Lost-n-confused Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 So I'm kinda seeing three girls right now but I don't want to say I'm dating any of them... I took a girl out online twice and we text all the time... She is really into me, she sends me kinky photos, tells me kinky things and is RTF. I'm just not that into her cause she's pretty boring on the two dates we had. She might be coming over sunday to watch a movie and BBQ with me if I decide to have her over. We haven't kissed yet... Second girl I meet at a party a month ago we hit it off so I got her number from a firend. I called and I'm supposed to text her Saturday after work about having dinner with her. Third girl I took out twice. Once to a movie with drinks n dancing before. Second date we went to meet firends at a bowling ally and ended up sitting in the car for over an hour drinking smirnoffs (keys wernt on me). It was amazing. Eventually we went inside had a drink and left. Ended up going to taco bell split a chulpa meal and share the drink and hard taco and just sat in the car ate and talked. Sometimes the simplest dates are the best. She sent me a message on facebook about going to a movie this weekend. I want go tonight so I can see girl number two tomarrow and girl number one on Sunday. Yet I'd cancel any other dates just to hangout with this girl. No kiss yet. Firends who's her boss told me not to be overzealous and just be myself and not agressivd. Seems to work because she mentioned liking me without him asking. So am I dating any of these girls??? What is considered dating?
dreamergrl Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 So I'm kinda seeing three girls right now but I don't want to say I'm dating any of them... You are casually dating. I took a girl out online twice and we text all the time... She is really into me, she sends me kinky photos, tells me kinky things and is RTF. I'm just not that into her cause she's pretty boring on the two dates we had. She might be coming over sunday to watch a movie and BBQ with me if I decide to have her over. We haven't kissed yet... If you aren't into her, then don't lead her on by having her over. By accepting the pictures and having her over she thinks you are interested. Second girl I meet at a party a month ago we hit it off so I got her number from a firend. I called and I'm supposed to text her Saturday after work about having dinner with her. Third girl I took out twice. Once to a movie with drinks n dancing before. Second date we went to meet firends at a bowling ally and ended up sitting in the car for over an hour drinking smirnoffs (keys wernt on me). It was amazing. Eventually we went inside had a drink and left. Ended up going to taco bell split a chulpa meal and share the drink and hard taco and just sat in the car ate and talked. Sometimes the simplest dates are the best. She sent me a message on facebook about going to a movie this weekend. I want go tonight so I can see girl number two tomarrow and girl number one on Sunday. Yet I'd cancel any other dates just to hangout with this girl. No kiss yet. Firends who's her boss told me not to be overzealous and just be myself and not agressivd. Seems to work because she mentioned liking me without him asking. If you are into this girl and would cancel plans with the other two, I don't think it's fair to the other two to keep them as back up. I think you should stop seeing girl one as you aren't into her and only leading her on and using her as back up. Maybe give girl two a shot, but if you aren't into her you will be doing the same thing and it's a bit rude. So am I dating any of these girls??? What is considered dating? Yes you are casually dating all three.
laRubiaBonita Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 to me.... you are just "seeing" these girls. dating is when you are sleeping with them too, IMO. example- "Yeah, I dated him!" or "No, we are just seeing each other."
Kristine Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Yes you are dating these girls. Why waste your time by being with someone your not into, not to mention her time and feelings. Focus in on the ones your most interested it, it doesn't take years to do that. Dating is about weeding people out, getting to know each other, deciding if your compatible, etc. Sleeping together better mean you got serious, and are exclusive, IMO especially with all the STD's out there.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 Yea... I'm keeping girl number one around because she is my backup and garrenteed loss of virginity... Yet I fell bad doing to her what others have done to me. Idk...
dreamergrl Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Yea... I'm keeping girl number one around because she is my backup and garrenteed loss of virginity... Yet I fell bad doing to her what others have done to me. Idk... That's disgusting.
laRubiaBonita Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Yea... I'm keeping girl number one around because she is my backup and garrenteed loss of virginity... Yet I fell bad doing to her what others have done to me. Idk... i quote Jiminy Cricket... "Let your conscience be your guide..... " (karma is a bitch)
alphamale Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 So am I dating any of these girls??? What is considered dating? yes, you are "casually" dating them the definition of a date is when two people set a specific date and time in the future to meet and carry out an activity, the activity could be anything from picking mushrooms to torrid sex
Pizzaman81 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Yea... I'm keeping girl number one around because she is my backup and garrenteed loss of virginity... Yet I fell bad doing to her what others have done to me. Idk... Yo you got issues man.
