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Thebob Established Member

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I just don't get why girls go through this phase where they can't be absolutely honest with you and tell you what there intentions are from the get-go. Maybe they don't see that far in to the future and they don't even know what there going to do next. They just go with the flow, I have noticed this with so many girls that my buddies have dated or broken up with cause the girls say one thing and do the exact opposite. I feel guys look farther in to the future and don't base everything on emotion, they make the future decisions through how they feel right now. Girls just go off the lust, and go off the feelings of the other person at that point in time, but it can change within a day, and My ex proved that. Also many other relationships that have broken up due to stupid bickering and lieing from the females, of course this can be said for guys but I haven't really witnessed it with guys. If guys say one thing that is messed up, then the outlook from the girl is down and negativity starts arousing towards that person. I'm sorry if this is a wrong assessment, but this is what I have noticed throughout my life with the female species. So don't be mad at me females on this page, I'm just ranting in general cause my ex is a dumb*ss and so are the other 30 I know that my buddies have broken up with.

 

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I just don't get why girls go through this phase where they can't be absolutely honest with you and tell you what there intentions are from the get-go. Maybe they don't see that far in to the future and they don't even know what there going to do next. They just go with the flow, I have noticed this with so many girls that my buddies have dated or broken up with cause the girls say one thing and do the exact opposite. I feel guys look farther in to the future and don't base everything on emotion, they make the future decisions through how they feel right now. Girls just go off the lust, and go off the feelings of the other person at that point in time, but it can change within a day, and My ex proved that. Also many other relationships that have broken up due to stupid bickering and lieing from the females, of course this can be said for guys but I haven't really witnessed it with guys. If guys say one thing that is messed up, then the outlook from the girl is down and negativity starts arousing towards that person. I'm sorry if this is a wrong assessment, but this is what I have noticed throughout my life with the female species. So don't be mad at me females on this page, I'm just ranting in general cause my ex is a dumb*ss and so are the other 30 I know that my buddies have broken up with.

 

Thebob

 

If I can be a sexist pig...

I think women are generally more social creature. As a results they learn the skills of obfuscation as a way to preserve relationships. This is helpful when keeping a large group together but often detrimental in one on one relationships. It take maturity to understand this. Some never do because they like the power it offers them.

 

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I just don't get why girls go through this phase where they can't be absolutely honest with you and tell you what there intentions are from the get-go. Maybe they don't see that far in to the future and they don't even know what there going to do next. They just go with the flow, I have noticed this with so many girls that my buddies have dated or broken up with cause the girls say one thing and do the exact opposite. I feel guys look farther in to the future and don't base everything on emotion, they make the future decisions through how they feel right now. Girls just go off the lust, and go off the feelings of the other person at that point in time, but it can change within a day, and My ex proved that. Also many other relationships that have broken up due to stupid bickering and lieing from the females, of course this can be said for guys but I haven't really witnessed it with guys. If guys say one thing that is messed up, then the outlook from the girl is down and negativity starts arousing towards that person. I'm sorry if this is a wrong assessment, but this is what I have noticed throughout my life with the female species. So don't be mad at me females on this page, I'm just ranting in general cause my ex is a dumb*ss and so are the other 30 I know that my buddies have broken up with.

 

Thebob

 

A lot of it is age dependent, but some girls do this their entire lives.

 

Don't listen to what a girl says, watch instead what she does.

sean1970 Established Member

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Don't listen to what a girl says, watch instead what she does.

 

Still hurts to remember this... Found out ex had a match.com profile shortly after the breakup and daily breadcrumb feedings... When I confronted her with it, "I'm not actively looking to date, just seeing what is out there."

 

And I still wanted her back... Jesus....

mickleb Established Member

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Please be aware that this is ridonkulous.

 

Thank you.

TheLoneSock Established Member

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Please be aware that this is ridonkulous.

 

Thank you.

 

If it's rediculous, but true, then it is not rediculous. :laugh:

mickleb Established Member

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It is ridiculous because it is a very limited perspective.

 

Yes, a girl may hum and har a bit about whether she likes a fella before getting involved with him. That is because women are attracted to men's minds (more than their bodies, generally). Sometimes a man's mind can be quite brilliant. The next day he can say something quite tedious and the spell can be broken. It is also because she is avoiding being a slag. (Men can find a stupid word or two from a woman enough to get that 'sinking feeling', too. Obv.) So, we (humans) really don't necessarily know what we want 'from the get-go'.

