New Again Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 I know there are other appreciation threads out there, but I'm in the mood for another one. So, what's the sweetest and/or most romantic thing someone has done for you? Here's the first one that came to my mind about my current SO: I had been on a business trip near the holidays, and was on my way home. Unfortunately, for this particular trip my company didn't fly me, they made me drive. During a holiday, when everyone else was driving home. On 95, which under good conditions is very similar to a parking lot. All the way down the coast. The trip, which should've taken 7.5-8 hours, ended up taking 13. I was supposed to get home, unpack, relax a little, take care of a couple things, then go over to my bf's...but it kept getting pushed back, obviously. By the time I finally go back to town I just went straight to his place, and I was soooo uptight and just blech! My bf gave me a hug, carried in my bag, and led me upstairs...where he had the tub filled for a bubble bath, a bottle of wine waiting for me, candles lit, and my favorite classical music playing. He said "I know how tense you get after these long trips, and you had a terrible drive, and I want to help you relax." He poured me wine, adjusted the music, gave me a neck and shoulder rub while I soaked in the tub, then left me alone to de-stress. When I got out of the tub he had laid out a tank, sweats and slippers for me, the rest of my clothes were in the washer, and he had fresh sushi, another bottle of wine, Advil and Bengay waiting for me (yeah, I drive stick and need Bengay occasionally in my old age), as well as a DVD. It was perfect, he knew everything I could possibly need or want, and did it all without asking. It was amaaazzing.
RobM Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 I can't think of anything at the moment, but the one thing I would like just once in my life is to get off a flight and have somebody (hopefully my wife) come run up and jump in my arms and hug and kiss me. For some reason I find that so romantic and it's never happened, I always have to go find my bags then drive myself home.
Author New Again Posted December 5, 2009 Author Posted December 5, 2009 I can't think of anything at the moment, but the one thing I would like just once in my life is to get off a flight and have somebody (hopefully my wife) come run up and jump in my arms and hug and kiss me. For some reason I find that so romantic and it's never happened, I always have to go find my bags then drive myself home. That actually is very romantic. When I was younger my dad went on a lot of business trips, and my mom made absolutely sure that for every one we all were at the airport (or just her if we were in school), waiting at the gate (lol clearly this was awhile ago) when he got off the plane, and it was just like you described. I hope that happens for you one day soon.
threebyfate Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 The two things that come to mind was a surprise anniversary weekend trip to a meaningful restaurant out east from the ex-H back when we were married. A flower arrangement was already in the room with all my fave flowers and also, there were tickets to an event, I really wanted to see badly. Also, when my H. shockingly proposed this past V-day, ensuring that he had gotten consent from my parents without ever having met them before and that he bothered to find out my ring size, from my Mom. But New Again, what your b/f did was so incredibly considerate and romantic. He put so much thought into detail, then action. Wow!
InspiredbyYou Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 That actually is very romantic. When I was younger my dad went on a lot of business trips, and my mom made absolutely sure that for every one we all were at the airport (or just her if we were in school), waiting at the gate (lol clearly this was awhile ago) when he got off the plane, and it was just like you described. I hope that happens for you one day soon. I didn't realize how important this was until I experienced it myself. I travel often for work my ex-boyfriend surprised me at the airport with flowers. I almost cried from the joy. I was tired and just couldn't wait to get home to see him. It was so thoughtful of him, I mean I usually get an airport limo paid for by the company but the idea that he thought I would appreciate a ride home with him was so thoughtful and loving it made me melt. He was very thoughtful indeed.
Author New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 The two things that come to mind was a surprise anniversary weekend trip to a meaningful restaurant out east from the ex-H back when we were married. A flower arrangement was already in the room with all my fave flowers and also, there were tickets to an event, I really wanted to see badly. Also, when my H. shockingly proposed this past V-day, ensuring that he had gotten consent from my parents without ever having met them before and that he bothered to find out my ring size, from my Mom. But New Again, what your b/f did was so incredibly considerate and romantic. He put so much thought into detail, then action. Wow! He is pretty fantastic. And the poor guy has to deal with me
dudet Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My bf gave me a hug, carried in my bag, and led me upstairs...where he had the tub filled for a bubble bath, a bottle of wine waiting for me, candles lit, and my favorite classical music playing. He said "I know how tense you get after these long trips, and you had a terrible drive, and I want to help you relax." He poured me wine, adjusted the music, gave me a neck and shoulder rub while I soaked in the tub, then left me alone to de-stress. When I got out of the tub he had laid out a tank, sweats and slippers for me, the rest of my clothes were in the washer, and he had fresh sushi, another bottle of wine, Advil and Bengay waiting for me (yeah, I drive stick and need Bengay occasionally in my old age), as well as a DVD. ah, the extent some guys will go to get laid
Lizzie60 Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 One thing that comes to mind... A MM I met 6 years ago (high profile in the army).. he was in town for business.... staying at a nice hotel... He called me.. sent me a luxurious cab to pick me up.. had some fresh flowers in the room...fancy appetizers.. chocolates.. and champagne.. We drank, ate, chat.. made love.. most of the night.. the same cab was to pick me up at 4 in the morning.. It was a memorable night .. he got scared when I told him what I wanted to do the next time (sexual fantasy).. and refused to see me again..
