AD1980 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Im in the car with my best friend and his fiance whos like a sister to me and my single friend.. My single friend out of nowhere goes why dont you set "insert my name* up Awkward silence ensues then she says uhhh *insert my name * is one of a kind,besides we want him to ourselves I just sat there and didnt say anyhting already realizng what shes sayign is im too ugly to be set up.. I dont even want to be set up but the fact that im not evne worhty of it,i must be hideous:sick:
DiscoChick Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I hope you're joking. If not, you need to find a new friend. Also, you should work on your confidence and self esteem. My word, I would have probably punched her right in the mouth. I'm joking. I don't hit women.
MyNameIsJonas Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Im in the car with my best friend and his fiance whos like a sister to me and my single friend.. My single friend out of nowhere goes why dont you set "insert my name* up Awkward silence ensues then she says uhhh *insert my name * is one of a kind,besides we want him to ourselves I just sat there and didnt say anyhting already realizng what shes sayign is im too ugly to be set up.. I dont even want to be set up but the fact that im not evne worhty of it,i must be hideous:sick: I think you are reading way too much into her reaction. People in general do not react well when they are put on the spot, which is clear what your single friend did to your other friend's finance. As you said it "came out of nowhere," so my guess is that your other friend's finance wasn't prepared but felt she had to say something. Aside from that, yes, you do need to work on your self esteem. It really shouldn't matter what other people think of you and your looks; if you think you are attractive/cute/whatever than that is all that matters and you will find someone who agrees. Also, it normally isn't a good idea to push the idea of hooking you up to a good friend. Those things just happen naturally and bringing a topic like that up can come across like you are just using your friend to find a date, depending on a number of variables.
jw90063 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Im in the car with my best friend and his fiance whos like a sister to me and my single friend.. My single friend out of nowhere goes why dont you set "insert my name* up Awkward silence ensues then she says uhhh *insert my name * is one of a kind,besides we want him to ourselves I just sat there and didnt say anyhting already realizng what shes sayign is im too ugly to be set up.. I dont even want to be set up but the fact that im not evne worhty of it,i must be hideous:sick: How do you translate "Why don't you set him up? AD1980, is one of a kind, besides we want him to ourselves.", TO "She's saying I'm too ugly to be set up, not worth it and hideous". That's jumping to conclusions, if you ask me. Maybe they mean you are one of a kind, as in a great guy and can't be set up with just any girl. Or could be someone was put on the spot and felt awkward.
Author AD1980 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 Also, it normally isn't a good idea to push the idea of hooking you up to a good friend. Those things just happen naturally and bringing a topic like that up can come across like you are just using your friend to find a date, depending on a number of variables. I didnt push anything it was my friend i dont even like the whole hook up thing its just that it didnt exaclty sound like a ringing endorsement for me lets be honest and not sugarcoat it.. If somebody put you on the spot like that thats how youd probably react if the guy was unattratcive,if he was good looking youd proably say i have a friend who wold probably be into you..
Author AD1980 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 That's jumping to conclusions, if you ask me. Maybe they mean you are one of a kind, as in a great guy and can't be set up with just any girl. Or could be someone was put on the spot and felt awkward. Why we she feel that awkward unless she doesnt feels theyres anybody she knows who would be attracted to me?
Bejita463 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Why we she feel that awkward unless she doesnt feels theyres anybody she knows who would be attracted to me? Possibly because that is an awkward thing to have randomly sprung upon you. Being put on the spot like that is rarely a comfortable experience.
jw90063 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Why we she feel that awkward unless she doesnt feels theyres anybody she knows who would be attracted to me? Um, maybe she felt awkward because she was worried about how you felt, when it being mentioned.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I don't know why you would take offense. I thought it was really sweet that your friend wants to keep you to themselves. Don't take it so seriously especially when you were put on the spot.