 

How many men have I met who 'appear' to know what they want for the future, only to do the complete opposite for whatever random reason pops up one day/week? Meh-hany.

 

And do some men 'make out' like they want to be with a girl when they want to be doing her (so they were never honest in the first place) and don't 'base everything on emotion' but sex? Yes. Some do.

 

And are some relationships ended because of some men who have bickered and lied, generally? Yes.

 

It is ridonkulous. Stop being silly. Start appreciating that there are some differences between the sexes - read up about why this is the case, it will help with any feelings of pain and cynicism - and realise that both men and women, for the most part, are really lovely creatures who mean each other no harm.

 

That is my opinion. I just couldn't look on whilst another why are women so.../why are men such... type thread got out of control. We are, ultimately and predominately, individuals.

 

Thank you.

mickleb Established Member

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I haven't looked at that, McG but as a 37 year-old woman, I'm just going to say... FOR F*U*C*K*S SAKE!!! :rollseyesaLOT:

GrayClouds Established Member

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It is ridiculous because it is a very limited perspective.

 

Yes, a girl may hum and har a bit about whether she likes a fella before getting involved with him. That is because women are attracted to men's minds (more than their bodies, generally). Sometimes a man's mind can be quite brilliant. The next day he can say something quite tedious and the spell can be broken. It is also because she is avoiding being a slag. (Men can find a stupid word or two from a woman enough to get that 'sinking feeling', too. Obv.) So, we (humans) really don't necessarily know what we want 'from the get-go'.

 

How many men have I met who 'appear' to know what they want for the future, only to do the complete opposite for whatever random reason pops up one day/week? Meh-hany.

 

And do some men 'make out' like they want to be with a girl when they want to be doing her (so they were never honest in the first place) and don't 'base everything on emotion' but sex? Yes. Some do.

 

And are some relationships ended because of some men who have bickered and lied, generally? Yes.

 

It is ridonkulous. Stop being silly. Start appreciating that there are some differences between the sexes - read up about why this is the case, it will help with any feelings of pain and cynicism - and realise that both men and women, for the most part, are really lovely creatures who mean each other no harm.

 

That is my opinion. I just couldn't look on whilst another why are women so.../why are men such... type thread got out of control. We are, ultimately and predominately, individuals.

 

Thank you.

 

WHY ARE WOMAN SO..................................much smarter then men?

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WHY ARE WOMAN SO..................................much smarter then men?

 

They think they are, and that we don't catch on.

 

Thebob

sally4sara Established Member

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Lets play a little game! I'm going to put the word "Hispanic" where the OP put words like "women/girls/females" and the Word "Asians" where the OP used words like "men/guys/males". No real reason as to why I chose these two ethnic groups other than that they are recognized as different from each other. Lets see how this goes! :)

 

I just don't get why Hispanics go through this phase where they can't be absolutely honest with you and tell you what there intentions are from the get-go. Maybe they don't see that far in to the future and they don't even know what there going to do next. They just go with the flow, I have noticed this with so many Hispanics that my buddies have dated or broken up with cause the Hispanics say one thing and do the exact opposite. I feel Asians look farther in to the future and don't base everything on emotion, they make the future decisions through how they feel right now. Hispanics just go off the lust, and go off the feelings of the other person at that point in time, but it can change within a day, and My ex proved that. Also many other relationships that have broken up due to stupid bickering and lieing from the Hispanics, of course this can be said for Asians but I haven't really witnessed it with Asians. If Asians say one thing that is messed up, then the outlook from the Hispanic is down and negativity starts arousing towards that person. I'm sorry if this is a wrong assessment, but this is what I have noticed throughout my life with the Hispanic species. So don't be mad at me Hispanics on this page, I'm just ranting in general cause my ex is a dumb*ss and so are the other 30 I know that my buddies have broken up with.

 

Of course you haven't witnessed this so much with guys as you don't date them. The irrational and conflicting things men do are not so obvious to you because you're the one doing these things and not the one having them done to you. One of the ways you can begin to see outside of yourself is to read up on some simple biology.

 

Like here:

the female species

Upon looking a bit closer at biology, you find that there is no "female species". Men and women (of any ethnicity) are the same species.