Author New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 ah, the extent some guys will go to get laid Who cares what their motivation is?
tigressA Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My last boyfriend had come to visit me at school one weekend that fell before Valentine's Day. He had to leave on Valentine's Day, which I was okay with since I had class and he had to work the next day. I left to go to class, and then he left to go home--or so I thought. When I got back from class, there was a single red rose and a really sweet card in my room. He'd run out to get them and then came back when I was in class; two of my housemates told me later they'd let him in.
HokeyPokey Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 (edited) Ex surprised me with a trip to Sicily so I could see where my family came from and visit the town my grandparents grew up in. My other ex deferred grad school so he could move from the states to NZ with me. I've had some surprise flowers, sweets, and even the occasional poem/picture book made in my honor. But by far the most romantic was my college sweetie who bought me an old lamp and a potato for my birthday:love:. I had this obsession for years about testing out this theory that you could safely unscrew a broken light bulb from a socket using half a potato. I mean, this idea crossed my mind on a disturbingly regular basis, but I had never considered trying it myself for some reason. The potato nor the relationship worked, but there is nothing more romantic than someone who not only accepts your freakishness, but fully supports it as well. Edited December 6, 2009 by HokeyPokey
GiveAndTake Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My BF does many romantic things for me all of the time but this one comes to mind at the moment. When we first started dating, I went to tune the radio in his car and he said, here sweety, your favorite station is on the first button and he pushed it. I didn't even know that he knew my favorite station!!! How sweet is that?
Author New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 My BF does many romantic things for me all of the time but this one comes to mind at the moment. When we first started dating, I went to tune the radio in his car and he said, here sweety, your favorite station is on the first button and he pushed it. I didn't even know that he knew my favorite station!!! How sweet is that? It's the little thoughtful, yet practical, things like that that I loooove hearing about! My bf's taste in music is the complete opposite of mine. When we first started getting serious I changed three or four of the presets on my Sirius radio to stations that play the music he likes.
Samari Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My girlfriend baked me cookies for Valentine's Day. This was around the time we first met only a couple of weeks earlier. Wasn't expecting anything that early since we weren't "official" yet at the time (until later that night).
Awesome Username Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I was Wonder Woman one Halloween; totally decked out with a rental costume and I had really dark hair that year. We went to Castro (basically a hundred thousand people in costumes roaming around the city, looking at each other's costumes) and I remember being kind of annoyed at the people I was with including my boyfriend at the time, because they were being really negative for no reason. Then some drunk bro came up to me randomly and put his arm around me. My boyfriend at the time just point blank punched him in the face and kept on walking with me, like nothing happened. This brightened my mood instantly and I doubt a lot of guys would have the balls to do that. There were a few other things that were romantic like a guy riding on his bike at 2am as fast as he could to save me from a weirdo on my street, another guy cleaning my house, etc. but the crowning glory was the punch in the bro's face.
Art_Critic Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My bf gave me a hug, carried in my bag, and led me upstairs...where he had the tub filled for a bubble bath, a bottle of wine waiting for me, candles lit, and my favorite classical music playing. He said "I know how tense you get after these long trips, and you had a terrible drive, and I want to help you relax." He poured me wine, adjusted the music, gave me a neck and shoulder rub while I soaked in the tub, then left me alone to de-stress. When I got out of the tub he had laid out a tank, sweats and slippers for me, the rest of my clothes were in the washer, and he had fresh sushi, another bottle of wine, Advil and Bengay waiting for me (yeah, I drive stick and need Bengay occasionally in my old age), as well as a DVD. Let me guess.. then you woke up.. right ? Seriously.. he takes the prize on most romantic.. Nobody can beat that...