e.clipse Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Yea... I'm keeping girl number one around because she is my backup and garrenteed loss of virginity... from guys who call girls sluts because of dancing in a club, to ones who get pissed at their fiancees because they wear jeans instead of skirts, to the above-quoted douchebaggery--today is yet another "let's be dicks to women just for the **** of it" day.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 Take note... My name is lost-n-confused. Give me a break I'm very inexperenced... Total noob!!!
dreamergrl Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Take note... My name is lost-n-confused. Give me a break I'm very inexperenced... Total noob!!! It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know what you are doing is wrong. :rolleyes: Quit blaming it on being inexperienced.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I think you're dating someone when you are actively pursuing a person you are interested in a future with. Other than that, you're just spending money, time and effort... probably getting some reward feedback emotionally, but in the end you may put an end to them. I'd say... go after only those you are interested in. I did the whole multi-dating thing before as well.. and I find it's almost pointless, I don't pay attention to all of them as much if I were to concentrate on one person. Then I realize, most of them I am not even interested in "dating", so I ended it with them. And believe me, it was a roaring cry of a vacuous void of loneliness when all of a sudden you stop talking to 5 girls at once. But HEY! You are not wasting your time or theirs. Concentrate on 1. Unless you don't WANT to date.
alphamale Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I think you're dating someone when you are actively pursuing a person you are interested in a future with.. my definition does not necessarily include the "future" part, i would change it to say"...you are interested in having sex with"
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 My gut tells me to keep string the backup girl along just incase and while I don't see us in a relationship the option of sex is very tempting. Especialy since she tells me she likes to be tied down and smacked around have hot wax melted on her. She's kinky and it sounds like fun... I told her I was a virgin to scare her away and she wants me more now...
dreamergrl Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 My gut tells me to keep string the backup girl along just incase and while I don't see us in a relationship the option of sex is very tempting. Especialy since she tells me she likes to be tied down and smacked around have hot wax melted on her. She's kinky and it sounds like fun... I told her I was a virgin to scare her away and she wants me more now... I will laugh when the girl you are actually interested in finds out you are seeing other girls just for sex.
e.clipse Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Give me a break I'm very inexperenced... Total noob!!! stringing someone along has nothing to do with dating experience and everything to do with respect and morality. My gut tells me to keep string the backup girl along just incase and while I don't see us in a relationship the option of sex is very tempting. Especialy since she tells me she likes to be tied down and smacked around have hot wax melted on her. She's kinky and it sounds like fun... I told her I was a virgin to scare her away and she wants me more now... no, do not "string" her along or else you will be very disrespectful and insensitive jerk most women avoid. if your primary interest is to get laid, be straightforward with girl #1. tell her that you are not looking for a committed/romantic relationship, but are only looking to connect with someone on a purely sexual level. if she agrees, then everything works out. if she doesn't, try another woman, as there are plenty of women who are into NSA sex. however, if you are looking for an actual relationship, inclusive of both sex and commitment, then clearly she is not the one for you, as you express no interest in her other than sexual. your best bet is to continue with the girl you actually like; it's fine, i think, if you see both girl #1 and girl #2 at the same time, so long as you don't hide it, as you are not committed to anyone. however, do so because you are interested in them, not just their vaginas.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I will laugh when the girl you are actually interested in finds out you are seeing other girls just for sex. I might laugh when he realizes, he really doesn't like girls... But anyway, i'm sure that's not the case. You sir are a manipulator. You are not a good man.
alphamale Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 , as there are plenty of women who are into NSA sex. thats not my experience, where are they?
rina_r Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 You sound like a player. You need to let the first two of them go.
Ilovehim Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 she sounds like she just wants sex... and you sound like a loser. be a man about it and be honest with them.
e.clipse Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 thats not my experience, where are they? i can't remember the name of the LSer who made the astute observation, but, i paraphrase: there are many men out there having lots of sex and unless they are having it all or most with other men, then there has to be a lot of women out there having lots of sex, too.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 Ok girl one is cut period... Between girl two and three neither is a garrentee. I'll play for both teams till one offers a contract. Seeing girl three tonight and girl two tomarrow.
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