Need help moving things forward

[jcs]

Hello all. Been browsing through the sight and there is some really good advice out there so im looking for some help with my situation.

My ex broke up with me ten months ago after dating for two years, saying that she just didnt feel the same way anymore. She was my first serious relationship and I took her virginity. We were both college freshmen at the time of the breakup and had very busy scheduals so we couldnt spend as much time together as we would have liked, which in my mind was the main cause of the split.

 

In the begginning I begged her to come back as many others have with no result. I then tried to move on and began seeing another girl four months after the breakup. When my ex found out she got me to end things with the other girl saying that she still loved me but just needed some time. That night we kissed a few times but haven't since then. When she did not seem to be making an effort to working things out I broke off contact with her for two months. Once we began to talk again we hungout once a week or so just as friends. We are on friendly terms still hanging out every couple weeks and talking a few times a week, although I am usually the one to initiate contact. A month or so ago we went to a party together and she was being very touchy feely and made a point of showing other girls that I was there with her. She is a very jelous person. Also a few weeks ago she asked if i had been with anyone else since we were apart and told me that she hadnt been. She has also told me that at times she does want to get back together and that she regrets many of the things she did after the breakup. We haven't talked about what she wants or how shes feeling about the situation in about 3 months i'm trying my best not to pressure her she only tells me about it when shes been drinking. She wants to go to a movie, would it be a bad idea to try and hold her hand during and kiss her goodnight? It bothers me that I am the one who has to initiate contact and ask her to hangout, however she has been very busy with school latley. She is my first love and I really want to work things out with her, she is a truley amazing girl. How do I move things forward with her?

 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Edited November 24, 2009 by jcs

[Jonboy101]

Well to be honest, it sounds like things could go either way, if you want her, then go for her. Seriously it doesn't sound like anyone has really DONE anything wrong here. I would just be asking myself "Do i want her because i really miss our relationship?, or is it just an emotional/physical tie that i would be better off breaking to move on in my life".

 

If it is more because you feel lonely and just want to be with her, than trust me you are doing yourself a favour by letting this one go. But if you honestly care about her and enjoyed the most part of the relationship, then go for it buddy. Just remember, women dig confidence, so have a great time, look her in the eye and tell her what you want, the rest will work itself out. Eye of the Tiger jcs, Eye of the Tiger...

[jcs]

Thanks jonboy, I will go for it, I really miss the relationship. Christmas break is coming up so that will give us more time to spend together and hopefully things will workout.