Rhythmic Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) I think you are reading way too much into her reaction. How do you translate "Why don't you set him up? AD1980, is one of a kind, besides we want him to ourselves.", TO "She's saying I'm too ugly to be set up, not worth it and hideous". That's jumping to conclusions, if you ask me. Maybe they mean you are one of a kind, as in a great guy and can't be set up with just any girl. Or could be someone was put on the spot and felt awkward. I don't know why you would take offense. I thought it was really sweet that your friend wants to keep you to themselves. You people are nuts and what you are doing isn't helpful in the slightest. That awkward silence he described was them trying to think of a way out of the question without insulting him because as he accurately guessed, they do not know anybody who would find him attractive. AD1980- Go hit the gym and get your body in the best shape you can and focus on making your money. Those people are not your friends btw. It is one thing when they don't find you attractive to their taste but people with the attitude they are displaying view you as an ugly lesser being. This is probably not the first time they have done something to zing your confidence is it? Hanging out with people who do not have a healthy respect for you is going to just sap your confidence. They aren't doing it on purpose. But when you view somebody as that far below you and ugly they will always do little things that you will pick up that over time will crash your self esteem and confidence down into the dumps. I've been there. Go find something else to do and find people who don't look down on you like they do. Try hanging out with the single friend more instead of the best friend and his fiance if you can help it. The fact that person views you well enough to ask the fiance to set you up means that this person does not look down on you like the other two do. Otherwise he wouldn't have ever asked in the first place. There is your start. A best friend wouldn't do that to you. That is not your best friend and his fiance is also going to be toxic to your self esteem and well being. Good luck. Edited January 9, 2010 by Rhythmic
jw90063 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You people are nuts and what you are doing isn't helpful in the slightest. That awkward silence he described was them trying to think of a way out of the question without insulting him because as he accurately guessed, they do not know anybody who would find him attractive. Talk about nuts. How is your advice anymore helpful? There was not enough information to come to the conclusion they classify him as an ugly and undateable. However, based on your post alone, there's more than enough info to question if you are in fact that undateable guy OP's referring to. I mean with an attitude like that, I can't imagine you getting lots of dates.
You'reasian Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Im in the car with my best friend and his fiance whos like a sister to me and my single friend.. My single friend out of nowhere goes why dont you set "insert my name* up Awkward silence ensues then she says uhhh *insert my name * is one of a kind,besides we want him to ourselves I just sat there and didnt say anyhting already realizng what shes sayign is im too ugly to be set up.. I dont even want to be set up but the fact that im not evne worhty of it,i must be hideous:sick: Geez, everyone is too self-conscious these days. Loosen up, get out and worry about your interactions with others.
You'reasian Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I didnt push anything it was my friend i dont even like the whole hook up thing its just that it didnt exaclty sound like a ringing endorsement for me lets be honest and not sugarcoat it.. If somebody put you on the spot like that thats how youd probably react if the guy was unattratcive,if he was good looking youd proably say i have a friend who wold probably be into you.. Who was the last woman to hang out with this guy? Go with that.
Rhythmic Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Talk about nuts. How is your advice anymore helpful? Because my advice is exactly what I did to get out of the situation he is in because I was once in that same situation. With toxic people who looked down on me that did nothing but sap my confidence and self esteem till it was near empty. I've even had that same exact conversation happen to me. I remember the tone it was said. I remember the awkwardness he described. I distanced myself from those people. Found new people who did not view me as some sort of ugly duck. Fixed my diet and got in better shape and since I was now around people who respect me my confidence has never been better and now do much better with women because of it. My advice is more helpful because it comes from somebody who has already been in his exact situation and better than any of yours since none of you apparently haven't been in that situation. Telling him to ignore it that it has to be in his imagination is just going to keep in him in the same rut. I am positive this isn't even the first time something like that has happened with those people. There is a reason he went to that conclusion. How does any of that somehow imply that I am undateable? Irony being that I do much better with women NOW than I did back then?
Author AD1980 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 Who was the last woman to hang out with this guy? Go with that. Last women to hang out with which guy?
Author AD1980 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 Because my advice is exactly what I did to get out of the situation he is in because I was once in that same situation. With toxic people who looked down on me that did nothing but sap my confidence and self esteem till it was near empty. I've even had that same exact conversation happen to me. I remember the tone it was said. I remember the awkwardness he described. I distanced myself from those people. Found new people who did not view me as some sort of ugly duck. Fixed my diet and got in better shape and since I was now around people who respect me my confidence has never been better and now do much better with women because of it. My advice is more helpful because it comes from somebody who has already been in his exact situation and better than any of yours since none of you apparently haven't been in that situation. Telling him to ignore it that it has to be in his imagination is just going to keep in him in the same rut. I am positive this isn't even the first time something like that has happened with those people. There is a reason he went to that conclusion. How does any of that somehow imply that I am undateable? Irony being that I do much better with women NOW than I did back then? This is the first time something like this happened,though one time she took a picture of me and jokingly showed said while showing someone "look at this sexy guy.".