 

The next step is to read up on some simple history and psychology. In doing so, you will see many examples of different personalities and how they act and react at different stages of their maturity. We also have horrible, seriously cruel people of both genders through all of human history. As well, many times our lives have been helped by both genders during our history as a species.

Perhaps then you will be able to see that

 

1. You have to take some responsibility here. If all you find yourself dating is lying, dumb a$$ girls who change their minds all the time, you need to find out what it is about you and your penis that attracts lying, dumb a$$ girls who change their minds all the time. Once you do, you can change that and perhaps you will attract a different kind of women.

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2. We tend to see what we think we will find. Your way of thinking is very similar to the way a bigot thinks (see my example of your words only using two different ethnic groups). If you feel hateful towards a group without rational thought, you breed the kind of associations you have with that group of people and perpetuate it further by not recognizing the attitude you contributed to the situation. You are, in other words, focusing so much on the actions of one group to not be able to see the actions of yourself.

 

Good luck is your future endeavors. I hope this helps you.

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Boundary Problem Established Member

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im reading this (from the divorced and sepration page)

 

looks like committed women are all cheaters at some point...pgs. 3-12 are the goods

 

 

 

False

 

False

 

False

mickleb Established Member

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I do have to add, McG, that I took a quick look at that little thesis and found it was issued by the Psycology School of Codfish.

 

This, alone, was a warning:

 

The author is not a professional researcher in any of these fields herself. She relates that, after four years of happy marriage and shortly after her 27th birthday, she began to feel bored and unhappy for no apparent reason.

 

And it didn't end there.

 

Just wanted to say, don't start getting depressed about bad science. x

nobmagnet Established Member

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ouch!!

 

It isnt always the case!!!!!!! but i do get your point that women think differently to men. Its all about communication skills and learning to effectivly communicate with the opposit sex is very difficult. I do beleive however with investment in listening and asking thecorrect questions like" you know when you did that it made me feel like this"

HeavenOrHell Established Member

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Well from my perspective, my ex (male) said one thing and did another, I think females are more likely to look far into the future, he certainly didn't. We had no stupid bickering, I've never lied to him.

 

 

I just don't get why girls go through this phase where they can't be absolutely honest with you and tell you what there intentions are from the get-go. Maybe they don't see that far in to the future and they don't even know what there going to do next. They just go with the flow, I have noticed this with so many girls that my buddies have dated or broken up with cause the girls say one thing and do the exact opposite. I feel guys look farther in to the future and don't base everything on emotion, they make the future decisions through how they feel right now. Girls just go off the lust, and go off the feelings of the other person at that point in time, but it can change within a day, and My ex proved that. Also many other relationships that have broken up due to stupid bickering and lieing from the females, of course this can be said for guys but I haven't really witnessed it with guys. If guys say one thing that is messed up, then the outlook from the girl is down and negativity starts arousing towards that person. I'm sorry if this is a wrong assessment, but this is what I have noticed throughout my life with the female species. So don't be mad at me females on this page, I'm just ranting in general cause my ex is a dumb*ss and so are the other 30 I know that my buddies have broken up with.

 

Thebob

HeavenOrHell Established Member

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I have done the the same thing, I have put profiles up, although I have stated just want friends, BUT I will not be ready for a hell of a long time to be with anyone else, seriously, it turns my stomach, and I also just wanted to see what's out there, seeing as I've been out of the dating game for 18 years!

Just saying, that for me being on those profiles does not mean I want to be with anyone else for a long time.

 

 

 

Still hurts to remember this... Found out ex had a match.com profile shortly after the breakup and daily breadcrumb feedings... When I confronted her with it, "I'm not actively looking to date, just seeing what is out there."

 

And I still wanted her back... Jesus....

HeavenOrHell Established Member

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Men and women are equally likely to cheat, you can't say ALL women are this or that just cos a woman or women might have done it to you! I would have thought men were more likely to cheat as they maybe less likely to think emotionally about what they are doing. But, I shouldn't generalise.

 

 

im reading this (from the divorced and sepration page)

 

looks like committed women are all cheaters at some point...pgs. 3-12 are the goods

 

http://www.theoccidentalquarterly.com/archives/vol7no2/v7no2_Devlin.pdf

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