Author New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Let me guess.. then you woke up.. right ? No, then he announced he needed to go take a dump, the sushi was wrecking havoc on his tummy Seriously.. he takes the prize on most romantic.. Nobody can beat that... Actually, yesterday I was thinking about something ridiculously romantic my friend's bf did for her (similar to TBF's post; this guy planned an entire surprise weekend trip that involved a fancy hotel, Broadway tickets, etc.), and I thought, "That's like something out of a romance novel, that almost never happens in real life, where do guys like him come from?" And then I started thinking about all the sweet/romantic things my bf has done, and was like "Oh hey, that's like something out of a romance novel, where did I find this one?" Things like that are really not the norm though - he didn't even plan anything for Valentine's Day last year, which I would have expected.
jw90063 Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I know there are other appreciation threads out there, but I'm in the mood for another one. So, what's the sweetest and/or most romantic thing someone has done for you? Here's the first one that came to my mind about my current SO: I had been on a business trip near the holidays, and was on my way home. Unfortunately, for this particular trip my company didn't fly me, they made me drive. During a holiday, when everyone else was driving home. On 95, which under good conditions is very similar to a parking lot. All the way down the coast. The trip, which should've taken 7.5-8 hours, ended up taking 13. I was supposed to get home, unpack, relax a little, take care of a couple things, then go over to my bf's...but it kept getting pushed back, obviously. By the time I finally go back to town I just went straight to his place, and I was soooo uptight and just blech! My bf gave me a hug, carried in my bag, and led me upstairs...where he had the tub filled for a bubble bath, a bottle of wine waiting for me, candles lit, and my favorite classical music playing. He said "I know how tense you get after these long trips, and you had a terrible drive, and I want to help you relax." He poured me wine, adjusted the music, gave me a neck and shoulder rub while I soaked in the tub, then left me alone to de-stress. When I got out of the tub he had laid out a tank, sweats and slippers for me, the rest of my clothes were in the washer, and he had fresh sushi, another bottle of wine, Advil and Bengay waiting for me (yeah, I drive stick and need Bengay occasionally in my old age), as well as a DVD. It was perfect, he knew everything I could possibly need or want, and did it all without asking. It was amaaazzing. Wow. I wish I could say my previous BF was that romantic. If he had been that romantic, I might have died of shock. That is very romantic and thoughtful of him to do those things for you.
Author New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Wow. I wish I could say my previous BF was that romantic. If he had been that romantic, I might have died of shock. That is very romantic and thoughtful of him to do those things for you. That's a rare occurance for my bf to do things to that extent - he is not a planner at alllllll...he likes leaving those things to others, which is probably why he's dating me. He likes for someone to just tell him when and where to show up....and if you ask him to bring something, you can count on him to stop on the way there to get it, and show up 20 minutes late!
Ms. Joolie Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I can't think of anything at the moment, but the one thing I would like just once in my life is to get off a flight and have somebody (hopefully my wife) come run up and jump in my arms and hug and kiss me. For some reason I find that so romantic and it's never happened, I always have to go find my bags then drive myself home. I make the mistake of thinking romance is about romantic gestures, as in the giving of flowers, a bubble bath for two, candlelight, gifts (small or large), intimate settings over dinner or a glass of wine or a walk on the beach, etc... that kind of thing. You know, those cliches of romance. But I like your picture of romance so much better! What you want is for someone to be there for you and share a moment together instead of being alone. That is your picture of romance. That is what I need to think of romance as from now on. It's about that special moment together. After you get that, the gestures will be easier, more authentic, creative, and even personalized. Romance is about sharing the moment. That's what I get from this thread.
threebyfate Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 You realize that being greeted lovingly at a gate, is a classic cliche scene in many Hollywood chick flicks, don't you? I think everyone has a slightly different version of what they consider romance or a romantic gesture(s). That's why it's important to find someone who has similar views or as they say, speaks the same language of love. Otherwise, romantic gestures are either misunderstood or just, plain not appreciated.
Ms. Joolie Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 You realize that being greeted lovingly at a gate, is a classic cliche scene in many Hollywood chick flicks, don't you? I think everyone has a slightly different version of what they consider romance or a romantic gesture(s). That's why it's important to find someone who has similar views or as they say, speaks the same language of love. Otherwise, romantic gestures are either misunderstood or just, plain not appreciated. ahhh.... ok. Good point. Okay then... Romance is sharing the moment in the same language of love. lol
Boundary Problem Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 ahhh.... ok. Good point. Okay then... Romance is sharing the moment in the same language of love. lol I agree with this. The best romance kinda sneaks up on you. Like when you realize you are being romanced, and you didn't see it until it was too late. Romance can be very very subtle (well it appears subtle to us non-romantics). It has nothing to do with Hallmark cards.
Ms. Joolie Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Romance can be very very subtle (well it appears subtle to us non-romantics). It is very subtle to us non-romantics! I've been non-romantic my whole life, not sharing those moments, and not speaking any language of love. Not that I don't believe in love, or didn't love, but I could never get around to the expression of romance in love, or the sharing of a romantic relationship. That being said, the most romantic thing a guy has done for me is persevere in hoping for a romantic relationship with me for three years. I never gave it to him because I was a clueless romantic, but toward the end he was the one who made me understand what a romantic relationship is actually about. He gave me the gift of a romantic relationship, and I never had a clue until he was gone. There's always sex, there are always friends, and there's always fun... but romance in my life - and romantic relationships - are something I'm just waking up to.
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