You'reasian Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Who was the last woman to hang out with this guy? Go with that. I saw a buddy of mine out with an extremely attractive woman a few nights ago. Lucky guy!
jw90063 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Because my advice is exactly what I did to get out of the situation he is in because I was once in that same situation. With toxic people who looked down on me that did nothing but sap my confidence and self esteem till it was near empty. I've even had that same exact conversation happen to me. I remember the tone it was said. I remember the awkwardness he described. I distanced myself from those people. Found new people who did not view me as some sort of ugly duck. Fixed my diet and got in better shape and since I was now around people who respect me my confidence has never been better and now do much better with women because of it. My advice is more helpful because it comes from somebody who has already been in his exact situation and better than any of yours since none of you apparently haven't been in that situation. Telling him to ignore it that it has to be in his imagination is just going to keep in him in the same rut. I am positive this isn't even the first time something like that has happened with those people. There is a reason he went to that conclusion. How does any of that somehow imply that I am undateable? Irony being that I do much better with women NOW than I did back then? SO what. How do you know the same reason for someone questioning him getting dates IS because he is lacking in the looks department? Maybe it's a personality issue or something else?
OnlyJake Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Im in the car with my best friend and his fiance whos like a sister to me and my single friend.. My single friend out of nowhere goes why dont you set "insert my name* up Awkward silence ensues then she says uhhh *insert my name * is one of a kind,besides we want him to ourselves I just sat there and didnt say anyhting already realizng what shes sayign is im too ugly to be set up.. I dont even want to be set up but the fact that im not evne worhty of it,i must be hideous:sick: Seriously? I read some of your other posts and you sound like you have a pretty cool personality; the low self-esteem pity party just ruined my mental image of you. I never set my friends up with other friends, under any circumstances. It's just awkward. I'm sure it had nothing to do with you being ugly and/or undateable.
Rhythmic Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 SO what. How do you know the same reason for someone questioning him getting dates IS because he is lacking in the looks department? Maybe it's a personality issue or something else? I already answered one of your questions. Answer mine.
Yamaha Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 http://www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/is-it-really-true-that-95-percent-of-single-men-are-undateable-what-are-your-tips-for-avoiding-the-bottom-95
Rhythmic Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/is-it-really-true-that-95-percent-of-single-men-are-undateable-what-are-your-tips-for-avoiding-the-bottom-95 End of thread?
jw90063 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Say you were to come up with reason as to why so many men are undatable, based on LS threads alone. I see one of the main reasons having low confidence or being overly cocky. Then of course there's being incredibly whiny with a poor attitude. I mean look at some of these threads.
boogieboy Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Awkward silence ensues then she says uhhh *insert my name * is one of a kind,besides we want him to ourselves Assuming that they really didnt want to be responsible for setting you up with anyone, you need to confront these "friends" and grill them to find out why they wont set you up with anyone. Theres tons of reasons they wont set you up with anyone: If you are self pitying yourself around them saying woe is me at any time, no one wants a killjoy If you arent fun to hang with if you dont care about the way you dress if you arent hygenic if you keep mentioning an ex If you want people to set you up, you have to picture them selling you to someone, their rep is on the line with their friend. How can they sell "Im undateable and hideous"? You have to have some things going for you, you have to have a can do attitude, you have to have confidence that this person will like you You have to have confidence that your friend will like you for their friend liking you You have to be interesting. How are you supposed to be interesting and fun if youre still on the rebound???? You have to
meerkat stew Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/is-it-really-true-that-95-percent-of-single-men-are-undateable-what-are-your-tips-for-avoiding-the-bottom-95 Man o man, would I love love love to have a date with Dr. Becky. Maybe she would bring her list along on the date and red-pencil me on the checklist as the date progressed. Fascinating and most telling of the standard U.S. female hyper-privileged attitude in the dating pool today. Guys, click through Yamaha's link to Dr. Becky's list. It describes in crystal clarity what is wrong with many U.S. women and our obstacles to finding "a good one." Stop tolerating the HR manager job interview attitude when it rears its head. Walk right out the door. Let them run their checklists on the five cats they have at home. Edited January 9, 2010 by meerkat stew
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