay Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 i don't have a SO right now but when i get one i will post something nice about her Ha. Do you want an SO?
alphamale Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Ha. Do you want an SO? why do you think i'm dating all these chicks?
threebyfate Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 I'll share what's going on right now. We're sitting on the couch, he's watching NFL, I think it's the Jets and Chargers but don't really give a crap. I'm leaning against him with my laptop, feet on the couch. He's got his right arm circling me, just below my throat. Haha...he's tightened his right arm, pretending to choke me, so I know that he's reading what I've written, so I'd better be nice. Ummm...ummm...he's a fantastic man....yes, yes, he's da' best!! Okay, seriously, it's moments like this, the quiet contentment, that to me equals what love is about. Just feeling his body next to mine, the simple contact...(even though he's got a bony hip )...
Author shadowplay Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 (edited) I had a great time with him yesterday. He took me to a local art museum. It was one of the best experiences I've had with anybody in years. I've never been to a museum with somebody whom I can talk to about art. I don't mean in a pretentious way, but in a simple way, observing little details about paintings/sculptures. It was wonderful just being able to share that with him, pointing out things we noticed. I felt so close to him, and I could tell he felt the same. Whenever we came to a hidden nook, he would pull me close to him and tell me he loved me. We complement each other so well. Edited January 17, 2010 by shadowplay
Author shadowplay Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) TBF, I agree about the quiet contentment of love. I really cherish little moments like watching movies with him on a couch, listening to music with him. Sigh. He's away tonight and I miss him. We have this thing where we occasionally smile at each other and hold the gaze for a few seconds. The closeness I feel when we do this doesn't compare to anything. This is strangely something I've never done with anybody I've dated. I think I wanted to but the other person wasn't into it, or I tried to hold their gaze but it seemed forced because neither of us felt it. Edited January 18, 2010 by shadowplay
threebyfate Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 shadow, that's wonderful, that you're able to have those moments! Nothing beats the simple things and the feeling of connection, the feeling of home. Seriously, the drama-coaster relationships can go the way of the do-do bird. They're so emotionally unhealthy. Haha...he just told me to get him a beer! Fat chance!
Author shadowplay Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 i wish i had a SO to cuddle up with You can! I think you'd have more success if you opened your mind to dating different types of women. The party girls are fun, but they're harder to form a connection with.
tami-chan Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 He is so sweet and unafraid to express mushy stuff...
doushenka Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Beloved is so perfectly compatible with me. Over the last year and a half, we've grown together so well that it's hard to imagine willingly giving him up. For the first time in my life, if something bad happened between us, I would fight for our commitment instead of walking away. He knows I was mentally unwell for years. Not only does he not hate me, he wants to learn more about what I experienced. He wants me to write him my story. We're talented in different ways, and I never thought I'd enjoy that dynamic, but I find it helps. I don't feel overshadowed. I get to appreciate what he does well and vice versa. I feel safe with him and he with me. We encourage each other to grow, but we're aware of each other's boundaries. Challenge, not pushing. On a purely physical level, I do love being wrapped up in him. He's made of textures and scents in which I delight. He's shaped roughly like Jeremy Clarkson: delightful legs and rear, strong arms and shoulders, enough belly to make him comfy. We watch TV on his laptop, on my bed; he'll lie on his front and I'll lie on his back. This is possible because I am a delicately-built 4'11" and he is decidedly not. So what is it I love about him? That would be "everything".
hoping2heal Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 He looks like a sexy untamed tiger-man rawr but he is very sweet and affectionate and not afraid to show it . I absolutely adore that. loooooooove what a cuddlebug he is! It is perfect to me. I can spend hours upon hours with him, and I just feel happy and content where as um..most people I would be wanting a "break". He's just a beautiful man . I really can't stop smiling when I spend time with him I am ga-ga lovebug bitten.
Author shadowplay Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 shadow, that's wonderful, that you're able to have those moments! Nothing beats the simple things and the feeling of connection, the feeling of home. Seriously, the drama-coaster relationships can go the way of the do-do bird. They're so emotionally unhealthy. Haha...he just told me to get him a beer! Fat chance! "The feeling of home." That's the perfect description of love. In my experience, drama-coasters can be thrilling at first, but hollow at their core. They're more about power than love. The difference between this relationship and my last is huge in that regard.
alphamale Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 "The feeling of home." That's the perfect description of love. yes, women are trained to create that "feeling" from the day they are born
threebyfate Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 "The feeling of home." That's the perfect description of love. In my experience, drama-coasters can be thrilling at first, but hollow at their core. They're more about power than love. The difference between this relationship and my last is huge in that regard.That's why I keep posting time and again that once your relationship is about winning or losing, it's a write-off. All that emotional energy is put towards something negative and destructive, rather than building a stronger connection.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 The way he looks into my eyes and tells me that I'm beautiful. How caring he is about even the little things. When he tells me I've been his 'dream girl' for more than ten years. The way he rocks my world in bed. The way he sounds when he plays his guitar and sings for me. His illustrations (he is a comic book artist). The sound of his laughing when it veers out of control. How warm he keeps me at night - he likes to sleep with his arms around me. How he is proud to be seen with me, even though I no longer have breasts. How he grabs my ass and growls in my ear about how sexy he thinks it is. The way he looks at me when we lay naked together. The breakfasts he cooks for us. The way his skin smells. How soft his beard is. His collection of strange tee shirts (he gets them at small press shows he goes to). ... and so on and so on and so on. I could go on forever. :love:
Ilovehim Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 honestly it's the little things that to me are the the big things... the way he listens to my problems, the way he supports me and is always there for me...the way he teases me when we play around...the way he remembers little things about my day and reminds me such as "babe dont forget to do this today etc.." the way he wishes me good luck before exams..calls me every day, calls me as soon as i text him "i dont feel good"...buys me soup and medicine and brings him over when i tell him that i have a cold...lol and my favorite staying in and cuddling while watching movies! =) i love the butterflies & all the AMAZING fun times we have together...i love the fact that he makes me so happy!
Author shadowplay Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 LB, I'm sincerely happy for you. So am I, especially after all she's gone through. I'm happy for you too, TBF.
threebyfate Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Every-so-often, I give him a hard time about getting me pregnant and accuse him of doing it deliberately. Each time, he puffs up with male pride and tells me to "deal with it". Of course he knows I'm teasing and I know he's teasing, too. And realistically speaking, even if I was serious, it's true, I do have to deal with it, which is what makes it even funnier!
threebyfate Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 So am I, especially after all she's gone through. I'm happy for you too, TBF.Exactly! And back at you, shadow. While I didn't post in your thread about being honest with him, I was impressed with the way he handled it, in that he accepted it and empathized. He really sounds like a good guy!
alphamale Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 i'm gettin' the warm-fuzzies from all these nice stories
OnlyJake Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Don't currently have an SO, but something I really liked about my most recent ex is that he told me he loved me every single day, no matter what. If he didn't say it during the day (unusual) he would say it before bed. If we didn't see or talk to each other much one day, he would text it. If we had sex, he would say it during or after. If we were talking online, he would end the conversation with it. If we were on the phone, he would say "Love you, bye," every single time, no matter where he was or who he was with. That might sound a little ridiculous, but no other guy I've ever dated would say that on the phone...someone might hear!
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