leap83 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 So for days now, I was having this talk with myself "Should I? Shouldn't I? Maybe. No. Yes." I was wondering whether it was too early to send a "Happy Thanksgiving" e-mail to my ex. About 3 weeks passed since the last time we've spoken, so my brain kept telling me it's way too early to be "friendly". But my heart kept telling me "Send it. Send it. Send it." So after being wrapped up in trying to figure out how to open up a flower shop today, this very great thing overwhelmed me and I stopped, looked at my flowers and went "I'm always warm-hearted... I'm a better person and I want to send the e-mail." So I did. And he replied. Right away. With a longer msg. However, I can't really decipher what he meant by the quote he wrote. It was a weird quote. And I don't know what to make of it. I'm not trying to read too much into it but isn't Thanksgiving the time when everyone is happy and the family gets together? Sort of like Christmas? The quote he sent me was from the Bible but it was a sad one (?). I find it weird he would send me that particular quote as a "gift" for Thanksgiving. Any opinions as to why he would send something like that?
GrayClouds Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 So for days now, I was having this talk with myself "Should I? Shouldn't I? Maybe. No. Yes." I was wondering whether it was too early to send a "Happy Thanksgiving" e-mail to my ex. About 3 weeks passed since the last time we've spoken, so my brain kept telling me it's way too early to be "friendly". But my heart kept telling me "Send it. Send it. Send it." So after being wrapped up in trying to figure out how to open up a flower shop today, this very great thing overwhelmed me and I stopped, looked at my flowers and went "I'm always warm-hearted... I'm a better person and I want to send the e-mail." So I did. And he replied. Right away. With a longer msg. However, I can't really decipher what he meant by the quote he wrote. It was a weird quote. And I don't know what to make of it. I'm not trying to read too much into it but isn't Thanksgiving the time when everyone is happy and the family gets together? Sort of like Christmas? The quote he sent me was from the Bible but it was a sad one (?). I find it weird he would send me that particular quote as a "gift" for Thanksgiving. Any opinions as to why he would send something like that? So what was the quote?
Author leap83 Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Ummm this "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."
Exit Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I remember you saying you definitely didn't want him back, and you were only going to contact him when you felt ready for a friendship. Now you've gone and sent this email and now you're trying to decipher his cryptic response and try to find hope in his message. Why would you do that to yourself?
Odyssey Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Exit, my guess is, she's living in hope. You remember that glimmer don't ya It's her life...
Kaya Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 We don't do thanksgiving where I live, but yes, the quote doesn't seem very "thanksgiving'ly". It is rather cryptic, maybe he is just feeling sad? I don't know. But you do know that it's pointless trying to decipher it, it will just drive you nuts. One little "I miss you" in an email, sent me around the "hanging onto hope" bend for week. Glad to hear you're feeling good about sending the email though.
NSW768 Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 first off, is it me or is thanksgiving not for 6-7 weeks? 2nd off i was you a month ago. ex's b-day. had a cordial and happy convo. felt on cloud 9 for 3 days. then the depression and everything came back and i was back to square one. its like a drug. you got your hit. u feel good now. but u are back to sqaure one and ull realize this in a day or 2. sorry
Author leap83 Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 No. I have no hope in us getting back together. I sent this e-mail because I FELT I was ready for friendship and I AM ready for it. Now, this e-mail wasn't sent only to him; it was sent to some of my friends, professors, supervisors, etc. So, it wasn't a msg specifically sent to HIM. The only reason why I'm asking this is because the message seemed sad. I'm not looking for "I miss you" or anything remotely close. However, his msg seemed sad. He seemed sad. I have this tendency to worry about people more than myself and when someone replies like that (no matter who it is), I wonder why they're sad during the times when they should be happy. Btw, it's Thanksgiving in Canada. Exit: Not looking for hope. Looking for friendship. Not living in cloud nine. I didn't care whether he responded or not. I sent it because I wanted to wish him and his family happy Holy Day season. Nothing wrong with that. He replied with a sad e-mail. Not MY fault. I only asked if the quote seems "sad" to you all or is it just me?! Am I imagining and want him to be sad or is the quote sort of off the tangent? That's all I asked.
Author leap83 Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 And I feel good not because of him replying but because I sent the darn thing. I also feel happy because I met someone, because my room is in order now, my flowers are growing, it's a beautiful day and now I'm going to cook some very good food and eat. I felt like this since I woke up. Why on Earth would I decide to open up a flower shop if I were depressed?! LOOOL... I feel absolutely fabulous. And this time, it's not because of him. But because I AM where I want to be. I am living my life. It's incredible.
Kaya Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 That's great leap! All the best with your flower shop plans!
Odyssey Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." I only asked if the quote seems "sad" to you all or is it just me?! Am I imagining and want him to be sad or is the quote sort of off the tangent? That's all I asked. Yeah, i think it's kinda sad too. It's like saying, life has enough problems without adding more to it by worrying. It simply says, don't worry. Then again i'm judging this out of context and it could have a totally different meaning. What's your take on this, folks?
Author leap83 Posted October 12, 2009 Author Posted October 12, 2009 Which, to add to your statement Odyssey, is kind of a weird reply to my "happy thanksgiving to you and your family" :S. It's like he's trying to tell me, indirectly, that he is not okay... and he called me by my nickname too - which I find odd... Now you're all going to go and say "Why do you care?!" Well, wouldn't you care if your friend said something like that? You would be like "What is wrong? Are you okay? Is everything okay? Talk with me." No? Or is it just me? It's kind of hard to explain because he's an ex too but he's a friend as well. I replied to him and said "Thanks for that. Hope all is well with you. ;)"
PinkToes Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 I think, if I were in your shoes, I'd ask him. You know the guy as well as anyone, and if it strikes you as odd, I'd be very curious about what was up. Sounds like you're doing well, and I'm glad you followed your heart and included him in your message. Oops. I just read your last post. Never mind!
Author leap83 Posted October 13, 2009 Author Posted October 13, 2009 Yeah. Too late now to ask if everything is alright. Oh well... What can you do? That's life. Got to roll with it. If he wants to talk, he can call.
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